Quote from: kira21 ♡♡♡ on August 27, 2014, 01:08:24 PM
I have friends who don't know. Sometimes I have felt like I should tell them out of fear they will find out and resent it. I have always been glad a few weeks after that I didn't. Its a personal thing. I don't have a duty to disclose anything and there is a lot to lose, besides, if I want to be able to get on with my life and forget I am trans, I think its easier. Its not like issues that are affected by my past transition come up very frequently at all and I find it quite easy to avoid them without having to lie. Mostly we talk about clothes, crafts and husbands and boyfriends.

In the end that's what it's about ^^___^^. Living your life the best way you see fit. I too have many friends that don't know, and I have those that do. For the most part I'm just out living life. A good example of this was today at my pain management Doctors appt. While waiting for my prescriptions a lady came over and struck up a conversation with me. We just started chatting about every day stuff. Just two women having a normal conversation. It felt great to make a new friend too.

Ali

Nobody I meet knows. I have friends and girl friends who are completely open with me, nobody suspects anything. It has its positives and negatives. I like that people don't know, but at the same time I have had to alter my life history so I'm not honest with them about how I grew up and stuff.

So I sort of feel like a lier...I don't like that part.

Judgement in all things. I generally assume that everyone can guess anyway - which cleverly removes the issue of freaking out if people know - and use my judgement on whether or not to tell people. I've only had one guy be a twonk about it, and that was when I wasn't present and he was being a privileged ass hole. On the rare occasions people read me as trans rather than cis, I'm generally laid back and matter of fact about it so it's not really an issue.

I will say that being open is a very powerful thing, but you are under no obligation to live visibly.