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Started by Ms Grace, July 31, 2014, 07:12:39 AM

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Rachel

That is fantastic to hear how others interact and talk to you now as opposed to pre transition. I agree, you have a lot going, personality being a strong suit.
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Megumi

The same thing has been happening to me at work, it's almost hard to deal with in some ways to be honest but in a good way. I really didn't expect people to warm up to me right out of the box when I went full time and went to work on that 1st day. I work in a factory with just over 1000 people and I get stopped in the hall all the time. Most cases it's for someone to say they really respect me for what I'm doing because they can't fathom how difficult transitioning publicly is and how brave I am or how happy they are for me being myself. Funny thing is it's hard to shut me up now when I start talking, could never say that before as I'd be a one word sentence type of person and run away lol. 

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StevieAK

I dont know if its the same but while i get called freak by one lovely soul the rest of the women are friendly and have several good friends. 
Im just a better communicator and such a better person than Ive ever been now that I like me.

Its just the inner peace I suppose?

Happy for you
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Terrafirma

I've noticed the same thing, since starting to transition. Women seem to be friendlier to me now. I attribute this to my having a feminine-looking face, which may make them feel more at ease with me, though I don't completely pass, yet. I've been using estradiol for 11 months.
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Ms Grace

Quote from: Danniella on July 31, 2014, 07:16:50 AM
Ah yeah, that was me, I have a habit of throwing money around sometimes and thought you could use a nicer environment.

If it's any consolation, your co-workers are surprisingly cheap to purchase...

I knew it!!!

Quote from: Jenny07 on July 31, 2014, 04:30:20 PM
It's cost me a fortune.
I will send the bill to you later.

J

Well, thanks... but don't expect me to return the favour! ;D

The common response from people seems to be that I'm much happier now, which is true but surely I wasn't that big a sad sack of crap to begin with?? Yeah, probably I was now that I think about it. I was very unenthusiastic and cynical about everything. I notice my body language, especially when I'm talking is a lot more engaged... etc!
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JohannaJohn

Grace, indeed, when one is happy because one's outside reflects what is inside for example, I think it shows.

For me, already just short of 7 weeks in which is still early on, I too notice that even when I react to regative things, it is much more subdued than previously, E and especialy P apparently calm me SO much, and all of my relationships are better than before I started HRT.  It sounds similar for many girls here, and you too.

I find that for me, these mental changes are even more amazing than the physical changes.  Sure, I was expecting at least SOME physical changes but even those have been like WOW (no more body odor, palms of my hands already silky smooth like that of a 25 year old cis girl, no more facial acne, my hair starting to grow nicely in my natural light medium brown color, and most important my "girls" and nipples are for sure now and are hurting sometimes so I think they will grow more right away)...

But the mental changes are stunning for me, and many of the changes are similar to what you describe for yourself.

I thought that, ok, I "understand there will be mental changes" at an intellectual level.  Never in my wildest dreams did I see these feelings about how first-hand experience with this would be rapidly change me -- and the euphoric happiness seems to follow me nearly always, even when I get any (rare) negative news, I am emotionally in great shape.

This includes exuding "positive-ness" I think...which you allude to also.

Maybe people just sense this, and want to talk more to an enthusiastic, happy person than to a cynical person.

Plus, I think people in nearly every country just assume that females want to talk more than males.  This is a "nice" stereotype which helps us "new" girls ('newly" girls on the outside, anyway, and then this maybe helps us feel more feminine on the inside, too).

Plus, females in general I think, in any country, are regarded as less "threatening" than males -- which helps to elicit a great quantity and quality of spontaneous conversation that last longer than just, "Hello, how are you?"

The world treasts female more gently than males, in so many regards.

Embraces Grace,
Johanna.
I am female.
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Allyda

Quote from: JohannaJohn on August 01, 2014, 07:57:42 AM

Maybe people just sense this, and want to talk more to an enthusiastic, happy person than to a cynical person.

Johanna.
This ^^___^^ I definitely agree with and can relate to. I've noticed the same thing especially around the time my hrt began softening my face and giving it a more feminine appearance.

Allie :icon_flower:
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