Susan's Place Logo

News:

Please be sure to review The Site terms of service, and rules to live by

Main Menu

Did transition change your sexual preference?

Started by kelly_aus, September 04, 2014, 03:38:48 AM

Previous topic - Next topic

0 Members and 1 Guest are viewing this topic.

h3llsb3lls

I haven't started HRT yet, and I'm only part time, but my sexual it has.... I don't want to say changed, but it has definitely evolved. I was a bisexual biological female with a preference for women and a need to dominate. As I've been transitioning, I appreciate an attractive female, but I've become far more attracted to men, making me come to identify as a gay male.
Because being awesome just wasn't enough.

Figured it out the first time: 1994
Figured it out again: 2002
Figured it out again again: 2008
Figured it out and told someone: 2011
Came out to parents: June 2014
Came out to closest friends: June 2014
First outing as Erik: June 28th 2014
Came out to conservative sister: September 2014
  •  

devon14

I would have to say that hormones greatly impacted me who I am sexually attracted to now. I feel that I can relate more to females way more than I can with males in any context be that sexual or not. As such, I am a total lesbian now and proud of it! :D

EDIT: Before hormones, I thought I was asexual and didn't really have a sexual preference.
  •  

Rachelicious

Quote from: Codia on September 04, 2014, 11:15:08 AM
To label myself I've considered myself asexual for years. I'm totally unsure of what I would even want from a relationship and still have no sexual desire.

I used to consider myself asexual. Then I realized I actually am not lacking in sexual attraction, but just that I have extremely high standards. I'd never date someone less intelligent, for instance.
  •  

Melizza

It totally did, before HRT i did not like men at all only women, but once I started HRT and after a couple of months i realized that my body was getting turned on by men, it was a totally different feeling than anything I have ever felt before, just by looking at them, their smell when working out, their strong bodies, now all of that really appeals to me.

I should also mentioned, I do not like women anymore.

Nevertheless, i should mention that i am really happy with the changes, both physically and emotionally.
HRT - January 1, 2012
Full Time - April 2012
BA - May 2013
GRS - August 2014

http://www.mitransicion.com
  •  

alabamagirl

It's fascinating to see all the different ways transition affects sexuality.
  •  

stephaniec

  •  

marikvulpina

I'm not on hormones yet, but by boyfriend's transition changed me sexuality right up.

I'd long considered myself a lesbian, but just the knowledge that he's been a dude all along has made me reevaluate any potential androsexuality, and became aware of how comfortable i was with the idea. and now after having netflixed the first five seasons of supernatural, i have to admit a bit of a crush on Jared Padalecki. and both actresses that played Ruby.

I think i still prefer females, but I'm decidedly Bi. and that may change more once i can gen HRT sorted.
  •  

Rachelicious

I just re-read the thread title...  8)

Yes, my sexual preference changed after transition. In certain situations, I now prefer sex  ;D
  •  

emilyking

Nope.  It just helped me remember I like boys.  I tried so hard to forget, because I thought I was gay.  And you, church stuff ready messes with ya.
  •  

Jess42

I don't really know yet but I was bi before, bi now and probably will be bi after next month.
  •  

Miss_Bungle1991

  •  

Tessa James

Not really change but it has added an even greater dimensions to the joy of being Bi.  I like being with men and women and some of that has to do with the contrasts where I feel more feminine than ever.  I like the contrast of a man's body, hair, even odor compared to my new girlyness.  I love cuddling up with my partner and all of our wonderful femininity coming together.  What's not to like sharing love?

