It's just bull->-bleeped-<-. Whatever. RIP hon.

Whilst I did not know Nero personally or ever talk to him this saddens me deeply. I have read some of his posts and he seemed like a very intellectual, caring, and great person. I'm sure he has helped many and has contributed to the community vastly. My condolences go out to his family and anyone who is grieving over the loss of him. Farewell...

I didn't know him personally. May he rest in peace and positive thoughts and prayers to his family and friends.

Oh no...  God, no...  FA... Nero...this news, was not the first I wanted to see, with the site back up..   I am sad, beyond words.  Dearest brother.  Tho we conversed little, I read into your soul, thru your cries here.  I can not begin to fathom the pain you have felt all this time.  Your heart, your wisdom and your warmth, your humor, your joys and your sorrows you shared with us. You kept the peace, tho there was turmoil within.  You kept us in line, tho you were wavering yourself. 

We might say, we understand.  We might say, we could have helped.  We might ask, how could you take yourself from those that love you.  But we will not understand, we might not have helped, but we would have tried.  And we will be angry, that you left us. 

But Love is what we had for you.  Compassion, is what we felt for you.  Sadness, and sorrow, is what we feel, that we could not be there.  To help, when you needed it most.  Rest well, my weary brother.  May you be numbered, among Gods angels. In a place of Light, where there is no pain, nor, sorrow, nor mourning.

Just.. sad beyond words.

wow, I am in shock. I don't know what to say. Farewell. A real friend to non-binary folks.

My condolences.

*lights candle*

I'm sorry to hear of his passing. I never interacted with him personally, but I have read many of his posts. It is sad to see somebody who has done so much for this community, and the world really pass. I will be keeping his family in my thoughts.

I was so happy the site was back up but now... I thought many times about PMing him. I was sort of in awe of him and never really worked up the nerve. I wanted to know him. I could tell he was struggling with stuff. This is such a great loss.

My thoughts go out to his family and that includes those of you here who have grown close.

gobsmacked. so sad.
heartfelt condolences to his family.

The backup seems to have eaten my post. I gotta be a part of this thread though.

I didn't interact with Nero a lot. He sent the following to me once as part of a PM that I never replied to and I think I'm regretting my absentmindedness:

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I like your posts. 

And I liked yours Nero. I'll miss em' and you. Godspeed.

Quote from: learningtolive on July 14, 2014, 06:07:57 PMNero was one of the members that I remember before joining.  I used to lurk back in 2008-2009 when I was initially planning my transitioning.  Even though I didn't join here until 2013 and start my transition until that time, he was one of the members that helped me despite us not knowing one another.  I read his posts and for some reason it made me feel better to know that there is a way to make it past transition drama.  Thank you for that, Nero.  And I know I'm not the only one who feels this way.

This also applies to me (almost) word-for-word (I lurked here for many years, but could not admit anything to myself until 2013). 

I read many posts by FA before finding out he was the same FatAdmin whose words I had been reading for years.

The tears welling up are partly for the loss, but, since I never made an opportunity to speak with Nero personally, also for fear that death may once again seem like the only way out for me.

P may have removed my depression, but that just allows me a little strength to navigate some of the many terrifying moments that I need to face.  It does not remove the fear.

Nero's posts have been a rock with which to steady myself.  I will miss seeing him here.

Quote from: TessaMarie on July 15, 2014, 12:07:06 AM
 
The tears welling up are partly for the loss, but, since I never made an opportunity to speak with Nero personally, also for fear that death may once again seem like the only way out for me.

No sweet pea, that is not an option. 

You contact me ANY TIME you want to.  I look at this site constantly from about 5 pm to midnight Pacific time.  And I know without a doubt that any of the ladies here would ask you to do the same.

You have a right to be who you are and no one can take that away.  Are there challenges?  You bet.  Every lady here has a story or two they could share about the mountains they have faced in their road. 

You have been blessed with a uniqueness that only a few share.  Smile and know that you are not alone.

Dani

 I know I haven't posted much here I do read most of the posts. From the posts I read from him he was a gliding light to a lot of people here. We will miss you Nero.
Like many others I am fighting back tears at reading this.

R.I.P. Nero

So very, very sad.  FA you kept us sane and secure with your care and support. You are such a loss, but we are the richer for having known you. 

Aisla

T_T

Although I never interacted much with him directly, I always found his posts insightful.  I am going to miss his presence here.

My heartfelt condolences to his family - you raised a fine gentleman.

Luna

A sad day indeed, may he rest in peace.

Quote from: christopher on July 14, 2014, 11:35:29 PM
I thought many times about PMing him. I was sort of in awe of him and never really worked up the nerve.

Never feel shy about contacting the staff, we are all ordinary everyday (reasonably) unscary people and appreciate hearing from members... makes the job all that more worthwhile.

Quote from: Ms Grace on July 15, 2014, 07:16:36 AM
Never feel shy about contacting the staff, we are all ordinary everyday (reasonably) unscary people and appreciate hearing from members... makes the job all that more worthwhile.

You know Ms Grace. I would like to thank all of the staff members from Susan all the way across the board for helping, listening, providing a safe place for us and everything else you guys do. A big thanks.

And a big thanks for Nero that hepled so many along the way.

I couldn't get onto the site yesterday.  Today I did get on, and found this horrible news.  Sadness does not begin to convey the feeling of loss.  The interactions I had with FA were beneficial.

RIP Brother, you will be sorely missed.


Erin

I didn't know him personally but enjoyed and learned from reading his posts and the discussions they started. Condolences to his family and friends.