Well as the tittle implies, my mum now knows.. She flew down for two days to where I have been working (Dunedin NZ) with the knowledge that I had something big to tell her, but not quite what (don't worry she knew it wasn't terrible news).
For some background on me,; I'm fulltime now although I've only been on HRT for about 12 weeks, things have happened kinda fast and mentally I just cant do boy mode anymore... I don't really know if I pass but I know longer stress too much about it, I don't seem to notice any horrible stares or anything though. My face has changed, my hair has grown out a bit and has gotten quite cute and wavy/curly which helps me with passing I think (if I do pass at all), I've lost a lot of body mass and have small boobs now lol. I'm totally out at work and to everyone that knows me down here, I smile so much more now

So I picked her up at the airport, totally freaking out, I was in full day makeup and my new feminine take on my what I need to wear for work.. Her look when I turned around to face, god I felt so bad, the stages of recognition then questioning, then partial understanding of what she was seeing were torture, luckily I just dived in for a huge hug as soon I could to spare us both..
Well as you can imagine a really big talk ensued... wine was drunk and we went out for a nice meal..
Well an already long story slightly shorter... Although initially she shocked she is not all that surprised apparently, I have two  brothers and I was the one she always expected to be different, she told me about all of this stuff I did as a toddler and small child which I had no idea about until now, which was really interesting to hear. They were just things like pre socialisation interests and nature, through to the way I walked etc. Apparently she's always wondered about my unusually wide hips and narrow waist etc, plus a few more feminine body traits, lucky me I guess. After talking it all out she now probably my biggest supporter, it's just so great! Apparently this me is much more likeable lol, we decided on my new name and she is being great about using it and the right pronouns too. I was so worried it would be totally shocking and horrifying for her and she would think it was wrong etc.
We ended up having a great time and I think we are now closer than ever, I'm just so happy! We did cover the tough issues too though, she worries about my future and my being a lot more vulnerable now... I think I mostly assuaged her fears but I worry that she still worries a lot.. (crazy women lol).
Well it is a huge weight off, I'm so glad I told her now as the next opportunity will be less than a week before I fly off for FFS... and that would have been terrible of me...

Thanks for listening to my tale lol, take care everyone, and thanks for the amazing info and support

Claire

Woo! Congrats!

That's great!!!!!

On a side note, I used to work with someone from Dunedin who is maybe the oddest person I've ever met, my manager, also a kiwi once told me the the further south you get, the more odd you get, Dunedin is the very bottom.

Congratulations! Very happy for you!

Congratulations, I am happy for you.

Claire, wow!  What a wonderful outcome - I love reading these stories, and this one had tears in my eyes when your mom recognized you and you dived in for a huge hug.  She sounds like a cool mom to have, and you sound like a cool daughter too.

Another check mark in the "things can go well sometimes" column!  The more happy stories like this are circulated, the more people will learn that rejection of trans* relatives is an unacceptable and abnormal reaction to their coming out.  As you've shown, it's a happy, joyous, amazingly beautiful moment.

Thanks so much for sharing.  I'm genuinely happy for how well things worked out.

Quote from: lemon_ice on September 14, 2014, 05:10:43 AM
Apparently this me is much more likeable

Claire

Always so cool to hear happy stories instead of the angst-filled ones, and isn't it nice to know that you've come out new and improved!

5 months into HRT I've just spent a long weekend with my parents and they seem to prefer me this way

Good luck with your FFS - where are you going and what are you having done?

Hugs
Julia

Congrats!!!! This is really good news!!! Having your mother support will make everything else a lot easier!!!

Congrats I'm very happy for you.

Quote from: Julia-Madrid on September 14, 2014, 08:21:01 AM5 months into HRT I've just spent a long weekend with my parents and they seem to prefer me this way

Mine too.  I think they're happy that their new daughter happy, and the grumpy old male me has disappeared.

Likewise, I think I prefer my parents from my new female perspective.  Far easier to talk to and connect with.

congrats and good luck..

Congratulations girl! So happy for you! Update us on the FFS. Hope all goes well.

Quote from: lemon_ice on September 14, 2014, 05:10:43 AM
Apparently she's always wondered about my unusually wide hips and narrow waist etc, plus a few more feminine body traits, lucky me I guess.

Heh, this is probably going to be part of the talk with my mom, when I do have it. I have a narrow-ish waist, wide-ish hips (WHR 0.79) and alot of my childhood pictures look like a girl with short hair.

I'm so glad it's working out for you! Hope the FFS goes well.

Awesome! 
Mom's are great especially when they are really loving.

Congrats to you! Really amazing. I hope to reach that point someday with my mom.

Congratulations! Acceptance is wonderful.

Congratulations!  I don't think I would've had the courage with my mom to just show up as me, I admire that.  Your mom sounds like a wonderful person.  I kind of botched the whole coming out process with my mom.  But now that all is out in the open,  we do occasionally have those conversations like you described, about feminine traits I had when I was a kid.  Always really interesting to talk about that stuff, since it's not memories you think about often.

I TOTALLY understand what you mean about not being able to stomach boy mode anymore.  I went on a vacation as myself, and I intended to do boy mode with the few people who didn't know after I got back.  That ended up being the start of full time, and I could NOT force myself to put on those clothes again afterwards.  I tried.  Ended up avoiding those people for weeks until I could figure out how to tell them.