Quote from: Julia (Apple-Whatever) on August 01, 2014, 05:16:28 PM
What's the point on having SRS if I can't date or even have sex? Why have surgery if my genitalia is not a part of my life?

I see it as something you do to make your body fit your own perception of how it should be. Sex or dating has never been a motivation for myself.

Quote from: StevieAK on August 01, 2014, 01:03:56 PM
My three children decided not to be with me. Although they had been transitioning with me they seemed to have a bump. My wife says calm down and they will come back to us. It hurts my wife as well as she can't see her grand babies. Sad

I don't know but I think they think if they punish me into who I used to look like.

They mean well but don't know what they're dealing with, don't let the kids put an emotional wedge between you and the spouse. Been through that before and told her to decide if she is married to me or them and then get behind me.

A lady twice my size sat next to me on the bus so I was squished.

My cell phone stopped working.

The bus was super late..

Quote from: King Malachite on August 01, 2014, 05:52:07 PM
A lady twice my size sat next to me on the bus so I was squished.

My cell phone stopped working.

The bus was super late..

Wow she caused all those three things? She musta been super heavy! 

Quote from: Jaime R D on August 01, 2014, 05:32:55 PM
I see it as something you do to make your body fit your own perception of how it should be. Sex or dating has never been a motivation for myself.

Agreed ^^___^^ SRS in my case will correct a birth defect I've lived with far too long. So Jamie's point is accurate. And sex or the act of having sex has nothing to do with it.

Allie

After paying my bills I only had $83. left out of my check. Hopefully I'll get some work this month.

Allie

I consider myself non binary, and I don't suffer depression for having a penis. It's more like I have a choice on what I will have. It's stupid because I don't date or have sex because of how people despise my genitals, and at the same time I'd be doing SRS just to comply to the norm and had the same people that woul try to kill me now accept me because of a stupid surgery.

I started saving for it, but after chasing SRS for so long, I don't even see the point. Only achieving a female appearance worries me now. FFS, finishing electro, breast augmentation..., but the other would be just the same, something I would only use for sex, adding the problem of needing a long sick leave to recover, keeping a dilation schedule, plus the risks... Unless I start having a social life that implies dating, having sex, etc... My potential neovagina will stay in the form of a bank account.

Just doing it for sexual activities might not be a good motivation..I just see it as a nice side effect (I wont date guys before I had SRS, I just dont feel comfortable with it)

For me its about feeling whole..I often tuck in the mirror and that makes me look at my (feminizing) body in a more positive light. Ill just have to take the extra medical (after)care for granted

Quote from: Julia (Apple-Whatever) on August 02, 2014, 01:24:59 AM
I consider myself non binary, and I don't suffer depression for having a penis. It's more like I have a choice on what I will have. It's stupid because I don't date or have sex because of how people despise my genitals, and at the same time I'd be doing SRS just to comply to the norm and had the same people that woul try to kill me now accept me because of a stupid surgery.

I started saving for it, but after chasing SRS for so long, I don't even see the point. Only achieving a female appearance worries me now. FFS, finishing electro, breast augmentation..., but the other would be just the same, something I would only use for sex, adding the problem of needing a long sick leave to recover, keeping a dilation schedule, plus the risks... Unless I start having a social life that implies dating, having sex, etc... My potential neovagina will stay in the form of a bank account.

A penis is non-essential for urinating; and in many ways is inconvenient. Setting to pee is more sanitary and pleasant than standing. A penis is really only essential for penetrative sex with a female. Tucking it in your clothing can also be inconvenient and uncomfortable in addition to creating a disgusting looking bulge.

I can live with tucking and nobody has clocked me on jeggings. It's freaking stupid because I live in a place where people dislike trans and the only way of dating is forcefully going through SRS. But since I don't care about my genitals, I feel like I'd be doing srs for other persons and not for me.

Quote from: Julia (Apple-Whatever) on August 02, 2014, 01:24:59 AM
I consider myself non binary, and I don't suffer depression for having a penis. It's more like I have a choice on what I will have. It's stupid because I don't date or have sex because of how people despise my genitals, and at the same time I'd be doing SRS just to comply to the norm and had the same people that woul try to kill me now accept me because of a stupid surgery.

I started saving for it, but after chasing SRS for so long, I don't even see the point. Only achieving a female appearance worries me now. FFS, finishing electro, breast augmentation..., but the other would be just the same, something I would only use for sex, adding the problem of needing a long sick leave to recover, keeping a dilation schedule, plus the risks... Unless I start having a social life that implies dating, having sex, etc... My potential neovagina will stay in the form of a bank account.

