From everybody I've told, 90% of the responses were immediately, "How does your (ex-husband) feel about this?"
Like dude.
I don't care?
He's actually cool with it, but I mean like, what would it matter? Like I need permission from him or something? Like, wtf even.

Quote from: Rawb on August 24, 2014, 09:17:26 AM
From everybody I've told, 90% of the responses were immediately, "How does your (ex-husband) feel about this?"
Like dude.
I don't care?
He's actually cool with it, but I mean like, what would it matter? Like I need permission from him or something? Like, wtf even.

haha that's funny and weird.

I had someone go "so...why do you even need to have surgery? You look like a total dude, who cares if you have boobs?" Um, I do?

I'm currently in the closet, but I did try to be "out" a few years ago..

Luckily, my parents "just wanted me to be happy", but they obviously didn't take me seriously. Not to mention they had some weird ideas..

For example: My Mom thought I must secretly be a "lesbian". I didn't catch onto it at first, but anytime I tried to talk to her when I was feeling especially dysphoric, she'd ask me if I was attracted to girls, "because other people like that are attracted to girls".

It wasn't until I saw that many people think that trans men are actually just extremely butch lesbian cis women that I realized that she was probably assuming that I was just a lesbian in denial. 


Then there was this one time I tried talking to my Dad about my gender.. He just tried coming up with reasons why I "think" I'm a man. Such as: "I heard that babies that are born premature can have identity issues later on in life."

Them: *transphobic and/or other insulting crap*
Me: This is why that's offensive and I'm pissed off about that.
Them: Omg you're so harsh and mean!

"I miss the old you." Apparently a sad angry man is more acceptable than a happy me?

One from the early days, but I keep running into variants:
"I do/like these opposite gender role things and I identify as the same gender as my sex. Am I trans?"
*headdesk*

Quote from: Edge on August 25, 2014, 04:30:22 PM
One from the early days, but I keep running into variants:
"I do/like these opposite gender role things and I identify as the same gender as my sex. Am I trans?"
*headdesk*

Ha. Yeah, those can be a bit irritating..

But so long as they're willing to learn the difference between being a gender and acting out certain "gender roles", I don't think these sort of comments are a big problem.

I mean, I used to think I wasn't trans for similar reasons - I liked feminine things and thought that because of that fact, it's impossible for me to be a trans man. But I realized the flaw in that logic eventually.

Yeah, but it gets really annoying. Not to mention that the assumption that I am "really a woman" who is just transitioning for something that I consider on the same level as creationism is kind of insulting to me. I've gotten that too far more than I'd like.

Quote from: Edge on August 25, 2014, 10:25:06 PM
Yeah, but it gets really annoying. Not to mention that the assumption that I am "really a woman" who is just transitioning for something that I consider on the same level as creationism is kind of insulting to me. I've gotten that too far more than I'd like.

I understand.  I'm sure I'll be complaining about the same thing if/when I come out, because I know I'll be getting similar remarks from people who're ignorant to that sort of thing.

I've also been told to "get out in the world." This was before I had even transitioned and all I wanted to do was eat, sleep, and play video games.
Get out into the world for what?

I was telling my sister that I'd gotten the date for my hysto. I had to sit there for half an hour and justify why such a thing was necessary. "but you'll go through the change!" .... I'm on T, it won't matter. "But you'll have to take that for the rest of your life!" ... uuuh I already have to do that ... "are you sure you can handle recovery?!" - pretty sure a few weeks of discomfort isn't going to kill me.  "what if you change your mind?!" - seriously after 6/7 years of transition and chest surgery she still thinks changing my mind is an option. I'm amazed she didn't bring up the "what if you want more kids?" argument....maybe she understands me a tiny bit at least to know not to bring that up xD

I heard this yesterday,
"I don't want to sound rude, but... *Very rude question*..
by CIS female..

And these two,
" You'll always be my little girl / boy no matter what"..
Parents response to teen coming out to them..

"Are you angry because of the testosterone?"
No, I am naturally a very aggressive person.
"Really?"
Yes, really.
"Because I know taking steroids can affect aggression."
No really. I've been aggressive since I was a little kid.
"Well, you shouldn't be."
Well, I am.
"Well, you should stop."
Well, I'm not.

"You don't have to be like who you are. You can be like someone else instead."
Actually, I am like who I am.
"But it's ok to not be."
Not for me, it's not.

I don't know if this counts as I'm only out to my gf and her parents and brother, but my dad said 'there's something weird about you' this morning when I said I just slept in my boxes. yes, I'm trans, get a clue. his fave line when I do something really out of the ordinary in his world. maybe I should have told him I also sleep wearing my packer . Also my brother said top surgery was mutilation, but that was ages ago.

Its not really a line someone said,nor is it a direct ignorance towards trans people, but my sister has a blog called "woman in a man's world" and I'm just like honey you have no idea

One of my friends acted shocked when I told her I had a crush on someone and again when I told her I was dating someone. Last saturday, she asked me how things were going with my boyfriend and admitted that she thought something would ruin it (I can't remember her exact words). I'm not 100% it's trans related, but she didn't act this way or think that "something" would prevent my relationships from working before I came out as trans.
She also has never met my boyfriend and knows next to nothing about him.

Quote from: Liam Erik on August 25, 2014, 11:33:29 PM
I got a variant on that one - I got something like 'your top surgery is unnecessary because I can never tell that your chest isn't flat already!'   So many wrongs... for one thing, how much physical pain and permanent damage do ya reckon has gone into that illusion in the last ten years?  The answer is, a lot.  Very much a lot.

I found out later that the same girl who said that was actually very homophobic and transphobic, but I would have had no clue...she seems pretty liberal and whatnot but no she actually is really opposed to transition.

"I don't understand how this is dysphoric for you, so here's a random assumption that makes no sense."

Not a trans issue so much as an orientation issue, but...
"If you are attracted to guys you must be gay. Only monosexuality exists."
"If you date guys, you must be gay because behaviour is the same as attraction."
"Your attraction to women must have randomly disappeared or have never existed because you're dating a guy."

"Wait a minute, so you have a *insert natal genitals here* or did you get a penis yet?"

Digging this ol' thing up because I heard a new one tonight...

*standing outside my bus, waiting for a passenger*

Man comes up and asks, "Are you trans?"

I smile and confirm that, yes I am trans..."Oh that's cool" he replies.

Female passenger gets onboard and apologizes for the man's question, "It was rude, and besides, it's obvious you are."



Well yes I suppose it is...