Transition has also had a pronounced impact on my previously too insistent and urgent arousal.  Sexuality now has greater depth, and my understanding of intimacy and romance are enhanced.
Open, out and evolving queer trans person forever with HRT support since March 13, 2013
  •  

Zumbagirl

I wouldn't say change because I believe that is an unchanging part of my being. Instead I would use the word clarify. With the right plumbing in place it was much easier to figure who I was attracted to. If that helps.
  •  

Ltl89

Nope, my sexuality hasn't been changed.  While I think hrt plays a powerful role in terms of perception and emotions,  I think sexuality shifts are likely more related to opening oneself up and accepting who we are.  However, I will say though that I do crave romance and intimacy much more after hormones.  So my sexuality is the same, but how I experience it is a bit different.
  •  

Wynternight

Quote from: Pikachu on September 04, 2014, 04:48:19 AM
My sexuality has remained the same (lesbian), but my views on it have changed a lot since transition. When I was living as male, it was mostly just about what turned me on physically. Now I'm almost completely uninterested in that aspect of it, and it's more about the deep emotional connection I can form with another woman.

I'm completely the opposite. For me it's always been about the emotional bond. The physical bit has always been a chore for me; something to be endured. That said I'm not sure where my attractions are. I do carry a bit of a torch for Viggo Mortenson and the actors who play Sam, Dean, and Castiel on Supernatural but I haven't really been interested in being with a male as a male-bodied individual.
Stooping down, dipping my wings, I came into the darkly-splendid abodes. There, in that formless abyss was I made a partaker of the Mysteries Averse. LIBER CORDIS CINCTI SERPENTE-11;4

HRT- 31 August, 2014
FT - 7 Sep, 2016
VFS- 19 October, 2016
FFS/BA - 28 Feb, 2018
SRS - 31 Oct 2018
  •  

Wynternight

Quote from: marikvulpina on September 04, 2014, 03:56:18 PM
I'm not on hormones yet, but by boyfriend's transition changed me sexuality right up.

I'd long considered myself a lesbian, but just the knowledge that he's been a dude all along has made me reevaluate any potential androsexuality, and became aware of how comfortable i was with the idea. and now after having netflixed the first five seasons of supernatural, i have to admit a bit of a crush on Jared Padalecki. and both actresses that played Ruby.

I think i still prefer females, but I'm decidedly Bi. and that may change more once i can gen HRT sorted.

I was gaming the other night and told my friend I had to log to spend the night with my two boyfriends, Sam and Dean. She laughed and said "you're such a ho!"

I think I could have a slice of angelfood cake too: Castiel is pretty damn attractive.
Stooping down, dipping my wings, I came into the darkly-splendid abodes. There, in that formless abyss was I made a partaker of the Mysteries Averse. LIBER CORDIS CINCTI SERPENTE-11;4

HRT- 31 August, 2014
FT - 7 Sep, 2016
VFS- 19 October, 2016
FFS/BA - 28 Feb, 2018
SRS - 31 Oct 2018
  •  

Jess42

Quote from: Wynternight on September 04, 2014, 05:17:58 PM
I'm completely the opposite. For me it's always been about the emotional bond. The physical bit has always been a chore for me; something to be endured.

I'm kind of like that. I really had to work hard and always had to have some type of emotional bond there. Temporary or not. As long as there is some emotional bond there.
  •  

kelly_aus

Some interesting answers here.. But I'm interested to see how many people have brought hormones in to it. Hormones were not part of the question.
  •  

Wynternight

Quote from: kelly_aus on September 04, 2014, 06:15:36 PM
Some interesting answers here.. But I'm interested to see how many people have brought hormones in to it. Hormones were not part of the question.

Hormones are part of transition, are they not?
Stooping down, dipping my wings, I came into the darkly-splendid abodes. There, in that formless abyss was I made a partaker of the Mysteries Averse. LIBER CORDIS CINCTI SERPENTE-11;4

HRT- 31 August, 2014
FT - 7 Sep, 2016
VFS- 19 October, 2016
FFS/BA - 28 Feb, 2018
SRS - 31 Oct 2018
  •  

kelly_aus

Quote from: Wynternight on September 04, 2014, 06:21:38 PM
Hormones are part of transition, are they not?

They are, yes. But I'm quite interested to see that hormones seem to frequently labelled as the cause by some..
  •