So I'm 20, pre transitioned trans guy, and still living at home. I really want to take T, but I'm not sure how my parent/ everybody would take it and somehow that scares me not to do it, which just makes my depression worse. I also don't have a job even though I'm looking for one, so the plan is to move out then transition. But with the price of rent and how impossible it seems finding a job, it might take another year or more. I just don't know how I'll survive that long. Anyone in a similar situation?

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Help to survive, Check with your local planned parenthood and see what service they might have to help you.

Therapy is something that will help you get your mind in some kinda of order to work on each step you will need to take.

Safe passage on your path
Mrs. Izzy

You're not alone. My situation is very similar to yours except that I am a 26 year old transwoman. I have a job but it is needed to pay for all the debts and car payments that I need to make. I can only save around $200 a month. The cost of surgery is always at the back of my mind and I know that at my current rate will take years to save up enough.

I suggest you make a plan and try to stick with it. If you have long hair, then cut it slightly shorter. You continue to cut it shorter and shorter until you have it the way you want. If you take things slowly it won't be so much of a shock to your family and hopefully they come to accept you as you are.

My family knows I am feminine but they don't know I'm transgender. I still feel anxiety about how they may react when I tell them. Unfortunately, just being trans means your life is harder than most, but there is a silver lining. You will be much stronger than if you weren't transgender.

You will have to learn to face your fears, learn to be patient and above all else learn to be yourself no matter what anyone says.

"A journey of 1,000 miles begins with a single step" -Fortune cookie

Take small steps and you will feel better as long as you are always moving towards your goal. Why do you think most trans people feel better once they start hormones, even though the results aren't instant.

Coming to this forum is a great start. Continue taking small steps and you will soon realize how far you have gone. Good luck!

Ok with life - just frustrated with:
1. Male genitals and body features.
2. Lack of female appearance.
3. Lack of being able to present and be accepted as female in private and public with wife.

Welcome Elis! I can sort of relate to how you feel. You've done a good thing by signing up here, there are many who are in the same position and are willing to offer their support and advice. The thing with transition is that it's not an easy road (not trying to deter you away from it) but what you gain out of it is second to none. It is hard but you can make it much easier by getting a job and moving out if your family won't support you. Hey, you've also got us! If you can't bring yourself to come out to your parents then the best thing to do is save up and get a stable job. Do you know anyone you can trust to come out to first? That could be a great start also.

I thought the same last year and I'm still not on E and may have to wait another 9 months. You can do a lot in this time. There's therapy, maybe even a gender therapist if you're able to without anyone knowing. There are even support groups for trans people if you're keen. You can also experiment and try new things to feel more masculine if you wish and plus this gives you time to figure out who you are more. Do you have a hobby you enjoy to keep you occupied? There's so much you can do just try to work on your well-being during this time.

goldphantom makes really great points. That fortune cookie speaks the truth! Don't give up, it's a long journey but you'll make it there with time and determination. You will be the guy you are one day and imagine what that'll be like, let that motivate you towards your goal. I hope everything gets better for you, we're all here to help and offer our support and advice along the way so you're definitely not alone!