Not that I frequent places where dancing occurs, but I do have an appreciation for the cute way in which many women can move far more gracefully than the guys, and even women who you wouldn't have ever thought had any ability to dance whatsoever often have a few good moves up their sleeves.  I also have a healthy respect for manner in which many women can even listen to music from the sidelines and ever so subtly move their bodies without looking ridiculous.

Where might one go about picking up such skills?  I could be the most beautiful girl in the room, but when dancing I look like somebody's embarrassing uncle and it's a dead giveaway that I was not born with a girl's body.

I know, a bit superficial.

Quote from: Brenda E on October 27, 2014, 06:33:57 AM
Not that I frequent places where dancing occurs, but I do have an appreciation for the cute way in which many women can move far more gracefully than the guys, and even women who you wouldn't have ever thought had any ability to dance whatsoever often have a few good moves up their sleeves.  I also have a healthy respect for manner in which many women can even listen to music from the sidelines and ever so subtly move their bodies without looking ridiculous.

Where might one go about picking up such skills?  I could be the most beautiful girl in the room, but when dancing I look like somebody's embarrassing uncle and it's a dead giveaway that I was not born with a girl's body.

I know, a bit superficial.

Just have to get loosey goosey and sway your hips, learn how to work them.
I love dancing!

As HelloKitty, it's all about the hips, sway them, move your bum, that's how most girls dance Girls generally dance from their lower body, boys from the upper

I don't think people will doubt your gender because of how you dance. They'll just think you're clumsy

I used to hate dancing because my bottom side would move like a girls (before I accepted my fem side). But I would just do it! Yup "its all in the hips" 

The girls loved it, the guys ragged on me but they were all too chicken to even get out there and dance with the girls, I win!

I remember at my ex-girlfriends prom. I just jumped in with all her friends and danced! All her girlfriends  loved it and I got them all moving their hips. All their boyfriends stood at the side and just watched. My girlfriend got so mad at all her friends for dancing with me she stormed outside. I just kept dancing, some things you can't fix... 

Love,
Jade

Don't forget the motions of your hands and wrists as well. For example, allow your wrist to bend slightly when your palm is downward facing and allow your fingers to extend a bit. Don't over exagerate it but allow it to be subtle. Same thing when palms are facing upward.

When moving your arms allow your hands to be a part of the movement, keep them loose. For example if you're extending your arm forward dip your hand deliberately as if you were going to allow someone to kiss the back of it then pull it back into a more normal position as you retract youur arm.

These sorts of movements are very feminine while dancing and are very modern jazz like. I would do this even as a guy and people were always asking me how long I'd been dancing, as in professionally.

Quote from: Brenda E on October 27, 2014, 06:33:57 AM
Not that I frequent places where dancing occurs, but I do have an appreciation for the cute way in which many women can move far more gracefully than the guys, and even women who you wouldn't have ever thought had any ability to dance whatsoever often have a few good moves up their sleeves.  I also have a healthy respect for manner in which many women can even listen to music from the sidelines and ever so subtly move their bodies without looking ridiculous.

Where might one go about picking up such skills?  I could be the most beautiful girl in the room, but when dancing I look like somebody's embarrassing uncle and it's a dead giveaway that I was not born with a girl's body.

I know, a bit superficial.

I like Zumba. It's exercise and dancing all at the same time. It was good since the classes are all women and I was able to learn more feminine body movements. Also if you want to go really girl, then try belly dancing. It's good for the belly and for me it made me feel sexy as hell Short of that dancing lessons such as ballroom dancing.

As I have mentioned in a couple other threads here recently, dancing is a big part of my joy right now, and I often when I do it, it is so beautiful to me. As a male, I appeared rather spastic, but as a female that has changed. I find that the high heels I use are rather limiting, but you need to get as comfortable as you can with them. Don't try to get fancy with the steps, girls are not expected to be that fancy in heels. Find a simple pattern of movement and just vary it slightly. For me, dancing like a girl is all about fluidity of movement. I think of my arms as being like water running over rocks down a mountain stream. Let them just flow, and really get into the music. Feel it with all your heart and soul and don't worry about how you look. It will be magical if you let it.

Ugh.  Forgot that in situations I might be called on to dance, I'll probably be wearing high heels.  And drunk. 

Quote from: Brenda E on October 28, 2014, 06:11:22 PM
Ugh.  Forgot that in situations I might be called on to dance, I'll probably be wearing high heels.  And drunk. 

Has there ever been a better combination?

I would say: relax and allow yourself feminine motions. The belly and hips are the center of your body. A lot of motions are centered there. Walking and dancing specifically. Cherish the center of your body and let it teke over. Dont try to learn anything by mimicking consciously, I think this leads more to an artificial movement. Well unless it is classical dancing, then one has to memorize the steps

Learn, watch and perhaps join a class on Latin dancing, watch how they move their hips and let the music take over.

It's all in the head!!!

Me, like most of my friends will not move our bodies, just shake our heada