so the other day we got a new person and I am not sure if this new person is trans or cis. I am really hoping this person is trans because it would be awesome to know another trans person at work. The main thing I am going on is the fact that this person expresses themselves in a way is opposite of what appears to be their assigned gender.

I think this person is either a really butch women, a non  binary person, or a trans man.

I really want to talk to this person, but I do not want to offend them. I am really considering asking this person what their preferred pronoun is but I am don't want to piss this person off if they are cis. At the same time it would be awesome for both of us assuming that person is trans because we wouldn't be alone amoungst the cis people.

I think we trans people should create a universal sign that says hi I am trans! other person does the me too sign. but unfortunately there is no such sign so we are stuck in the "I think your trans and you might know I am trans, but I don't want to acknowledge that because its rude" zone..... its a pretty awkward zone to be in.... makes the dreaded friend zone seem warm and *cough* friendly.

I have a necklace with the trans symbol on it inside a black triangle... I wore it to take my new drivers license photo...

If you could get something like that, and find some excuse to make sure this person sees it - that might do it?

I have a trans pride flag necklace. I was thinking about that actually. like doing something cheesy like dropping it in from of them and so they look down to see that what I dropped and bam! trans pride necklace.

If this person doesn't know what it means then they aren't trans.

only issue is that i'm not out yet at work so i'd be potentially outing myself to someone I don't know.

Nothing wrong with introducing yourself and striking up a conversation. They might be trans. They might not. Either way, you meet someone new. If she's trans and wants to tell you her history, she will. If not, you can disclose yours when the time come and maybe pick up an ally.

Quote from: suzifrommd on October 29, 2014, 06:44:50 PM
Nothing wrong with introducing yourself and striking up a conversation. They might be trans. They might not. Either way, you meet someone new. If she's trans and wants to tell you her history, she will. If not, you can disclose yours when the time come and maybe pick up an ally.

true i will talk to this person eventually. but im just excited by the prospect that i might not be the only trans person at work.

Just be their friend.  Every new person appreciates genuine, friendly people at a new workplace, especially people that are visibly LGBT and don't know where their coworkers stand.  Being treated like a human being at work is a good thing, especially if it's someone who has experienced any negativity for being who they are.  I'm sure your trans status would come up in a conversation naturally and eventually.

Quote from: amber roskamp on October 29, 2014, 06:44:37 PM
I have a trans pride flag necklace. I was thinking about that actually. like doing something cheesy like dropping it in from of them and so they look down to see that what I dropped and bam! trans pride necklace.

If this person doesn't know what it means then they aren't trans.

only issue is that i'm not out yet at work so i'd be potentially outing myself to someone I don't know.

I actually wouldn't know what that was if you dropped it in front of me.

I'd suggest just chatting them up one day and see what happens. I'm sure as a new person at a new job, that they would love to feel welcomed and would appreciate that quite a bit. Maybe you will be able to find out that way.

Me personally, well I have a habit of talking w/o thinking quite a bit, saying the wrong things, so, if I am being honest, it would probably come out of my mouth and I'd be kicking myself for doing it.