Hello x: Kinda new here. I'm Keaton. (well.. according to me I am.) I am a ftm transgender, a boy trapped inside a girls body. I finally told my mom, but in finally telling her this after so many years I want to dump all the stuff I'm thinking onto her. Like a name change, surgery, shots. All that stuff. Because I've been thinking about it for sooo long. She just found out so this is all so overwhelming for her and I can't bring myself to talk about it. I'm so sad. She bought me like a few guy clothes and I have to constantly do wash. Basically I'm so uncomfortable in my own skin and the only person I have is my mom but I can't even talk to her.

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Well, at least she bought you the clothes- She's not entirely opposed to it. These things do take time, I'm waiting until I reach legal age to do any medical transitioning (My parents would likely put it off as long as they could, making sure I'm sure- Which at this point isn't too bad, I have only a couple of years left). The best thing is understanding in these cases- See where she's coming from and hopefully she'll do the same for you. Meanwhile, I've found that unless you are in a very conservative area, people will be accepting. Especially young people.
Everything will take some time, which is painful to hear- What does help is finding someone to talk to, counseling, and coming out completely in a safe and non-judgmental environment. What ever her standing is on the issue, she probably won't reject the idea of getting a counselor. It was helpful for me to have someone somewhat unbiased about my life and just to talk to- And a diagnosis is one of the first steps for medical and legal transition.

Welcome Keaton to Susan's family,

We have a very large group of ftm here that sure can help in all stages of there transition.

I know at this moment so much is rushing in your head and you need to find that happy medium.

Finding a gender therapist is a great way to start. Will help you find where you are and where you need to be in time moving forward.

Transition is a marathon and not a sprint so relax and walk your path as needed.

Hey Keaton! Congratulations on coming out to your mom, that's huge! It definitely sounds like she's at least open to the idea. You didn't say she flipped out on you or any thing, and that is a great sign. Especially since she bought you some guys clothes. I think that's very understanding of you to not want to bombard your mom with information. I first told my mom about my gender confusion 3/4 years ago and she still gets overwhelmed a lot of the time when I'm explaining everything I'm working towards. Just remain confident about the way you feel, that's important, and continue to ease her into everything. Work on building up your male wardrobe for now. Then get her comfortable about using your preferred name and pronouns. Throughout it all, slowly make sure she's aware of all the medical and legal stuff you're going to have to take care of. Just get her used to what exists and ease her into what you want. That's basically how I've done things with my family. It hasn't been the quickest route, but it's worked for me and my family situation. Your mom seems more comfortable from the get go, which is awesome bro. Good luck! And feel free to post about anything you need to talk about one this forum, there's pretty much always someone around.