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Swallowing your pride and doing the walk of shame

Started by antonia, August 13, 2014, 12:58:16 AM

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Jess42

#20
August 14, 2014, 04:15:26 PM
Yeah, that wasn't a real walk of shame Antonia, that was a walk of pride. Let idiots be idiots.
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pretty pauline

#21
August 14, 2014, 04:24:26 PM
Quote from: Cindy on August 13, 2014, 03:54:14 AM
The walk of pride IMO.

Every woman, trans or cis meets aholes. We do what all decent women do, be proud and leave them to crawl back under their rock
Well said!
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katiej

#22
August 14, 2014, 06:06:14 PM
Quote from: Evelyn K on August 14, 2014, 12:18:20 AM
I think one upside to being M2F is that reservoir of male fortitude we can still rely on in case of 'emergency'...

I've never been big/strong enough to take on most men.  So I've always known that my only chance is to fight dirty.  As a woman, that won't change.  One swift blow to the groin...and the playing field is level.

It's not lady-like.  But as you said, it's just in case of emergency.
"Before I do anything I ask myself would an idiot do that? And if the answer is yes, I do not do that thing." --Dwight Schrute
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Myarkstir

#23
August 14, 2014, 06:14:57 PM
All i will add to these very good comments is this:

Don't feed the monkeys  >:-)
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katiej

#24
August 14, 2014, 06:44:14 PM
Quote from: Myarkstir on August 14, 2014, 06:14:57 PM
Don't feed the monkeys  >:-)

There's an old Polish proverb.  "Not my circus. Not my monkeys."
"Before I do anything I ask myself would an idiot do that? And if the answer is yes, I do not do that thing." --Dwight Schrute
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Rachel

#25
August 14, 2014, 08:10:29 PM
 You did well in not confronting a drunk ass. You left with pride.

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CosmicJoke

#26
August 14, 2014, 08:31:13 PM
He's just as paranoid of you as you are of him, but you didn't let him win, so that's good on you :) Personally, I would never go into a place like a bar, alone. I know you were meeting a friend there, but it's best to go in the same time.
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antonia

#27
August 15, 2014, 07:57:56 AM
I wonder how many of those that are most vocally against us or give us a hard time do so because they are afraid of their own feelings be it because they are attracted to trans people or because they might be trans themselves.

I guess I've gone from mad to feeling sorry for the guy  :-\
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JulieBlair

#28
August 15, 2014, 09:09:31 AM
Wow, well done!  Anger is almost always a secondary emotion.  You were insulted and embarrassed.  Your feelings were hurt and you responded as most of us do with anger.  The anger happened after the insult and the feelings of powerlessness and is an automatic response to that.  It is a mental adaptation that has kept us from being eaten or killed by someone from a different group since the Pleistocene.

To move from there to sympathy rocks.  I sometimes never get there, but I know from long experience that until I do, I continually pay a price, my stomach is not calm, my mind does not focus.  I am proud to know you - Thank You

Julie
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Newgirl Dani

#29
August 15, 2014, 09:54:15 AM
Quote from: antonia on August 15, 2014, 07:57:56 AMI guess I've gone from mad to feeling sorry for the guy  :-\

Nice 'transition'  ;D
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JohannaJohn

#30
August 15, 2014, 11:20:29 AM
Quote from: ♡ Emily ♡ on August 14, 2014, 04:04:27 PM
Dont count on that "reservoir" to last for long time. When I was 2 months into HRT, I also had one incident (I was not the target, but decided to step in) - oh, how my blood was boiling despite any previous calming efforts from E... Well, no bloodshed occurred and no limbs were broken, but I felt ready for that kind of turn of events. Now, I would only engage hand-to-hand with a man, if I had no other choice and if I had something blunt to whack him over the head as soon as possible.

I am 2 months plus on HRT, and I agree, while it might help to have a bit more "reservoir" than the average cis girl, I agree you cannot count on that having much endurance or power...from all I have heard, physical strength and endurance take a nosedive.

Johanna.
I am female.
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JohannaJohn

#31
August 15, 2014, 11:24:17 AM
Quote from: antonia on August 15, 2014, 07:57:56 AM
I wonder how many of those that are most vocally against us or give us a hard time do so because they are afraid of their own feelings be it because they are attracted to trans people or because they might be trans themselves.

I guess I've gone from mad to feeling sorry for the guy  :-\

Antonia, I have often wondered a similar thing during sporting events or on online sports discussion forums...the amount of "hidden gay admiration/bashing" is phenomenal.

There are always tons of comments such as "That's so gay" when another person disagrees with what someone said or did, references to gay-type intimate events, etc.

I often wonder if the most serious and intense and repetitive "gay bashers" are in fact closet gays -- whether they would admit it or not.

Johanna.
I am female.
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Sammy

#32
August 15, 2014, 12:22:58 PM
Quote from: JohannaJohn on August 15, 2014, 11:20:29 AM
I am 2 months plus on HRT, and I agree, while it might help to have a bit more "reservoir" than the average cis girl, I agree you cannot count on that having much endurance or power...from all I have heard, physical strength and endurance take a nosedive.

Mostly strenght - endurance actually a kind of boost, but it is a different kind of boost.
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LizMarie

#33
August 15, 2014, 04:29:33 PM
Quote from: antonia on August 15, 2014, 07:57:56 AM
I wonder how many of those that are most vocally against us or give us a hard time do so because they are afraid of their own feelings be it because they are attracted to trans people or because they might be trans themselves.

I guess I've gone from mad to feeling sorry for the guy  :-\

I suspect that some (not all, but some) are afraid of us, for various reasons. We upset the notion of male supremacy. Here's someone who was "born male" but who rejects it? Then there is the internalized transphobia. More than one transphobic person has been trans themselves, just as many of the biggest homophobic names over the last 50 years turned out to be homosexuals themselves. And there is misunderstanding, that we are assumed to be "perverts", that this is a "lifestyle choice", that we may try to "recruit" children, and other such ignorant nonsense.
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Evelyn K

#34
August 15, 2014, 04:34:31 PM
Quote from: antonia on August 15, 2014, 07:57:56 AM
I wonder how many of those that are most vocally against us or give us a hard time do so because they are afraid of their own feelings be it because they are attracted to trans people or because they might be trans themselves.

I guess I've gone from mad to feeling sorry for the guy  :-\

^^ Yep. Does the phrase, "The lady doth protest too much, methinks" ;D

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_lady_doth_protest_too_much,_methinks
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CosmicJoke

#35
August 15, 2014, 05:21:40 PM
Quote from: antonia on August 15, 2014, 07:57:56 AM
I wonder how many of those that are most vocally against us or give us a hard time do so because they are afraid of their own feelings be it
because they are attracted to trans people or because they might be trans themselves.

I guess I've gone from mad to feeling sorry for the guy  :-\

Exactly, I wouldn't doubt he was probably sexually attracted to you as you are beautiful from your avatar. His knowing somehow that you don't fit into his own preconceived notions about what a man is or what a woman is makes him question who he is as a man.
I like to say that any experience you ever have in your life was something you wanted at one point. For you, perhaps, just wanted to shatter some A-hole's ego.
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