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Finding it hard to reconcile how I look

Started by Leila, August 11, 2014, 03:02:10 PM

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Allyda

Quote from: EllieM on August 11, 2014, 04:05:09 PM

I looked at the picture. You look fabulous. Seriously. Believe it.

I second this^^___^^. I too saw that photo and even complimented you on it on how great you look. I'll repeat what some others have said because I firmly believe it -"we are our own worse critics."
Quote from: Suziack on August 12, 2014, 11:45:37 AM
If you're a guy trying to look like a girl, you're doing a pretty good job and would have fooled me. But I don't think that's the case - I think you're a girl looking like a girl.

As time goes by, the memories of the 'old' you will fade, and the superimposing of remembered details on every image you see will stop. Guaranteed. If it helps, just avoid looking in the mirror for a few months. The day will come when you'll sneak a look, and... Wow!

So be Happy!

And this^^___^^  is some of the best advice I've heard. Believe me I know these feelings all too well and sympathize with you and those doubts your having. I myself have the same issues only a bit different in origin but I have come to a conclusion that has helped me get past it, that is proven time and time again here on this website when a very pretty girl posts her photo's on one of the "can/do I pass as female" threads questioning her passability even though she easily more so than most, would have no problem passing: We don't see ourselves at 'face value' as others see us for our minds are clouded with the image of our old appearance. So even after a very successful facial and body feminization, we can't accurately see it right away because we are so used to an image of ourselves imprinted upon our brain through years seeing ourselves in the wrong body it takes time for us, and a lot of support mind you, for our brains or "minds eyes" to adjust to the new version of ourselves, and begin seeing us at face value as others see us.

I still don't see myself in the least bit attractive yet guys are hitting on me and asking me out, my friends both local and on here tell me I'm overreacting or being too hard on myself, same with my doctors and nurses -they can't all be wrong can they? ???

Taking more photos with different outfits on may help you I dunno. I wish you all my best. You'll get through this, it just takes time as do all things in transition.

Ali :icon_flower:
Allyda
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Leila

Quote from: Hikari on August 12, 2014, 02:59:46 PM
I do this, it does usually help me.

I took your advice and put on some make up, then proceeded to take lots of photos from all angles and positions. What I noticed was that there were a few that came out looking like the old me. It was these few that gave me back the link to my old self amongst the many more that I felt so detached from. What was apparent was that it had become easier to take a "nice" photo. In the past I could take forty photos and only keep a few, but now I am discarding a lot less on the grounds that I looked hideous and manly.
Nobody's perfect ...   I'll never try,
But I promise I'm worth it, if you just open up your eyes,
I don't need a second chance, I need a friend,
Someone who's gonna stand by me right there till the end,
If you want the best of my heart, you've just gotta see the good in me.
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