Dani, I can relate to that action. And I hope you are feeling better now, this transition deal has so many ups and downs, so we can never predict what our next reaction will be and sometimes we do things we may regret later. Been there, done that lots of times! I think I have not had the guts to remove a whole topic I've started, with responses in it as of yet, because I feel it would be unfair to someone who may have bookmarked it. I got upset lately because a moderator just locked a thread I started, a very interesting one, because she felt some people were getting too feisty over the issue. But I think it would have been GREAT to keep it open, because the topic and mostly the answers from many people, were interesting, insightful and very useful for many people considering having FFS. I felt tempted to go and delete all my posts in it, and even try to delete the whole thread, if it is even possible on my end, because I got really upset about that locking action, but then I calmed down and thought "well what is left from it, is still very useful for many people including myself" so I swallowed my pride, for the good of others.
What I do and I really don't feel so uneasy about it, is delete thorough and insightful responses I have given, that take me quite a bit of time to think of and actually write, about my long experience doing the transition thing, when somebody doesn't even bother responding to my message/comment, showing at least some appreciation for the time I took in addressing his/her concern, which means to me that 1) the person didn't even read my thorough comment or 2) the person read it but did not care about it, so basically it was a useless comment, for all intents and purposes. So, why waste space on this great web site, with an answer that was not even appreciated by the person it was directed to? BTW I only do this after a reasonable time has passed with no response at all, that is, several months after I posted the response, to give the person the benefit of the doubt due to illness or any other important issue that may have precluded the person from being able to read answers to her own thread.
I commend you for your change of mind in the end, and doing the right thing, kudos to you!!!
Cheers
Bibi
Quote from: Newgirl Dani on October 25, 2014, 12:46:03 PM
When I went through my difficult time last week and attemptd to cancel my account, I also did another thing that is unexcusable, deleting old topics. In my personal pain I was experiencing at that moment, I wanted to remove all record of me. I now understand the true impact that type of action has on others and that it is just a selfish act. When someone can relate to a personal accounting of feelings, events, or milestones, it may be important to them to revisit that topic for reaffirmation, strengthen resolve, or maybe just because it had made them happy. To remove information is to deny them these things, so I truly apologize. Fortuneately upon my request Mrs Izzy was gracious enough to reactivate an old topic for me, as it had for some reason struck a chord with enough people judging by the number of viiews. Sorry. Dani
