I'm thinking about taking myself off T for a while so I can come out to more family (I'm only out to 2 members at the moment) and get a job where I can be stealth as I work in a small office. I'm on a small dose every 2 weeks. Do I need to consult a physician/endocrinologist before doing this or would I be okay doing it by myself?

As anything with dosages always talk with your doctor's first.

It's ok to take a break if you are not ready yet for the full transition.

I'm confused as to why you need to be off T to do this, particularly if you want to be stealth.

You shouldn't be changing your dosage, even lessening it, without consulting a medical professional.

Quote from: lxndr on October 14, 2014, 12:50:28 PM
I'm confused as to why you need to be off T to do this, particularly if you want to be stealth.

You shouldn't be changing your dosage, even lessening it, without consulting a medical professional.

Because I'm not out at my current job and don't want to have to come out. I'd rather find another job first and be stealth there (just informing the hiring manager since I haven't changed my name yet). And again, I'd rather be out to my famiy before changes really start occurring. I thought I could do it as I go, but it's proving not to be that way

Well for me I'm not out at work, but I am trying to find another job...in fact I had an interview today
I am passing most of the time now to strangers but the people at my office haven't even noticed any changes!
But yeah if i get this new job I will be stealth there.
So have you considered staying on T and letting the changes happen slowly and start looking for a new job now?
Also my family hasn't noticed anything yet...but for me I don't spend too much time around them either so...
But I plan on coming out to them soon too

Quote from: kdbrrw on October 14, 2014, 05:56:36 PM
Well for me I'm not out at work, but I am trying to find another job...in fact I had an interview today
I am passing most of the time now to strangers but the people at my office haven't even noticed any changes!
But yeah if i get this new job I will be stealth there.
So have you considered staying on T and letting the changes happen slowly and start looking for a new job now?
Also my family hasn't noticed anything yet...but for me I don't spend too much time around them either so...
But I plan on coming out to them soon too

Yeah, I'm on a low dose as of now, so it's probably my anxiety and paranoia thinking I'm suddenly going to sprout into a man over night. I've passed off and on since age 10, and my issue is these incidents where people who haven't been formally introduced to me in the office say "sir" and "young man" while people in my direct office know me as female.
I go to college in state and have recently moved out. Until I get a car, my mom and sis bring me places that are realistically too far to go on bus without struggle. They know I'm transitioning, but my grandmother, who they live with, doesn't. So that's where one of the biggest problems lie. I can't afford to see my GP right now so I'll have to keep taking my doses since I shouldn't change without talking to them. I'm easily flustered so that's why I'm in a panic (not to mention friends who I feel don't take my transition seriously.

That can be rough for sure, man. If you need someone to talk to you can always PM me. I would write some more right now but I'm on mobile

Quote from: JourneyFromConfusion on October 14, 2014, 01:50:11 PM

Because I'm not out at my current job and don't want to have to come out. I'd rather find another job first and be stealth there (just informing the hiring manager since I haven't changed my name yet). And again, I'd rather be out to my famiy before changes really start occurring. I thought I could do it as I go, but it's proving not to be that way

I'm so far doing it that way without my parents noticing, they think I start T next Wednesday. Only been 1 week on T and my voice has dropped quite a bit so I hope it's not going to go way too fast for my uncle's sake. You might want to tell your family very soon, really look for a new job like crazy and really put out all the stops now to look as masculine as you can so that the new job won't be too much of a problem as far as using a preferred name and pronouns goes with coworkers.

Holidays are coming up. I would tell them before then, it would pretty awkward showing up to open presents with the wrong name on them.

Quote from: Alexthecat on October 17, 2014, 07:07:22 AM
Holidays are coming up. I would tell them before then, it would pretty awkward showing up to open presents with the wrong name on them.

Rarely see my extended family over the holidays. I'm not even worried about the name thing. It's just allowing my closer family time to adjust.

Quote from: Marcellow on October 16, 2014, 08:16:13 PM
I'm so far doing it that way without my parents noticing, they think I start T next Wednesday. Only been 1 week on T and my voice has dropped quite a bit so I hope it's not going to go way too fast for my uncle's sake. You might want to tell your family very soon, really look for a new job like crazy and really put out all the stops now to look as masculine as you can so that the new job won't be too much of a problem as far as using a preferred name and pronouns goes with coworkers.

Yeah. I can't be discriminated against because of policies at work. I've been on for 2 months and so far, no voice change, but I know that's coming.