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Started by Misato, October 14, 2014, 03:40:13 PM

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Misato

I have heard more about periods from not my girlfriend in the last week and today I was told, "Wait until you give birth!"

For someone who thought her past would always be obvious to everyone (and who was severely misgendered about a month ago) this development is welcome, unexpected and unsettling all at the same time.
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Alice Rogers

I would be beaming from ear to ear! Just enjoy it hun! :)
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I would rather that my spark should burn out in a brilliant blaze than it should be stifled by dry-rot.
I would rather be a superb meteor, every atom of me in magnificent glow, than a sleepy and permanent planet.
The function of man is to live, not to exist.
I shall not waste my days trying to prolong them.
I shall use my time." Jack London
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Ms Grace

It's certainly a great sign of acceptance. Congrats! Although I'd also find it a bit bittersweet since pregnancy will never happen, but then I'm sure there are cis women who would feel sad at that comment too due to their infertility.
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kaylagirl0806

Congratulations Misato!!!!! I bet that feels amazing ;D
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ImagineKate

From all the complaining my wife does about her "friend" every month, I'm kinda glad I'm not having one. Then again I feel incomplete that I don't have one.
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VivianK

I would have probably started laughing and had to pretend it was my lack of desire to give birth that caused the reaction.  I laugh at all sort of inappropriate things that have the potential to out me. 
E.g.  An hour ago a Perdue chicken commercial comes on.  "No added hormones or steroids!" 
Me: "Aww, but I want hormones and steroids!"
*pause*
Me: *laughs histerically*
Mom: *confused stare*
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mrs izzy

Me I got the menopause things.

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Ravensong

That would have sent my mood downhill real quick.  I would have loved being accepted like that, but the lack of period (I've always wanted to have to deal with that, believe it or not) and fertility/ability to carry and give birth are on my very short list of strong dysphoric triggers.  I can put off the feelings most of the time, but if that was said to me, it would've been a kick in the gut to me.

Bask in it while/if you can though, and if your pic is anything to go by, I'd have never known you were anything but cis.
"You may be whatever you resolve to be."   -Thomas J. "Stonewall" Jackson
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Rose City Rose

Being unable to conceive a child as a mother is one area of my dysphoria there is no treatment for.  I think that would trigger me. :'(
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Jessica Merriman

You definitely just moved from the "Do I pass topic" to the "I am there!" topic.  ;D

CONGRATS!!!
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Misato

Quote from: Ms Grace on October 14, 2014, 03:48:59 PM
It's certainly a great sign of acceptance. Congrats! Although I'd also find it a bit bittersweet since pregnancy will never happen, but then I'm sure there are cis women who would feel sad at that comment too due to their infertility.

Bittersweet is a good word. When I helped throw a baby shower, one of the women who also help throw it with me couldn't have a baby either. We bonded a little.

I just never expected to be in this position where I could come out as having a male bodied past, if I choose to. What did I do? Laser hair removal. Hair extensions. HRT. Assembled me an army of stylists! I feel so blessed cause I didn't do a whole lot.

Mind you, some of the girls going on about their period knew I'm trans. I just don't think my past registers for them. They've only ever known me as a woman. The guy I was would be as alien to them as he is to me.

It's really weird to land here by accident. Bittersweet wonderful and weird.

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janetcgtv

Maybe some day in the near future, SRS procedures will be greatly enhanced. We could also receive a uterus,ovaries, and Fallopian tubes. The procedure is 100% perfect. Than it will be a question of who will be first in line. Many of us will feel wonderful afterwards.
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Releca

I have a form of ibs which gives me wicked cramps that can last for a few days straight. When this happens weather I'm being male or female it seems the most common response I get is "would you like some midol" its comforting as a woman and a bit embarrassing as a guy but if that is what cis women go through each month they truly have my sympathy for it hurts so bad and leaves you in a very pissy mood where you don't want to be spoken to, touched, or even looked at you hurt so bad. As a comparison its like being kicked in the jewels for a few days straight. So with that and the fact I look 16 at 30 I can't use the medapause card.

Quote from: janetcgtv on October 14, 2014, 08:03:40 PM
Maybe some day in the near future, SRS procedures will be greatly enhanced. We could also receive a uterus,ovaries, and Fallopian tubes. The procedure is 100% perfect. Than it will be a question of who will be first in line. Many of us will feel wonderful afterwards.

This would be nice to have the equipment and remove the prostate so you were only genetically male but not physically in any manner. Then again if science could change that too I wouldn't say no.

Quote from: Rose City Rose on October 14, 2014, 06:40:16 PM
Being unable to conceive a child as a mother is one area of my dysphoria there is no treatment for.  I think that would trigger me. :'(
This will be my one and only regret as well but I figure I can adopt if need be
I am a caterpillar creeping along a leaf.
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suzifrommd

Quote from: Misato on October 14, 2014, 03:40:13 PM
I have heard more about periods from not my girlfriend in the last week and today I was told, "Wait until you give birth!"

For someone who thought her past would always be obvious to everyone (and who was severely misgendered about a month ago) this development is welcome, unexpected and unsettling all at the same time.

Definitely one for the "you know you really pass when..." thread.
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Misato

I haven't been to the you know you really pass thread, but I assumed it was more for celebration. I feel complex about all this. This morning I looked in the mirror after getting ready and I saw a woman. No joke, I had to hold on to the doors to my bathroom to keep myself upright from the shock.

I am happy and wouldn't have things any other way. I just get rocked by this huge change to my life. I often feel like I'm living the responsibility of a life in progress that wasn't mine and that's hard to deal with at times. Who was I for 34 years?
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noleen111

Congrats on passing.. it feels great to be treated like one of the girls .. doesnt it?

If they could transplant  a uterus,ovaries, and Fallopian tubes into a trans-woman.. I would be first in line. I would love to experience pregnancy and giving birth.
Enjoying ride the hormones are giving me... finally becoming the woman I always knew I was
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EllieM

Quote from: noleen111 on October 15, 2014, 10:35:36 AM
Congrats on passing.. it feels great to be treated like one of the girls .. doesnt it?

If they could transplant  a uterus,ovaries, and Fallopian tubes into a trans-woman.. I would be first in line. I would love to experience pregnancy and giving birth.

is there a wristband policy in place?
http://www.iflscience.com/health-and-medicine/first-baby-born-womb-transplant
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Rachel

Congratulations, you look beautiful.
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JLT1

Hey,

Congrads...  It was only a matter of time.  Another year and it will be common. 

Hugs,

Jen
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