Seriously, before I transitioned it seemed no one could be bothered talking to me at work functions. Now everyone is so friendly and complimentary. It's so different... I'm not complaining but it's almost beyond my experience. Surely they've been paid...?? Surely!

Conversation is the "pay off" of being yourself. And lovely.

It's probably a corporate conspiracy .

Quote from: Ms Grace on July 31, 2014, 07:12:39 AM
Seriously, before I transitioned it seemed no one could be bothered talking to me at work functions. Now everyone is so friendly and complimentary. It's so different... I'm not complaining but it's almost beyond my experience. Surely they've been paid...?? Surely!

Ah yeah, that was me, I have a habit of throwing money around sometimes and thought you could use a nicer environment.

If it's any consolation, your co-workers are surprisingly cheap to purchase...

Grace

Folk are attracted to happy people who are celebrating life and themselves.  You are radiating positive vibes - they are being drawn to your happiness.  Suspect that money is not changing hands.

Aisla

Weird isn't it. Walked out of a meeting and had to travel across the city, one of the other women caught me and asked if I wanted a coffee.

We talked about relationships for an hour or so, turning off our pages constantly.

More important stuff to talk about.

Don't question - enjoy. Hopefully it only gets better as they get to know the real you.

Hugs,

Grace, you practically radiate charisma. Of course they all want to talk to you.

Given you don't work in the private sector Grace, I don't think money came into it.

Seriously, as the others have said already, people want to talk to positive and interesting people - and you fit the bill.

Happy days ahead! 

Its definitely you that paid everyone off by radiating happiness 

I have noticed that Eva gets far more of this positive attention than her alter ego male persona ever did. It's weird, isn't it?

I second the positive vibe thing, just look at your infectious happy smile! How could anyone not want to smile back and be nice to you? 

Per your original thoughts Grace,

In the early 90's when I was working at a very large construction company in the art department I had a coworker needing to come out as trans, so she went to turn in her resignation as she thought it would be impossible to work there as she transitioned. Quite the opposite happened and the CEO and upper management said no problem at all and sent out company wide memo's stating that all employees should respect and be courteous to her or they will be dealt with accordingly.

It all went very well and even the toughest men on the crews were kind and polite

25 years later we still keep in touch and she was mildly surprised but not totally shocked to hear my news

We are much better and happier people when we are no longer hiding a damn big elephant under our front room rug.  The elephant lump has kept us in a muffled corner where no one could see us or hear us or know much of us.  The housecleaning of transition and open presentation puts us in the center of the room, with good light and great acoustics, and that is a payoff we give other people. 

Not a big surprise there.   I'm much more sociable after being able to show the world who I truly am as well.  It sure beats wearing the a*hole mask 24/7.

From my own observations I would say girls are more chatty with each other than guys are. I think its more of a sign that you pass 100%.

It has been said already on this thread, but I will iterate:  Authenticity is attractive; you are authentic.  Maybe it is the influence of living in OZ, but the power that flows from the south and west towards the west coast of the USA brings hope and joy.  One of these days I will show up, just to bask in the sunshine of your spirit, the bounty of the amazing and brilliant men and women from down under that I have come to rely on, and the energy that streams from your coasts.

Probably have to do some barbie on the coast too

Now if there just weren't so many bitie things with sharp teeth, fangs, and jaws there.

Julie

Grace, you are just SO positive, for one thing...

Second, I think that people just ASSUME females are more open to chat openly...

Many girls here in this thread have basically stated this, in various ways.

I am early on in my HRT, just 6 1/2 weeks, but as my body feminizes more and more, i certainly hope to have this great 'side benefit" of presenting as female most of the time...successfully...that people, both male and female, just naturally "open up" more to a female, than to a male.

Congratulations on the great increased attention you are getting!

Living your life openly and honesty with no more secrets probably is showing through strongly, too, and people are sensing this...

Hugs as always, you are great here,

Johanna.

Quote from: Pikachu on July 31, 2014, 07:58:58 AM
Grace, you practically radiate charisma. Of course they all want to talk to you.

I am thinking this exactly

It's cost me a fortune.
I will send the bill to you later.

J

I swear it wasn't me! Okay maybe it was...

But as others have said I think you give off a very positive vibe and being able to just be you without having to pretend is amazing!

@Michelle

I love that story, I'm happy it worked out for her how it did. If only it could be like that everywhere.