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Hmm... If You'd rather not have sex with him, and you're thinking of inviting him over, with just you and him being in the house.. it can be quite a challenge lol
Maybe move meeting at each other's places in time, and just hang out in public places
Good luck!

You could... I dont know... try something crazy? Like maybe talk to him about it?

Men can think an invite to your place for coffee is an invite for sex..

Establish some boundaries, well beforehand.

And here I was hoping you were going to give some dating advice, Emily!

Sounds like you might like this guy? Maybe give yourself the time and space for you both to get to know each other. If you feel being alone with him might make you vulnerable to advances you are not ready for yet then you should avoid those situations. Good luck and stay safe!

Quote from: ♡ Emily ♡ on July 29, 2014, 02:33:30 AMWhen would be the most appropriate time to invite a guy to my place? And if I did - would he immediately assume that there is more to it (which is actually not) and starting acting?

Once you know him well enough to know for sure whether he would interpret it as an invitation, and to know for sure that violence would be out of the question.

Does he know already? Well just tell him before that you are not planning on doing anything so that he doesn't get upset or something if you push him away when he tries... Good luck!

Um...  Does he know you are not ready for anything beyond food and wine?  Dating has changed a lot since my day, but the idea is to not go too fast.  This is your first relationship as female?  You do have to set the ground rules and tone - this is really tricky and in our brave new workd a LOT more tricky than back in the day.

Best of luck to you.  Watch out for you!


Erin

I would say it all depends on how much of a gentleman he is, how respectful he is toward you, what you think of him and about a thousand other things. He may indeed interpret it as an ivitation for sex and then again he may not. All guys are different as to how they may take the invitation.

I definatley agree with kelley at establishing boundries. I see no problem inviting him over or he inviting you over as long as the boundries are clear. And then if you two both want to break those boundries then it can be a spontaeous consensual thing. Or just kissing and cuddling.

to be honest I'm definitely not the person to get advice from on this kind of matter because I'd just make sure I had enough for breakfast.

Quote from: stephaniec on July 29, 2014, 10:58:37 AM
to be honest I'm definitely not the person to get advice from on this kind of matter because I'd just make sure I had enough for breakfast.

Most definately, or at least brunch anyway.