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How trans friendly is your neighborhood

Started by stephaniec, September 24, 2014, 08:08:55 PM

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stephaniec

I live in a college town , suburb of Chicago. very accepting of diversity. I love it, as I progress in transition nothing more than curious looks every so often. How is your environment for transitioning.
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Mariah

The neighbors that I know and have interactions with have been very supportive otherwise the neighborhood pretty much keeps to themselves. It's fairly quiet neighborhood except for the school bell going off during the day.
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Jill F

So far the neighbors haven't come to my door with torches and pitchforks and tried to run me out of town, so I'd say mine's probably OK.
But seriously, LA definitely isn't the most trans-unfriendly place to be.  There are places I wouldn't go, but I wouldn't go there either even if I was a cishetdudebro with a bulletproof vest.
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Jessica Merriman

Mine is good. Some people are not thrilled, but have the decency to let me be in peace. Kind of a mutual respect thingy. No one has been hostile or derogatory and that is saying a LOT for a town where it closes down for Friday Night High School Football. I have been treated with respect even by those who have opposing views.  :)
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stephaniec

Quote from: Jessica Merriman on September 24, 2014, 08:42:31 PM
Mine is good. Some people are not thrilled, but have the decency to let me be in peace. Kind of a mutual respect thingy. No one has been hostile or derogatory and that is saying a LOT for a town where it closes down for Friday Night High School Football. I have been treated with respect even by those who have opposing views.  :)
good to hear
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ImagineKate

Not sure. I live in NJ but I live out in the countryside. Most people around here mind their own business. I do work in NYC and go there daily though.
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Mark3

We've lived in this house for 1 1/2 years, and don't even know the first names of our next door neighbors, nor them us..?

Im not trans binary, but I don't think anyone in me neighborhood would look twice, or pay any attention..??
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Sydney_NYC

Northern NJ (Southern Bergen County that's highly populated) and no one batted an eye when I transitioned. When I came out to my downstairs neighbor, she was like: "Transgender, ohh like Chaz Bono, yeah me and the kids think he's great." My neighbor next door is a school teacher and when I came out to her she told me her best friend has a transgender son. Plus everyone here in NJ pretty much minds there own business.
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Lady_Oracle

I'm not involved in my local community at all so I don't have a clear idea but from the reactions I had prehrt, not very trans friendly at least in the area, not sure about my neighborhood. I don't really know any of my neighbors and tons of people have moved in and out and now that I pass, I wouldn't know if they're trans friendly unless I come out to them in a conversation.
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Cassie Soup

#9
I live in a small college town, there is nothing here besides the college and a big named store, I even work in retail and no one has said anything mean to me. Which is strange because you wouldnt think Ohio would be that accepting. I have gotten looks from some of my co workers and some people have laughted at my voice, besides that and the fact that my work thought it would be a good idea to out me to everyone, and then go and tell all the new hires about me to... it hasnt been to bad.
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CrysC

Seattle area is great if you are close to Seattle.  I'm a bit farther out and the pharmacist had never seen a guy come in for estrogen before.  He was a bit wigged out but so far that's been the worst of it here. 
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MacG

So far, I don't think I'm passing enough to even be noticed, so I don't know. I've gotten nothing weird. One of my neighbors is on my Facebook (where I'm out) and is cool beans.

Jean24

Well not everybody is going to have good news but I guess I can make do until I move to San Francisco or Seattle lol. Well I have been living in Phoenix for the last twenty something years and it's not a great place to live unless the only thing you take into account is cost of living. My neighborhood has been heading downhill for years, and I can only imagine what your average citizen here thinks of transgendered people. I work about 20 miles away at the major airport and the people there seem about as friendly. They have no clue as to my gender identity but when "trannies" came up and I asked them if they would rather wake up next to one or with a Mike Tyson tattoo on their face, they all chose the tattoo. I'm kinda drunk because today sucked and will be completely honest here. I HATE being trans. I wish the world were both completely accepting and people could choose which gender is appropriate for them (here, there, or anywhere in between). I constantly think about how I hate myself  for being sterile as the gender that I identify as.

Tell me to get help if you want, but I can't even have children - ever. And it really just kills me to know that it will be held against me forever.
Trying to take it one day at a time :)
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ImagineKate


Quote from: Sydney_NYC on September 24, 2014, 11:34:00 PM
Northern NJ (Southern Bergen County that's highly populated) and no one batted an eye when I transitioned. When I came out to my downstairs neighbor, she was like: "Transgender, ohh like Chaz Bono, yeah me and the kids think he's great." My neighbor next door is a school teacher and when I came out to her she told me her best friend has a transgender son. Plus everyone here in NJ pretty much minds there own business.

NJ is a big place. Once you get west of 287 things get a little different. I'm not sure how things would go over in my town. I live in sussex county. Our neighbors called the town when we moved in because they thought that we were terrorists. No joke. It's beautiful up here and I love it but sometimes people can be a bit intolerant. However that's being diluted due to transplants (such as me) so there is hope. But I don't want to stay here long term.
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Blue Senpai

I've lived in this building practically since infancy and the neighbors knew me since then. How they will take my transition remains to be seen but I'll be really careful when changes get noticeable.
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JourneyingSam

I am blessed as it is pretty good!

I live in North Surrey in the UK (About 14 miles west south west of London).

I'm not in stealth as too many folks know me from "before" (I've lived in this town for 14 years) and I can't remember ever being harassed (Tho there is another trans girl in town who was one challenged for using the ladies room and the local supermarket ... got into the local news and all :( )
I work as an advisor at the town's Citizen Advice Centre (3 years now) and thus meet a lot of different folks from the area ... never had an issue ... sometimes not sure if they realise or not.

Sam x
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Ltl89

So far everything has been okay, but I'm still not full time.  From what I experience it could be better and it could be worse.  We'll see as I go on.  I live somewhere in NY if that helps.
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Eva

Much more than most people can imagine including me... Ive had ZERO problems so far in Rural Western South Dakota =)  For such an allegedly "conservative" place I think most would be surprised at what really goes on around here :o ;D
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Mariah

This is exactly what surprises me about my area is that it so conservative that they are probably going to send someone from the tea party to congress this time. Yet, they have been completely supportive.
Quote from: Eva on September 25, 2014, 09:35:56 AM
Much more than most people can imagine including me... Ive had ZERO problems so far in Rural Western South Dakota =)  For such an allegedly "conservative" place I think most would be surprised at what really goes on around here :o ;D
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suzifrommd

None of my neighbors have commented. Don't know if any of them have clocked me or not. Occasionally if I go out without my wig and use a hat to cover my thinning hair, I'll get scowls from strangers on the street who clock me. No one has ever harassed me.
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