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What's your current employment situation?

Started by Auroramarianna, August 26, 2014, 06:10:01 AM

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What's your current employment situation?

I used to be employed but was fired for being trans
I am employed, but have been fired from a previous job for being trans
I have held the same job for a long time
I have never been discriminated for being trans in any job, or when applying for one
I used to be employed but was fired due to reasons that have nothing to do with being trans
I am still studying (i.e high school, college, etc) but hold a part-time job
I am only studying (i.e high school, college, etc)
I have resorted to kinds of work I wouldn't have submitted myself to survive
I have never held a job due to being trans
I am self-employed
I am retired/housewife
I am unemployed

Ravensong

Been working for the same company over three years now, after being out of work for eight months.  I didn't figure out I was trans* until less than a year ago.  Even though I'm pre-hrt, I've been trying to transition the best I can.  Work "officially" does not know.  I have a feeling some people have an idea about it.  Some people I've told, including one of my supervisors (she's a lesbian with several friends who are transitioning it turns out).  I'm hoping to not have to come out at this job, as I will hopefully be starting a new job in a few months.  I'll be up front with them.
"You may be whatever you resolve to be."   -Thomas J. "Stonewall" Jackson
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kariann330

I was fired in retaliation to my Workers compensation claim. I'm currently suing the pants off the company and am waiting until my knee heals up before calling the staffing agency again
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Megumi

I would select the option: I'm out as trans at work and while I have faced some discrimination from a small faction of employees I have management on my side so I'm still employed with the same company.

Seriously I count my blessings as I've been VERY lucky to have a rather positive outcome to me coming out as transgender at work. I think I have to chalk it up to three things.
1: I have always been one of the nicest people you'd ever meet and just kind as can be. You couldn't help but like the fake me that I presented myself as and somehow I just garnered respect from my fellow employees for literally like NO reason.
2: I have always strived to be one of the best employee's possible, having ADHDDDHAAAHDHDHHHAHHD helps keep me active and busy
3: I have a very positive attitude and I am very understanding of situations

So when I came out my boss said he did not want to lose me as an employee, then later told management that if the company does not try it's hardest to make my transition at work go as smoothly as possible and I end up quitting because of discrimination then his department will go under. Because I've always been so likeable all the people I thought would have hated me have actually done really well and only a small handful of people are jerks every now and then but nothing really bad has happened since it was stated in our company wide email that anyone who breaks our non discrimination policy will be terminated.

Maybe I have the best boss in the world and that helps too! I'm so incredibly lucky that things have gone well thus far after being fulltime for the past month now.

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Wynternight

Employed full-time, not out at work, but working for a federal agency with a very strongly pro-LGBT statement, including gender identity.
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Jenna Marie

I got very lucky; my employer was 100% supportive, and now that I've started job searching (for unrelated reasons) I haven't had any issues there, either. Although I don't disclose on my resume - it's not relevant anymore - it will turn up in a background check.
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Auroramarianna

Wowoowowow, I'm really soo glad so many of you have got support at work. That's undeniably such a gift. I'm happy for you guys!!
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Evelyn K

Quote from: Jill F on August 26, 2014, 01:56:59 PM
Retired.   I quit my last job a few years back, dissolved my businesses and am no longer in a band. 

Currently a housewife.   

I will probably end up helping run (ruin?) my father-in-law's business after he's gone.

Jill F is a mover-n-shaker. Evelyn senses teh bling bling vibe. 8)
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Rachel

I was promoted about 2 months ago. One of the reasons was I add diversity to the department. I got hung up on that for a while.

I have been at the same employer 26.75 years. I am out to HR, Compensation, my boss a few co-workers, a Psychologist who works with upper management and some executive coaches. I have been asked a few questions by some senior leaders about being happy, hair and cloths. They gave me some funny looks too. My boss stated that even though Philly has Trans* protection's and we have an anti-discrimination policy he is concerned I will be openly discriminated against when I eventually fully come out.

Oh, I am a member of Pride at work and do membership drives in the atrium. So people think I am at least gay. I am on the work facebook page marching in the Pride parade. ( I hate the pic, I look fat)

I do not express and one reason is I look like a guy :( and the other is a threat of divorce.
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Christine Eryn

I've had a streak of ->-bleeped-<-ty IT jobs lately, always in a corporate/business culture which I hate with a ->-bleeped-<-ing passion. Everyday is torture. I'm the "sore thumb" that sticks out because I refuse to fully conform and look like all the other clones. Transitioning fully in that kind of environment is 1000% unpossible. I only have to do it a bit longer until I get my FFS, then I honestly don't care what happens.
"There was a sculptor, and he found this stone, a special stone. He dragged it home and he worked on it for months, until he finally finished. When he was ready he showed it to his friends and they said he had created a great statue. And the sculptor said he hadn't created anything, the statue was always there, he just cleared away the small peices." Rambo III
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KittyKat

Its not official until October 23rd but I'm on my terminal leave so I can basically say I'm now medically retired from the Army. Its kind of weird saying I'm retired and getting a pension and full health insurance when I'm turning 29 Thursday. I'm actually going to be a full time student starting Spring 2015 I have to take some pre reqs first but then I'm aiming for Nursing school. I plan on going to court for my name change papers in October and doing the actual change after the 23rd to make it official.
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Jennifer.L

Had the same job for 9 year.  But as soon as I came out I started getting bogus complaints about everything that can be taken out of context.  I've stood my ground and decried it as discrimination.  and so far the company is supporting me.  Its an international big company.  So personal ->-bleeped-<- only goes so far before some one sane realizes that this could be a massive law suit and kill there subordinates prejudice.  So far anyways...
Live your life.

