Would you tell your wife that we think she sounds amazing?
Also if she does throw someone in the canal could you snap a picture?
Remember to bring back a mask (I think it's a law or something).
I hope you continue to have a great time, after all it's not where you are, it's who you're with that matters and you seem to have that covered.

Wishing you guys were here too x we'd drink our fill of Italian wine (5 euro for a 1.5 litre plastic bottle! And it's delicious!) and shake up these venetians, Scotland style!

After the little one was asleep of course x

Last day tomorrow, then a day in Amsterdam - just in time for pride week! What timing x



My son as a venetian captain, so cute!



Yes we got loads of masks, here's my wife modelling one. I got myself a blank one too to paint up as half male, half female. A nice little art project!



I wish I had worn more sunscreen though. Curse this Scottish need to be in the sunlight at all times! Also getting an allergic reaction to their sheets - I'm allergic to biological washing powder so I'm covered in angry red spots too.

Apparently I got an opposite stink-eye today, from an older woman in shorts who stared at my backside with jealous hatred in her eyes. My wife found this hilarious.

She's read your messages and they made her smile, she says she's happy to stand up for any trans person who needs her x

Flying back tonight, back in boy mode as my passport is in my male name. Been an incredible time, sorry for the Facebookey posts with updates, but I got kind of scared that the thread would get locked while I was away -and I've found it so helpful to have. I would have never met any of you fabulous people if I hadn't made it years ago and I figured I'd just drown out with noise to keep it here for me. Selfish I know, but I still need this place to talk.

Guess my next update will be when I see doctor Kennedy in September, stay amazing ladies x

Safe trip back home and thanks for sharing your family time on vacation.

Hugs

Hey all!

So who is up for an impromptu super happy fun meet up in Edinburgh on the 23rd of this month (two weeks from now)!?

I am going to get some tickets to go see a Transgender themed play during the fringe ( http://kaleidoscot.com/play-puts-t-lgbti/ ) and I wondered if one or two of you girls may wish to join me for a pre play meal, and/or post play drinks? ^^

Could be a fun day!

-cough- more info.

Tickets cost £10 and can be bought here ( https://tickets.edfringe.com/whats-on/x-and-y )

There is only one showing on per day which starts at 7pm ^^

I think I can do that, just after payday too x

I wanted to see a show at the fringe and haven't had a chance. I'll look into it further tonight and confirm proper. Is it OK if I bring a male friend? I'll probably crash at his so he may join us

Quote from: Sandra_Dickinson on August 13, 2014, 04:06:40 AM
I think I can do that, just after payday too x

I wanted to see a show at the fringe and haven't had a chance. I'll look into it further tonight and confirm proper. Is it OK if I bring a male friend? I'll probably crash at his so he may join us

Sure. Sam will be tagging along with me as well so why not ^^

Hi to all the Scottish girls,

I have been visiting this site for a while, thought I had better register and make some posts. I am near Edinburgh and am 50 years young, hi Elizabeth 1, I would love to meet up to chat, sounds like you had a ball last time, I have only been out a couple of times and been to Miss TV Scotland three times. Looking forward to chatting,

Belle

Hi gals, hope you are all doing well! I've been in the doldrums of late. Bouts of depression and anxiety caused by increased dysphoria about my general appearance, lack of understanding from family and a general drop in confidence. Night out would do me good and despite my shoe debacle I did enjoy ours last day out! Would not want to cramp your style hanging out with an old bird like me! Let me get back to all regarding this :-). Sandra, glad you had a wonderful time in Venice. Danniella , really enjoyed meeting up with you and Sam was great company . Belle, another new face! Don't know if I'm good company right now with my up and down mood. Trying to keep upbeat but tearful right now . Xx

Hi Elizabeth 1,

It's good to talk, I feel at 50 that time is escaping me and I should have done this many years ago, but pre internet world was a very different place. I feel sometimes it's too late, especially when you see the young ones transitioning so well. However confidence and a positive mental attitude is required, less of the negatives and more of the positives goes a long way to help, so shoulders back chest out and go get them, also how do I post an avatar please?

@belleroberts: you'll get the ability to upload an avatar when you've made fifteen posts. Get chatting x :p

Hope you're feeling better Elizabeth,  I got an awful case of the post holiday blues,  especially having to go back into boy mode for work.

I'm definitely going to be there on the 23rd, not sure if I'll have a guest or not but if I do it will definitely be an ally x

Hi all,

the play on the 23rd looks good, would love to go and meet you all, but I feel I need to get to know you all through the site first, I am a bit shy. I so enjoy Miss TV Scotland, as it's only once a year that is now no good, I need to go out at least monthly. Hope to see you sometime soon

Belle

OK, I'll definitely be there, tickets booked and everything! I'll leave it to the lovely Danniella to sort out where we're meeting up before or whatnot with personal messages like she did last time (You were just too good at it!)

I got my appointment with Dr Kennedy too, 3rd of September! It's all moving a little bit closer...

Heya!

Had a great time on the weekend meeting up with some of the girls

Quick post to ask for a big favor from Paula!

She is trying desperately to win a competition that will give her valuable cash for her business start up, but she needs more votes! Currently she is only in second place by only 9 votes!!! so I'm going to post it here and see if you lovely ladies will help out by voting for her



Just go to the link here : http://www.shell-livewire.org/awards/grand-ideas-awards/#votingarea

Then click on the "Cast My Vote" button under Paula's video (shown in the pic)

Then you will be sent an e-mail to confirm your vote (the e-mail may go into your junk folder, mine did.)

