Recently I have bumped into conversations with other girls where periods came up. I'm not shure how to respond? I was PMSing one day and had another girl ask if I was having my period? I was so taken of guard as I am always thinking I don't pass. I hate lying but don't want to give myself away, I thought about saying I have a utiris problem and can't have kids and therefore periods too, but that would be lying, it just doesn't seem right to me. I'm stuck on this one and don't know what to do but be quiet, and I can't help but think that too will give myself away. Any one have any advice on this?

Good advice... no...

Personaly Id lie if I had to.....  Say you dont have them due to athletics... girls who run or workout allot tend to have lighter and sometimes non existant periods... and so many other things...  But thats not good advice,  Its what Id do if I had to. *Ugh*

I had a friend of mine ask if I was pregnant after being sick two weekends in a row    I haven't had the period topic come up yet, but I always worry it will.  I too am clueless as to what to say if it does come up.

Quote from: Ember LRecently I have bumped into conversations with other girls where periods came up. I'm not shure how to respond?  Any one have any advice on this?

You lie through your teeth and tell them about the time you stopped having a period for a few days after sleeping with a lad, and how worried you were because you thought you were pregnant. 

Quote from: Ember L on October 14, 2007, 06:16:46 PM
I was PMSing one day and had another girl ask if I was having my period?

Not to sound naive (I am!), but... is this something girl's routinely ask one another?

I mean OK, I've had girls talk to be *about* their periods in a generic sense, even BEFORE transitioning, but to just flat out ask if someone is HAVING their period seems kinda personal and rude?

~Kate~

Girls talk and ask about EVERYTHING...

You though sitting with your guy friends pre transition listing about who "banged" who was bad... Just wait till you hear the women get into it... 

They will ask about intimate details you would have never given before and worse LoL,  Actualy its allot of fun once she shock and horror wear off...  On the period thing it seems kinda routine to know about when its going to hit yourself, and your friends... and women that spend allot of time together tend to slowly end up on the same cycle...

I do have this to say...  Be VERY happy you dont have to deal with any of that physicaly... Its incredable the threshold for pain tolorance you develop...

Can't you say you had a hysto?

Yep, girls talk about any and everything.  Trust me, they hold NOTHING back!  Best thing you can do when asked about your period is give a vague answer like:
- I had no idea it showed
- Looks like it won't be long now
- It's certainly my gripy time, know what I mean?
- Seems like that's always the case
- If not, something's got me pms-ing.

It's also not a bad idea to carry a panty liner in your purse.  I actually got asked for one in a rest room.  I happen to have "borrowed" an old purse that had a couple inside the pocket. 

Good luck!

Kristi

QuoteI thought about saying I have a utiris problem

The obvious thing to say is "I don't have a uterus". That is honest and to the point. If she asks "What happened to it?" (and someone will) you say "I was born this way." If she asks any more personal questions and some will you say "I don't like to talk about it." And then stop talking.

I agree these questions are rude and too personal but that won't stop some people.

...and the ones who KNOW you're trans and accept you ain't shy, either.  I've heard the 'you're lucky/I envy you' comments a few times, re: the monthly visitor.

Another friend confided that now that her son is in Junior High (single mom,) she's checking out eHarmony 'cause she just wants to [__________].  (I went with it and suggested a few alternatives...)

But I've always been willing to share that kind of intimate information.  It just didn't work out well in the guy world.  Here in the girl world, it's great!

Karen

Quote from: Yvonne on October 14, 2007, 06:40:55 PM

Quote from: Ember LRecently I have bumped into conversations with other girls where periods came up. I'm not shure how to respond?  Any one have any advice on this?

You lie through your teeth and tell them about the time you stopped having a period for a few days after sleeping with a lad, and how worried you were because you thought you were pregnant. 

ha ha ha ha ha i love it

its hard to know what to say, but hey, you could just say "yeah something like that" and get on with it.

I lie.
I'm asked about my past boyfriend,
having a child, period, etc.
Almost every day. Yeah, woman
are quite open about these things.

If I didn't lie, I'd have to out myself.

All my recent new friends are women in their 20's.

I perpetuate the eternal lie, its part of my being.

Women are very open about what they talk about, because they are more aware of their bodies and unlike men are sensible (and not silly) when it comes to talking about sex or bodily functions.

The only time I do not lie, is when I go to the doctors...

Rebecca

Sounds like pretty good advice so far, but just lie. Say "I feel cramped an bloated and I'm probably going to start soon". Its a little white lie. "Soon" could be whenever or forever. Or you could say...."I'm about to start, do you have a plug?" It would be a good idea to keep a couple in your purse with a couple of panty liners as well. You never know when you are going to be asked if you have one to lend out.

I have only been asked indirectly so I have not actually lied to anyone.

Pregnant before? Nope.

Given birth? No.

Am I missing something... seems to me the easiest answer is a partial truth...

Look them in the eye emotionally, and say:


I would think this would stop all questions.

Who cares if they make the wrong assumption.... they already have by asking about your period.

Just a thought

Daisy

Quote from: daisybelle on October 15, 2007, 02:50:11 PM
Am I missing something... seems to me the easiest answer is a partial truth...

Look them in the eye emotionally, and say:

I sorry, but I recently had surgery, and the end result is I cannot have children.

( Wave your hands near your eyes like you are about to cry)
I hope you understand but I really would rather not talk about it.

I would think this would stop all questions.

Who cares if they make the wrong assumption.... they already have by asking about your period.

Just a thought

Daisy

For the most part, I believe they're just assuming your just like every other girl they know.  I don't think they've ever had a girlfriend who hasn't had a period before.  That's why I think they're doing the assuming anyways, which makes sense to me.

It's really not an issue for me.  All I have to say is, "At my age?"

Quote from: Lisbeth on October 15, 2007, 03:38:39 PM
It's really not an issue for me.  All I have to say is, "At my age?"

Lisbeth.  That's the right attitude!