Yeah, I can totally relate to that since I identified myself as completely aromantic asexual before HRT jump started my puberty again and it took me about two weeks to have a crush on somebody. Very annoying since I had gotten used to the practicality of not having sexual or romantic desires. Now I have to face the kind of stuff other people face and I would've much rather skipped all of that.
But I don't despair over it, and I'd encourage you to not do so either. The thing about it is that if you can really find somebody who you connect with and get close to, the question of incorrect genitals fades more to the background. Not that I've experienced it myself, but I've both witnessed and heard about it from others. It might still mean that touching the genitals is still a big no-no, as it is in my case, but that's not the only way to be sexual with someone by far. I'm kind of glad that I'm kinky, so expressing sexuality through alternative methods is not uncommon at all with kinky folk. I'm also glad to be attracted to women since they seem to be much more open about experiencing sexuality through other ways as well, although I am aware that this is a gross generalization and I've also had some ultimately unpleasant encounters with girls with whom this was not the case at all.
