Would being betrothed and wearing a diamond wedding band be the ultimate symbolic completion of your womanhood?

Quote from: Evelyn K on August 24, 2014, 12:36:02 AM
Would being betrothed and wearing a diamond wedding band be the ultimate symbolic completion of your womanhood?

No. It would mean a nice chunk of money for me.

I personally can't get away from the idea that wearing a diamond wedding band means I'm someones (eh male) property in a sense. I'm socially conditioned to see the act of giving a wedding band as an exclusively male right.

It might be nice to receive one from a woman being I'm a lesbian. But the whole idea still seems awkward.

Look at your pretty hands lady's. Now imagine a diamond ring on your ring finger. How does it feel?

Quote from: Evelyn K on August 24, 2014, 01:03:37 AM
Look at your pretty hands lady's. Now imagine a diamond ring on your ring finger. How does it feel?

Annoying!

Jewelry on my hands just gets in the way of things.  Bracelets, necklaces however...

Funny, yet absolutely true.....

Quote from: Evelyn K on August 24, 2014, 01:03:37 AM
I personally can't get away from the idea that wearing a diamond wedding band means I'm someones (eh male) property in a sense. I'm socially conditioned to see the act of giving a wedding band as an exclusively male right.

No woman is anyone's property except her own.

QuoteIt might be nice to receive one from a woman being I'm a lesbian. But the whole idea still seems awkward.

Seems reasonable to me..

QuoteLook at your pretty hands lady's. Now imagine a diamond ring on your ring finger. How does it feel?

It means whoever bought it doesn't know as much about me as they think they do. Emeralds, rubies, sapphires are more my sort of thing. You might tempt me with a coloured diamond.

True love <3

"Diamonds are girls' best friends"  loljk, I like jewels but prefer if they are offered by someone meaningful. Stuff gets more beautiful when it has affection attached to it

No, I have been engaged since before I began my transition and neither of us wears a ring.

The ultimate symbolic completion of my womanhood has already come, and it's the compliments I get from cis women about my hair, eyes, and clothes.

Quote from: karina13 on August 24, 2014, 02:19:32 AM
Funny, yet absolutely true.....

LoLz. Yeah something is only worth as much as someone is willing to pay for it.

Guys like expensive cars. Women like expensive diamonds.

The diamond really is just another form of currency. I have more faith in a bag of diamonds retaining its value than a Ferrari.

Quote from: Evelyn K on August 24, 2014, 02:28:33 AM
LoLz. Yeah something is only worth as much as someone is willing to pay for it.

Guys like expensive cars. Women like expensive diamonds.

The diamond really is just another form of currency. I have more faith in a bag of diamonds retaining its value than a Ferrari.

Lol. Agreed. Cars suck. I would rather have to money to buy some jewels and keep than buy a new car every 2 years.

Quote from: kelly_aus on August 24, 2014, 02:20:32 AM
No woman is anyone's property except her own.

Seems reasonable to me..

It means whoever bought it doesn't know as much about me as they think they do. Emeralds, rubies, sapphires are more my sort of thing. You might tempt me with a coloured diamond.

Interesting point. How much customary value and meaning of commitment a diamond ring bears depends on your own perspective and your value of the givers intentions I guess.

Karina, I was going to post that same video.  You beat me to it! 

When I do go full time, I definitely want to have a more feminine wedding ring.  And having thought about it, I think I do want the traditional look of matching engagement ring and wedding band.  Although I'd be perfectly happy with cubic zirconia...it's really just about the look and feel.  Not too big, just tasteful and feminine.  After all, blending in is about the details.

Evelyn looks at ring finger. Evelyn wants.

I don't see the deal with diamonds.  Silver, brass, emerald, sapphire, coloured cheap crystals and whatnot look nicer for about 1/200th of the price.

And whoever said "diamonds are bull->-bleeped-<-" was wrong, because you can use bull->-bleeped-<- as fertiliser.

Quote from: Evelyn K on August 24, 2014, 01:03:37 AM
I'm socially conditioned to see the act of giving a wedding band as an exclusively male right.

It might be nice to receive one from a woman being I'm a lesbian. But the whole idea still seems awkward.

Here in Europe it's long been traditionally acceptable for a woman to propose on the 29th of February. I think the idea is that if the man hasn't gotten around to it in 4 years then it's time to take matters into your own hands

Quote from: Evelyn K on August 24, 2014, 12:36:02 AM
Would being betrothed and wearing a diamond wedding band be the ultimate symbolic completion of your womanhood?

I don't know whether I'd say "ultimate" but it would be a very powerful symbol.

Specifically a wedding band versus an engagement ring?

I wear a plain narrow gold wedding band (and in fact, we bought me a "ladies" ring back when we originally got married, b/c the men's bands weren't as narrow as I wanted, so I had one that's identical to my wife's except a half-size bigger). I used to wear a platinum band that I had used as my engagement ring, but when I transitioned, we bought me a gold channel-set diamond ring that *also* exactly matches my wife's. Neither of us likes diamond solitaires b/c we're clumsy and catch them on things.

To be perfectly honest, whenever I look at my hand and think about what it MEANS - remembering the day when my spouse accepted me and my transition enough to declare that her wife was going to be wearing the same gorgeous engagement ring she did so we could declare to the public that we are married to each other - it makes me a little sniffly even now. Besides, if the ring made me her property, the same would be true of her ring, and belonging *to each other* is part of what marriage is about for us.

(ours look a lot like this, although we got them elsewhere : http://www.kay.com/en/kaystore/engagement---wedding/diamond-anniversary-band-1-2-ct-tw-round-cut-14k-yellow-gold/100006/100006.100007.100011 )

It would mean that I got to wear a beautiful flowing dress, it would mean I never have to sleep alone again. It would mean someone is madly in love with me and I with him. It would mean I have butterflies in my stomach. It would mean everything.

But I don't now about it being the completion of my womanhood. I only need to do one thing for that to occur. But it certainly ould complete me. Oh, and then if we adopted a baby. YAY!

without seeming  unromantic I'd rather  have a condo with sole title in Telluride Colorado

Quote from: Evelyn K on August 24, 2014, 12:36:02 AM
Would being betrothed and wearing a diamond wedding band be the ultimate symbolic completion of your womanhood?

No. I don't think it would. While I would love to be married (to a woman) and I would love to be able to wear a proper dress to my wedding, I don't really see a diamond ring as being a big symbol of that.

Perhaps it is due to the fact that, in my last marriage we used silver and rubies, but diamonds have never had the significance to me that they seem to have to others. I also don't really feel that I need someone else for the completion of my womanhood, only for my own happiness do I need someone.