Earlier today I was hanging out with my best friend watching movies on xbox.  He noticed that my avatar had been changed to a female one and asked me why.  So I awkwardly stammered out my usual excuse for using female characters, that if I was going to look at something I may as well look at something attractive.  He gave me ->-bleeped-<- about it and said "sometimes I think you wish you were female".  Fortunately he didn't pursue it any further, but I feel like I may have missed an opportunity to come out there.  All in good time I suppose.

Yes, all in good time. When I got asked by a work colleague why I'd waxed my legs (I was wearing shorts) I just laughed and said "why not?". It's not an excuse and it's not an answer but it also tells it like it is. Why not, indeed?

why do you wear nail polish?
Because I am awesome :-)

All in good time. You will know when it is right, and when you are comfortable to tell others. I know personally one of my friends pushed me into telling them still not sure now if I am completely happy about that.

Exactly, all in good time- only do it when you feel comfortable doing so. I nearly told my best friend a couple days ago, but then thought about it for a while longer and chose not to. It doesn't make you any less valid! Just wait till you're ready. Personally, I'm waiting until after my first clinical consult and hormone prescription- just so that I can have them near me as a sort of comforting reassurance when I do come out. In any case, you aren't alone dear! Much love from a fellow sister.

Think about the long term when you plan it all out. The people who you trust may tell people in "confidence", and before you know it, it's made it's way around to dozens of people. Especially if your coming out will be a rather gradual, slow process, I'd really consider who you choose to tell and the sequence otherwise you may find out way after the fact that a ton of people already know which may be upsetting to your plans and comfort level.

Quote from: Daphne on September 19, 2014, 05:50:09 PM
Think about the long term when you plan it all out. The people who you trust may tell people in "confidence", and before you know it, it's made it's way around to dozens of people. Especially if your coming out will be a rather gradual, slow process, I'd really consider who you choose to tell and the sequence otherwise you may find out way after the fact that a ton of people already know which may be upsetting to your plans and comfort level.

So true.  I didn't want my coming out to be something I had to do because of a rumor spreading like wildfire.  I wanted to be 100% in control of the situation.  I initially told my wife and one cisgirl friend that I have known since I was 18.  When I went fulltime, telling the world was a must, so after I told my family I decided to rip the proverbial band-aid off and came out on Facebook.