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Thought I didn't want bottom surgery, but it changed after being on T... common?

Started by solexander, July 25, 2014, 11:49:46 PM

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solexander

Something I thought when I was first starting to transition was that I didn't wanna get bottom surgery... I always figured phalloplasty wasn't really for me because of the costs and the results not being ideal for my situation, and I never looked too much at metoidioplasty (spelling? shrugs). But then, after I had been on testosterone for a while, I discovered that I do desire some kind of bottom surgery, even maybe just a clitoral release. Is this kind of thing common at all? I always thought I'd just want top surgery, but apparently, nope.





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nikkie

It happens. From what I've been reading on the forums and watching youtube videos, peoples opinions change. We are human and its part of "living". Having options is nice so just do what feels right for you. :)


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Skyler

  I've always wanted top surgery and then didn't want bottom surgery...then i wanted it..now i'm like mehhhh...not really sure what I want tbh.  My sexuality has also been changing when coming out as trans*, always liked guys then switched to males +, non binary,andro, pangender etc etc...to also not minding females :)...its just apart of life. Its ever changeing
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violethaze

I think that at the very beginning, a lot of people don't have the mental bandwidth to think about bottom surgery - need to worry about all the things that are immediately visible first. When those things are dealt with, there's a bit more mental space to think about the parts that most people never see.

I think I would feel a much greater *need* for bottom surgery if I had any interest in being sexual, but I don't, so it's a source of discomfort but I don't have to worry about someone else seeing it or it getting in the way of being close to someone.
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aleon515

I have had the same process. Well not from T, but top surgery. After top surgery, now I have more lower dysphoria because when I look down I don't see a guy the lower half of me while my upper half looks male.
I think there is a process you go thru, which is different for different people. But I'm not at all surprised by anything that happens anymore in my transition. :)

--Jay
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OreSama

Until recently I didn't want any surgery, but then I started to think about it and I realized that I would rather have a micropenis than a vagina.  Well, I'm still not going to be able to for a few years so it's just something I think about and research.
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Proton

Same here. I knew I wanted T from the get-go, but I was certain I didn't want bottom surgery. I'm still not 100% what would be the best path for me, but I know I have a lot more bottom dysphoria than I had a few years ago.

Felix

I was like that. I didn't actually even want hormones at first, just wanted to get top surgery and change my name and be sort of androgynous, but after hitting major milestones I often revise my opinion on seeking further changes. I do want meta at least and maybe urethral hookup. I'm not concerned about having to use my hands to facilitate peeing, because I've already experienced a busted pelvis that rearranged my guts enough that I've been urinating unconventionally for a long time. Bottom surgery doesn't seem urgent for me yet though.

I agree with all the comments that everybody is different and this is very much an ongoing process.
everybody's house is haunted
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beaver

After being on T for almost 4 months, while my face is really starting to look good to me, and my upper body is getting to a more desired shape, I feel waves of panic looking down at my lower half. Even though I'm pre-op, my chest doesn't hold much dysphoria, mostly cuz I know I'll get top surgery one day. But bottom...man everytime I'm just like "what am I going to do about that". Plainly put, I look like a woman from the belly button down, and I can barely look at myself without underwear on (even if I don't see a bulge, at least it's not in plain view). This only started happening about 2 months ago, and I've always only entertained the ideas of bottom surgery, like it would be nice to have but maybe not a necessity. Now I am seriously considering phalloplasty, because metoidioplasty might not cut it for me at this point. I think everyone goes through these kind of processes in their transition. It is definitely not just you.
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