Never had a diamond ring, not worth the money. Tried the married bit a few times though.

its a trap!!!


That's been pretty much my mindset on it for the last 21 years.

the same thing as before transition;  A stereotypical social custom indicating engagement and marital status.  An oversold item by jewelers and romantic fiction writers.  It means nothing to me relative to being a complete woman.  Most women i know don't wear them.  I would rather have love than any symbolic item.

I would love to someday wear a diamond wedding ring and that would mean I get to be a bride.. And wear a lovely wedding gown

A friend of mine recently got married, I was a brides maid.. And I remember looking at her and saying wow.. I was also a little jealous.. I loved her dress..

And I started designing my wedding gown in my head like most young women do.. Now I just need the man.

"Will you marry me?"

Yes! Now let's go return this so we can afford rent.

Quote from: Evelyn K on August 24, 2014, 12:36:02 AM
Would being betrothed and wearing a diamond wedding band be the ultimate symbolic completion of your womanhood?

No.  I am married to a woman and have worn a wedding set for four months now.  The legal name and gender change were much more symbolic, but I have come to realize that I have really been female since day one.  Everything else is just trappings.

And yes, it's a cubic zirconia. 

If I was younger and single I would have wanted one. It's not about the meaning though. I like the look. It's beautiful.

Quote from: katiej on August 24, 2014, 02:46:08 AM
Not too big, just tasteful and feminine.  After all, blending in is about the details.

That's what it does for me, my fiancé gave me a diamond engagement ring when we got engaged a few years ago, I wear it with my wedding band, I just blend in now as another married woman, the girl at the nail salon often admires it when I'm getting my nails done, it's tasteful and feminine.

Awwww sooo romantic!!! I would love for a man to put a ring on me! I've dreamt about it forever!

Well, it all depends on how big the diamond is. A half carat and above, "I think , Cha Ching. I finally hit the jackpot." Less than half and I really hope he is extremely cute and caring. But a half carat and above, he don't have to be that cute or even caring for that matter, just rich. Sorry but I do love diamonds.

It's vulgar profligacy. I do not own any jewellery of precious metal or stone, and do not ever intend to, except perhaps for investment reasons. I don't even own any clothes with labels. Being the poor kid amongst rich folk at high school put paid to that.  Now, I'm laughing. 

No, it wouldn't be the "completion of my womanhood." I don't need a man to validate my womanhood, any more than a man needs a woman to validate his manhood. Just being seen as female, especially by other women, is more than enough for me to feel like my womanhood is complete, completely irrespective of relationship status or surgical status or any of those other artificial statuses.

A ring would be a wonderful shiny object that I could fawn over, though. And I will admit, I love me some shiny objects. (Cubic zirconium is more than shiny enough for me, though. Diamonds are just overpriced human-exploited corporate BS. They look exactly the same and cost 10X as much, plus with the added guilt of the whole blood-diamond thing.) What really matters with any jewelry, though, is the whole symbolism that someone loves you enough to give that to you, and you'd probably think of them every time you look at it. That is admittedly pretty sweet and romantic.


(Side note: Ironic that I think that, because the last time I was in a relationship, we mutually agreed on no jewelry. But I can't help it. I LOVE jewelry now that I can actually wear it.)

As someone who sadly sells them for a living, they mean nothing. If someone was to give me one as a romantic gesture, it would be a clear sign that they don't know me and I should run the opposite direction. Diamonds on the whole are overpriced shiny rocks that are used as a social display of wealth, whether that reflects reality or not.

Does it mean rings aren't special in a sentimental way? Not at all. I would never think someone owns me by giving me a ring... But then again I'm polyamorous..

I've dreamed all my life of wearing such a beautiful wedding dress, in love with a man, receiving a diamond, not a big one but a nice diamond ring. Then having a beautiful wedding & being his wife for the rest of my life, loving him in any way I could, helping him, supporting him....... Having his child would be so great but I know that could not be however I would have loved to become pregnant & birth a beautiful child. So yes a diamond ring from a man & marriage would, to me complete my womanhood.   

QuoteI don't understand about
Diamonds and why men buy them
What's so impressive about a diamond
Except the mining?

-Fiona Apple ("Red Red Red" from Extraordinary Machine)

My wife bought me a cubic zirconia wedding set and Ilve it (never wore a wedding band before). She gave me these as a reassurance and re-dedication of her love for me. It was such a wonderful feeling I cried! I never take them off

Aww, I would get all teary eyed and blush and wouldn't stop smiling, showing all my friends and gushing alot.  It's my dream of a man proposing to me, finally get to be a bride and a wife, is extremely exciting to me, like what was first posted it means "you're his woman".  It's defenitly a step to feeling like a complete woman.

Quote from: CrissyMarie on August 28, 2014, 01:00:37 PM
Aww, I would get all teary eyed and blush and wouldn't stop smiling, showing all my friends and gushing alot.  It's my dream of a man proposing to me, finally get to be a bride and a wife, is extremely exciting to me, like what was first posted it means "you're his woman".  It's defenitly a step to feeling like a complete woman.

That's so nice, you look young so maybe you can find your dream & dream man. There are lots of men out there that need & want a nice woman. Go for it GF.

Oh, you know, I'm married to my sweetie, and I wear a narrow band of white gold with half-a-carat of channel set diamonds in it, and interlocked with that band is a second band of yellow gold with a 1.5 carat oval cut Clarity diamond set in it.  I don't know that my wedding set makes me any more of a woman than I already am by virtue of who I am (the Eight Ball Barbie Doll girly-girl extraordinaire!), but I do love the hell outta my diamonds!

I will say this: When one wears a great big chunk of "ice" on her hand, regular manicures become essential.  People do notice my hands and from time to time someone will randomly take my hand to admire my rings.

(I've been known to tell people that I wear the cost of my funeral on my finger... a sort of funeral insurance in the form of a wedding set... in case it comes to that for those who survive me.  Just sayin'.)

I know it seems extravagent and over-the-top to wear a wedding ring that's worth as much as (or more than) my car... but hey, it's a symbol of our love for each other.  And besides, whereas my car depreciates in value day by day, the value of my wedding rings tend to increase over time... as long as the value of gold and diamonds continue to increase.

If you get the chance... take the ring! 

It would mean the WORLD to me, but since it will never happen I will just imagine it and live vicariously through all of you. Please do not lose the romance though. They are not handcuffs or chains, but a display of that special one's devotion to you that the world see's. A diamond is hard to destroy just as your love.