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antonia

I work in the IT Security field which is very male dominated, I've been doing IT for the last 17 years but only been with my current company for about a year, I'm quite comfortable by now and probably would not have any issues getting another job if I needed to but I'm super happy here.

My current company is around 70 people and I'm transitioning on the job, everyone has been super supportive and I feel lucky, the girls told me right away that I should just start using the girls bathroom even when I had not started hormones, the guys treat me with respect and seem to be comfortable with everything.

The only thing I've had a hard time getting used to is the guys opening doors, pushing the elevator buttons, etc.
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Lynne

Had a job for 2 years in an IT company. The owner of the company, who was my boss was really difficult to deal with, but I was the only employee there who got bonus right from the start so he liked my work mostly. I have done the job of at least 3 people, or at least I tried to do it the best I could. In 2 years 25 people left, while at any given time there were no more than 10 people employed.

I wanted to come out to the boss, wanted to find the best time to do it, but that never came.
It was increasingly difficult to discuss problems in depth with him, to the point where I could not say or do anything right in his eyes. It was impossible to give any explanations to problems because without listening to any of it he dismissed it as an excuse. Facts did not matter.

I had bad periods during that 2 years because of trans issues but not that bad that I would deserve that.
He started to give my tasks to other people, double checked my work with other colleagues, sent me home for days in the middle of a project and even went as far as calling me a liar because he was sure that I did not tell him the truth about some results. He even said, he has proof of his claims, but that would have been very strange because you cannot prove something that did not happen. He could not find the evidence of course, but as he is paranoid, it was enough to weaken his trust in me.

My biggest mistake was not coming out because that way I could not be really me and he probably seen that I was hiding something and that fed his paranoia even more. Coming out to him would have probably strengthened his trust in me but in the end it would not have solved his trust issues forever.

In some ways I'm happy that I don't have to put up with this anymore. I had bad dreams and even nightmares about work, it wasn't healthy.
Since I left, my colleagues have the "honor" to be the scapegoats, the problem is, they just follow the orders of the boss...

Currently I'm looking for a job, that means my transition is put on hold even more which I don't like and I'm not a very convincing man. That does not help my employment either. It would be great to be self employed but that would require some connections which I don't have or a bigger portfolio which I don't have time to build before I run out of money.

I chose I used to be employed but was fired due to reasons that have nothing to do with being trans but as can be seen above being trans and not doing anything about it on the job probably made things worse but that was not the only reason.
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Zumbagirl

As I have posted here in the past, when I came out to my employer I was fired the next day. This was years before any kind of work place discrimination laws. So I picked myself off the ground, brushed off the dirt and went for it. It took me a few months to find a new job, but with patience and a lot of effort I did.

I did get a new job but it was for far less money than I made before. Still could have been worse. I managed to keep my transition alive, complete my electro and have my Srs surgery.

My life, my psyche, my being changed with Srs surgery. It altered me somehow. Once I reached the point where I never thought about my gender any more, it was like my mind was running on full throttle. I had passion for the work that I did and began to enjoy my interaction with people. I was drawn out of my shell at last. I love standing up in front of a crowd or coworkers and talking about things I am passionate about. I don't fear things anymore.

With all this passion I have done very well in life, far better than I thought I would have, and I am willing to bet far greater success than if I had "not" transitioned. I
Before I was timid, shy and afraid of the spotlight, not anymore. I am the 100% opposite of where I was those 20 years ago now.
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Carrie Liz

I just started a new job 2 weeks ago, so I'm finally employed again, and as my true self this time. But before that, I was fired from my previous job for being trans. And I was unemployed for 5 months straight until this job finally came through.
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Auroramarianna

Thank you everyone for your replies

Zumbagirl, I am so happy for you! That really sounds inspirational

Carrie Liz, does the new job fit your academic profile? Do you like it better than your previous?

Again thank you everyone for giving away time to answer this thread and questionnaire :)
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pretty pauline

I worked in finance accounting till I got married, I'm now a fulltime housewife.
If your going thru hell, just keep going.
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Olivia-Anne

Technically there is not an option that applies.  I transitioned at work in December.  Ive been with this company 6 years. I was the first trans at work. The bathroom was an issue for a while. Than there as the incident. .. apparently when your a women you opinion doesnt matter. Basically I ended up being demoted and put on probation for 6 months. I have a meeting to get re-instated next week but im not too hopefull. Whether or not my trans status had anything to do with it I dont really know....


-Liv
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Jess42

Well I own some trucks so I am a part time truck driver when one of my drivers need some time off or gets sick. Other than that I am a full time musician wannabe, but will be again. Hopefully.
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Carrie Liz

Quote from: Auroramarianna on August 27, 2014, 02:19:51 PM
Carrie Liz, does the new job fit your academic profile? Do you like it better than your previous?

Again thank you everyone for giving away time to answer this thread and questionnaire :)

Technically my job doesn't fit my academic profile, it only requires a high school degree, but I'm okay with that. I decided to go away from my college field of study, and I found a field that I like working in, so I really don't care.

In terms of the job I'm doing, it's basically the same. I was a poker dealer at my last job, now I'm a poker host who deals sometimes. I wish I was still dealing, but it's not going to be very long before I get upgraded to dealing according to my manager, so I'm really not worried. The big deal is that I was full-time at both of my prior jobs, where now I'm down to part-time, working only 3 days a week. That frankly sucks, and I'm going to have to work my way back up to a full-time dealing job, but for now there's nothing I can do about it. Once I get up to dealing full-time, I'll be in WAY better shape than I was before, because the casino I'm working at now has much more consistent poker business. So once I've been there for a while, it should be an upgrade, but for now it's a bit of a step down.
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