Hi, everyone. I'm a cis mom of three boys. I'm here because one of my teenage son's girlfriends is very fluid in her gender expression, and I just want to know the best way to offer her our support. She has ordered breast binders and had them mailed to our house to avoid confrontation with her parents. According to my son, she sometimes feels like a girl and sometimes like a boy, so she just goes back and forth. Is there anything I should do, other than just being cool with whoever she is? Is the "going back and forth" a sign that she needs help settling on an identity, or is the fluidity itself a healthy identity? I don't know the best place to post this here, so I figured I would just jump right in.
We're in a medium-sized town in the South, by the way. An island of moderate liberals (I'm less moderate than most) in a sea of deep red.
