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My low self-esteem is making me suicidial..? I don't wanna be a short male..

Started by MartyMcfly, March 26, 2014, 05:39:03 PM

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lilthumper

Hey man you are taller than me so you have at least one bro who your taller than.  I am only 5 feet tall myself.  I would love nothing more than to be taller but that is nothing more than a pipedream for myself unless I decided to subject myself to torture to make myself taller.  I don't pretend that this fun but for me I got the short straw of everyone in my life.  Both guys and girls are taller than me and its just something that I have had to learn to live with.  I realize that I cant have everything go my way and Ive just had to adjust my views to them.
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janetcgtv

Hey, this is something you shouldn't have to worry about. Look at the alternative. That don't help either. If possible look into the pros and cons if modern medicine can lengthen your legs.

I'm MTF 
Working as a man you get 600 dollars a year less for each inch shorter than another male(didn't like it). I'm taller then my father and he was OK with it. Like you can be 6'11" (I'm 5'7")but a guy bigger than you will get more.
The wages you get while working effect your Social Security when you retire.

If I was living my life as a woman, I would get only 75% of my salary. On a TV documentary that showed how TS's
live. One was a computer programmer, had surgery, and got only 75% of with she earned before SRS. But kept her job.
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littleredrobinhood

I'm glad I saw this thread!  :D

For some reason I had this idea in my head that I was the shortest guy on the site (I'm 4'10" to 4'11" and I'm 22 years old), and that everyone here was 5'5" and up. So I'm relieved to know I'm not the only one in that height range.

It's also a relief to hear that my height shouldn't cause me any problems when it comes to "passing".. something I was pretty worried about. Because I can bind and I can pack, and I can take hormones to deepen my voice - and even grow a beard if I felt like it.. But height? Can't do anything about that.

All that said, I'm still a bit insecure because even if no one questions my gender.. short men don't seem to be very desirable to most people. But, oh well.. can't do anything about that, either. Probably shouldn't dwell on it too much.
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Foxglove

Hi, Marty!  Here's my two cents' worth:

I'm 5'3" and I lived a lot of years in the male world.  When I finally decided to come out, I got two for the price of one--right gender and right size.  Lucky for me. 

But I'm not going to BS you.  It's not fun being a very small male.  Some of the things I had to put up with were discouraging, to say the least.

One example: a guy I knew was basically a very decent guy at heart, just incredibly brainless in ways.  One day he said something to me I simply could not believe.  I didn't just count to ten.  I counted to ten million.  I gave myself a couple of days to cool down before I went back and confronted him.  And even so, I was so mad I was having a hard time trying not to break down crying.  But I got through to him.  He realized he'd gone way too far.  And he never said anything like that again.  So, yes, you'll have that sort of stuff to contend with.

On the other hand, what you'll discover is that if you're someone who's worthy of respect, people who themselves are worthy of respect will respect you.  They won't let your size bother them.  It simply won't be a factor with them.  You'll discover that life is very liveable.  Everybody has something they have to put up with.  It's no fun, but the world is full of ****holes, and it's not just people who are too tall or too small who have to put up with them.

So you see, I'm in a position to compare: which is worse, wrong gender or wrong size?  And I can tell you, it's no contest.  You want to be the right gender.
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Felix

I only clicked here to make sure someone linked the shortguys tumblr. xD

I got lucky, and I was very tall "for a girl," but my cisfemale child is very likely going to be taller than I am, and my cismale dad is barely my height. It's unfortunate that stature is often a flag for a person's gender status, but there are lots of tall women and short men. I don't know where you live, but I'm used to mixed populations where height is more connected to racial heritage than gender.

You might could compensate some with working out and finding other visible gender cues. There are tall women in heels and muscular short men who work that dynamic effectively.
everybody's house is haunted
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AJarrah

I have four coworkers between both of my jobs that are 5'4" and bio-males (as far as I know at least, I never reach into their pants). Short isn't a female thing. It's a human thing. I know grown military manly men that are 5'3". I hate being short, but if it's any consolation, I started T when I was 19 and 5'3", now I"m 22 and 5'4 1/2", so maybe you will keep growing a little longer. Maybe not, but not every guy is tall. Not every guy has as full of beards as some of us do. Every single person in the world is different. Don't be too down on yourself over having a trait that even a sh-tload of bio-males have.

Also, shoe lifts are nice. I kid you not I stuff my shoes to make me taller sometimes.
Semper Fidelis



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Deinewelt

I am a short MTF who lived as a short male for a very long time.  First, from my experience doctors will tell you whatever will not get your hopes up.  Also there might be things you can do as another poster mentioned using growth hormones. 

When I was little the doctors told my parents that I would be short unless I took the HGH; however, they never put me on it, which resulted in me being about 5'5.  My first impression was that this sucked big time.  It took me awhile to understand that there are advantages and disadvantages to being a small guy, but none of them can EVER make someone less of a man if that is who they really are at heart.  Although I gender myself female, life has taught me the unbelievable power of my male body, even if I am short and small at only around 120 lbs.  For one thing, smaller males who stay in good shape have incredible strength and speed comparatively.  When I was 18, I could butterfly my own weight and easily stand up to somebody much taller.

Think of it this way, some cars have big V8 engines and others come with smaller engines with turbo.  Being a smaller guy is like having a turbo IMO.  It is absolutely unbelievable what a smaller guy can be capable that a taller guy could never do in terms of speed, stamina, and strength to weight ratio.  Being short does automatically rule you out of certain partners because many woman never date below a certain height; however, many still do and if you learn the rules, woman still respond well.
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Declan.

I know a cisgender man who is 5'1" and has no trouble dating. He is in the military. Everyone assumes he is much taller than he actually is because he's muscular and has intense energy. He seems huge even when you're standing next to him.
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