After than pat yourself on the back and you will be sure to receive extra hugs and love next time Paula sees you

Had my appointment with Dr Kennedy yesterday :-)

Pretty much a repeat of my appointment with Dr Gerber, although she did take my bloods, I've been given three months to think about coming out and explaining to my family before things move on.

So, I'd like to ask you girls how you approached this? Not necessarily how it went but how you built up to it and how you delivered the news: letter, text or a talk with them?

Quote from: Sandra_Dickinson on September 04, 2014, 01:35:07 AM
Had my appointment with Dr Kennedy yesterday :-)

Pretty much a repeat of my appointment with Dr Gerber, although she did take my bloods, I've been given three months to think about coming out and explaining to my family before things move on.

So, I'd like to ask you girls how you approached this? Not necessarily how it went but how you built up to it and how you delivered the news: letter, text or a talk with them?

Ahh coming out...the most terrifying of things :S

Personally I came out to my immediate family (as in my two sisters and my parents) by just having a "Family meeting" one weekend, getting them all in a room and explaining it to them face to face. We have done this before as a family for numerous important things in the past though, thus it was easy enough to get everybody together fairly quick etc. Still...it was quite the experience. :S

As for the extended family (My family is huge!) I realised that it would be simply impossible to talk to them all one by one, so instead I recorded a video and posted it on youtube, in which I talk to the camera, explain my situation, a bit about gender dysphoria, and common questions etc. I then sent the video to all the family (we have a facebook group for the family so that was easy enough).

Le vid in question...and HOLY ->-bleeped-<- IT'S A MALE ME!? D: Been a while since I saw that 0.0




Everybody in my family said that the video was an amazing way to come out as it let them all digest and re-watch etc at their own pace.

So really I would ask what your family is like, what do you think is the best way to go about talking to them etc?

It's never easy, but we can find a way that is hopefully the least painful

Thanks for that Danielle x

I'm not really close to my immediate family and I have no extended family. We never say we love each other, see each other rarely. There's something so difficult about talking like this when you're so distant. This is the closest family I have, but we're certainly not as close as others.

I suppose this is what's holding me up. We don't meet really and there is no chance of having a discussion around this unless I call everyone and make it happen - I see my parents once a month or less.

I like the video idea, I was thinking about a letter too - something that let's them get their heads straight, before they can come back to me for further understanding

Hey everybody! Hope you are all doing well.

I have been absent from the forum for a while due to copious amounts of real life shenanigans.

But I am here to announce another of Elaine's patented super happy random meet up/scottish trans event type things

So my favourite trans centric band "Against Me" are playing in Glasgow on November 15th.

Sam and I shall be attending, and as such shall be driving from Dundee to Glasgow on the day.

There will be 3 spaces in the car. So if anybody feels like a roadtrip to see an awesome punk rock band let me know! ^^

Tickets available at http://www.ticketmaster.co.uk/Against-Me-tickets/artist/877828

CAUTION! If you are buying tickets, make sure to get the ones for "The Garage", as the gig at the "wa wa hut" has been cancelled, but ticketmaster have not updated their system yet.

Other than that, how is everybody doing!?

Hi everyone!

Sooo... I haven't been around for a while either.  I'd kinda been feeling a bit frozen in my transition, having hit a wall after doing everything I could in terms of sorting out hair removal, changing all my official stuff to my new name, etc..  And going back to uni has been pretty stressful for me of course, and it's been weird being in a situation where the staff all know and the official records are all changed but the fellow students are still unaware, and I'm only in a couple of days a week and don't really get a chance to speak to people much, so it's... odd.  Like, people must notice I look and dress different, but I have no idea what they think, not that I should necessarily care.  :p  Anyway, I don't think I was coping very well with everything.  Or... I definitely wasn't coping well.  And that was compounded by the stresses of trying to get treatment started and...

...well anyway, it gets better.  I don't really want to make a big song and dance about it, because I know I'm really fortunate to be in this position and that others have been waiting in some cases longer than I have, and I kinda feel bad about that.  But having had very positive psychiatric and psychology assessments and after a bit of a back and forth with my GP and practice manager, I have been able to obtain a prescription for estradiol valerate which I started taking yesterday.  The initial practice meeting was kinda negative, I think, but then after more discussions between them, my partner and me, my GP ended up speaking to Dr Gerber at Sandyford and apparently he agreed that, based on the details of my case, he would support the idea of bridging treatment being an option in this case, so....  It's taken a while from my point of view and I've just been hanging on for dear life and hoping something good would come of it, and I was desperately struggling psychologically at times, and then...

...well, as of yesterday, I just feel... like someone has pressed the reset button on me.  I had prepared myself for the fact that I wouldn't really feel any different immediately, and I guess a big portion of it may be psychological, and I know it's not going to solve all my problems by any means, but I feel profoundly different (in a good way).  I feel so calm and positive right now and my anxiety levels have dipped a lot and, well, I guess I feel kinda euphoric still also and I'm sure that will pass but... so far it's been amazing.  So, having pulled my head out of the sand where I had firmly stuck it for the past month or two, I wanted to come back on and share my good news. ^^

Sorry as ever for the wall of text, lol.  I hope everyone else is doing ok and I hope you don't mind me sharing my news with you, even though I know I've been super lucky with this.   Hopefully it shows that the idea of getting bridging treatment is not completely hopeless, even if there's still a widespread reluctance to prescribe it in spite of what it says in the literature in support of it.