Julia,
     You're not all alone with this kind of thinking, really one must consider what their true motives are for everything they do and if you're not just swimming in self loathing over how you are plumbed and don't expect to have to satisfy the sexual preferences of a man, then what would be the point if no one would ever be seeing that part of your anatomy? Other than that, women do have a smoother appearance in those regions, but if that's not an issue then GRS would be more trouble and expense than it's worth. One needs to weigh the pros and cons pragmatically.

Given my present situation I could live without full SRS as long as I could manage to pass as female when desired. Would be nice to eliminate facial and body hair and have nice breast development. Would also be nice if I could find a way to have full genital removal and urethra relocation as medically necessary. I have absolutely no need or desire for my penis and testicles.

Quote from: mac1 on August 02, 2014, 12:10:32 PM
Given my present situation I could live without full SRS as long as I could manage to pass as female when desired. Would be nice to eliminate facial and body hair and have nice breast development. Would also be nice if I could find a way to have full genital removal and urethra relocation as medically necessary. I have absolutely no need or desire for my penis and testicles.

Quite understandable Mac, this business corresponds in a way to a sign that was posted above the door of a racing specialties shop that said, "Speed costs money, how fast can you afford to go!"

Quote from: Shantel on August 02, 2014, 12:34:15 PM
Quite understandable Mac, this business corresponds in a way to a sign that was posted above the door of a racing specialties shop that said, "Speed costs money, how fast can you afford to go!"

Financially I could probably afford to do it. It is primarily finding a way to do it so that it will be acceptable with my wife. Her views are rather straight and fixed.

Something far too wrong going on my head. Heck, it's my best friend and he already has a girlfriend. Some times I'm having animalistic impulses that are messing me. If I had been drunk I'd have done something I'd lament.

Quote from: mac1 on August 02, 2014, 01:20:24 PM
Financially I could probably afford to do it. It is primarily finding a way to do it so that it will be acceptable with my wife. Her views are rather straight and fixed.

Been there done that too, it's called incrementalism! Take it in small steps like the government does and she will be more accepting of the little changes day by day just like Americans get used to how the country is morphing into something completely different than what it was 25 years ago. Incrementalism is psychologically the best method of introducing change without a lot of conflict.

Quote from: Shantel on August 02, 2014, 04:06:40 PM
Been there done that too, it's called incrementalism! Take it in small steps like the government does and she will be more accepting of the little changes day by day just like Americans get used to how the country is morphing into something completely different than what it was 25 years ago. Incrementalism is psychologically the best method of introducing change without a lot of conflict.

Makes sense but not sure just how to go about it.

As far as the country, the last 6 years have been very devastating.

Quote from: mac1 on August 02, 2014, 06:36:23 PM
Makes sense but not sure just how to go about it.

As far as the country, the last 6 years have been very devastating.

I can't coach you on the first comment other than to say that a lot of conversation with the S.O. is important. You sure are right about the second statement!

Quote from: birkin on August 01, 2014, 05:00:51 PM
Whatever...my eyes are on the surgery prize. My client today works at a Target and I swear, it takes so much willpower not to blow a ton of cash there. I saw like ten things I wanted, fortunately I was too busy making sure he didn't get distracted and walking around with him. And after the shift, my body was so tired from everything that I didn't have the will to even purchase the items I wanted. I headed straight home.

People who do jobs like yours are increasingly relevant in my life, and I want to say that even if your client can't thank you it's still really important. There is so much turnover with aides and attendants and skills trainers that we usually just don't have help because it takes so long for any given person to get used to my kid and able to read her cues to know if she's about to dart off or hit or scream or eat something she shouldn't. When anyone can help her do anything without my presence, she feels more competent and I get to feel more like a separate human in my own right. You deserve way higher pay than people in your position typically get.

What made me unhappy today was struggling to be nice. I want to be alone, and I don't want to talk about Pokemon.

Quote from: Felix on August 02, 2014, 07:11:11 PM
People who do jobs like yours are increasingly relevant in my life, and I want to say that even if your client can't thank you it's still really important. There is so much turnover with aides and attendants and skills trainers that we usually just don't have help because it takes so long for any given person to get used to my kid and able to read her cues to know if she's about to dart off or hit or scream or eat something she shouldn't. When anyone can help her do anything without my presence, she feels more competent and I get to feel more like a separate human in my own right. You deserve way higher pay than people in your position typically get.

What made me unhappy today was struggling to be nice. I want to be alone, and I don't want to talk about Pokemon.

Those who fill those kinds of job fields deserve more than what they make in terms of financial rewards, and perhaps even that isn't enough. So many families and especially the parents are saddled with a huge burden, so emotionally and financially draining that those who take on the job of spelling them for awhile to give them a break deserve to be nominated for sainthood.