I finally went and did it, and it was probably the biggest sense of relief I've had in a long time.

Unpacked a lot of stuff but she was more focused on where I was going instead of my past. We pretty much established the obvious (I am trans) from the get go and we're forming a roadmap now. The focus is how I'm doing it with my wife and kids.

No endo/hormones appt just yet but she said that could be taken care of easily when I'm ready.

This is great news. So pleased that your first session went so well.

Safe travels

Aisla

That's great. Yes, a focus on the future and where you want to go is quite important in this process.

A big first step hun, and a wonderful one. Good luck with that.

As for your wife and kids do you expect them to be accepting?

*hugs* and congratulations.

What's weird is she said that she doesn't need a letter for hormones. She can just refer me to an endo, and she has one in the city. I would need a letter for surgery (but I am not there yet).

But right now the focus is on getting my family on board, or coping with them not being on board. She thinks I'm in a good place and I mentioned the support I have online from Susan's.

Quote from: Alice Rogers on October 14, 2014, 03:08:40 PM
A big first step hun, and a wonderful one. Good luck with that.

As for your wife and kids do you expect them to be accepting?

*hugs* and congratulations.

I think she'll accept but not be happy. The kids? Probably accepting. They love me unconditionally. I'm worried about their protection, particularly bullying in school.

Quote from: ImagineKate on October 14, 2014, 03:09:34 PM
I think she'll accept but not be happy. The kids? Probably accepting. They love me unconditionally. I'm worried about their protection, particularly bullying in school.

My kids have experienced absolutely no bullying at all, and that's an inner city school in Hull (pronounced Hell)

Of course that depends on how old they are, mine are 10 and 12. Good luck with your wife, she will be the greatest challenge and I hope that that conversation goes well for you *hugs*

Alice
xx

They're in a catholic school in suburban NJ. That said there are divorced parents who take turns. I wonder if there are any gay or trans parents

Quote from: ImagineKate on October 14, 2014, 03:35:28 PM
They're in a catholic school in suburban NJ. That said there are divorced parents who take turns. I wonder if there are any gay or trans parents

Depending on how big the school is I would say its almost a certainty, I know the school where my kids are I know personally of a Lesbian couple and a trans FtM with a child there, the kids just take it as normal if it is presented as normal. I have visibly transitioned over the last few years in front of my Kids schoolmates, yeah I get the odd stare, but that's how kids learn isn't it?

Second session today. Pretty productive. However she says call her when I'm ready for the next one if I have something to talk about.

Next step for me is pretty serious, talking to HR at work. She told me I should start talking to HR and see what policies they have. The main focus, however, is my family. This therapist specializes in transgender people with families.

HRT is not a problem, I'm good for it whenever I'm ready. She did suggest hair removal first though (I agree).

I went in dressed this time. I actually went to work this way. Not a dress or skirt, but skinny jeans and a blouse. It actually feels quite good even though I'm half covered at work.