Random, but you might want to remember to edit the original post if you ever recommend Susan's to her.

Also, at some point you need time away from the people that "need" you. Nothing wrong with that. Her problems are her responsibility - it's wonderful that you are helping, but you'd be useless if you got dragged down into that drepression, both to her and to yourself.

Being a representative of a small community is uber-hard sometimes =/

Ok, first of all-She is not a professional victim, does not thrive off of this, and I'm a bit bothered that you seem to think that's the case.  I caould never cut her off, because even though I don't really take much pleasure in this, she probably will hurt a lot if I don't help her.  Might do something stupid, I don't know...but.  Telling someone won't do her any good, I know for a fact because I've been in the other position before, and after the kicked me out of school I was a LOT more depressed than I was before.  Anyhow.  She needs a gender specialist (which her mother is very reluctant to help her with, knowing it will indulge some of this stuff).  But yeah, she needs that.  She also needs to meet other trans* women, which is theoreticly easy (we're by the city) but the support groups there are not very good, and for some odd reson despite the twenty or so trans guys, there are no other trans gals!  So yeah, I guess I might send her online.  Anyhow, thanks for the advice, from all of you!!

Semi-relivent update: I guess I must attract these kids like a wierd androgynous magnet because a friend just told me they (not entirely sure how they identify yet) are trans, MtF.  I'm not 100% surprised, but still!  I should do this professionally, charge tuition or something-like a lifestyle coach, but for trans girls!