Quote from: Zoe Louise Taylor on November 18, 2014, 01:26:05 AM
I totally understand why they would want pepple to be full time before hormone treatment is prescribed, and as I said before I am willing and ready to take that step!

Good for you. Being ready is half the game, maybe more.

Quote from: Zoe Louise Taylor on November 18, 2014, 01:26:05 AMWould the fact that I am actively seeking other employment in which I could attend work as female work in my favour in this regards? X

I do not know. All I can say is that GICs like to see you being involved in other things because, in the past, they have discovered that sitting hibernating and waiting for the magic of HRT rarely works well.

One thing I do know is the experiences of women who transitioned in very male work environments - one of them was a road-gang boss - and they were all accepted. Some of the guys thought they were a bit crazy, but many of them respected the making of such a difficult decision. All the women involved were very, very nervous before coming out, afterwards they wondered why they let themselves get so worked up.

Be confident in yourself because it shows and others pick up on it and know that what you are doing is right for you and people can respect that.

Quote from: ayhdrb on November 18, 2014, 04:29:49 AM
Good for you. Being ready is half the game, maybe more.


I do not know. All I can say is that GICs like to see you being involved in other things because, in the past, they have discovered that sitting hibernating and waiting for the magic of HRT rarely works well.

One thing I do know is the experiences of women who transitioned in very male work environments - one of them was a road-gang boss - and they were all accepted. Some of the guys thought they were a bit crazy, but many of them respected the making of such a difficult decision. All the women involved were very, very nervous before coming out, afterwards they wondered why they let themselves get so worked up.

Be confident in yourself because it shows and others pick up on it and know that what you are doing is right for you and people can respect that.

Thanks for your advice I think alot of the time I fear the worst :/ im sure I wouldnt be bullied at work as the people I work with arent mean! I would however be abit alienated I fear, but this is something I would be able to cope with and the fact that there are patient support groups at the gic may help with this

As I said previously, I feel ive used the 10 month wait wisely and have already started electrlysis, come out to alot of my freinds, and made new freinds, gained a qualification in beauty therapy (which im hoping to further later next year) abd joined many dance and social groups that have given me extra confidence,  and new freinds

I am gona need alot of support to come out at work, but im so determined to move forward in my transition that I cant let my fears stand in the way :/

Make sure that you take documentary evidence that you are doing all this and it will really help your case. It sounds like you are off to a good start.

Also, have some objectives - tell them what you want and ask when is it likely to happen. Asking is fine, discussing is fine, but "demands" are likely to cause delays. Polite pushiness and showing that your mind is settled will work well.

I think you will be OK, it is just you are at that scary point were everything is on the verge of crystallising into a new reality and it is impossible to tell how people will jump until they do. I remember it well, but in retrospect the fear of it was worse than anything that happened.

Good luck!

Quote from: Seras on November 18, 2014, 02:09:41 AM
Well that's really cool. You are already doing a lot better than me at that age, I was 22 before I didn't work up the courage and my mum made me tell her what was wrong! But you know in hindsight I wish I had come out at your age, and I wish more than anything I got HRT and all this stuff earlier. It has actually been really getting me down recently. You should think hard on what you think matters more to you. Playing rugby and all that or doing this.

If transitioning is something you really wanna do, the earlier the better, so long as you are ready.

Rugby matters and all but by the time I will be at a point where HRT could start I would have given up the playing side of it anyway. The big deal about rugby and martial arts, as well as my A levels, is that the stuff I'm doing with them could be the deciding factor in getting into a university like Oxford or Cambridge. As much as I want to do it, RLE could seriously screw with some of it and I know for definite that there are people who would make my life hell at school. I understand they want commitment but when I'm working on other changes but not switching into full time due to the potential to compromise my chances with university am I considered less committed than someone who is in the position to go full time straight away?

I am not talking about what GICs want I'm not saying you should get on RLE without HRT either. Screw them, I went private so I can do it how I want. I am asking what you want. Cause to me it sounds like you do not particularly want to go the NHS route, at least not he CHX GIC route. I don't know where you live but the CHX GIC was extremely unaccommodating and unwilling to budge to the point that if I wanted to progress on my terms I had to go private.

Don't expect the NHS to be accommodating, they won't be unless you are lucky. I wish I hadn't, I wasted almost 2 years being strung along by them after all the NHS delays before getting out my money.

Quote from: Seras on November 18, 2014, 10:20:41 AM
I am not talking about what GICs want I'm not saying you should get on RLE without HRT either. Screw them, I went private so I can do it how I want. I am asking what you want. Cause to me it sounds like you do not particularly want to go the NHS route, at least not he CHX GIC route. I don't know where you live but the CHX GIC was extremely unaccommodating and unwilling to budge to the point that if I wanted to progress on my terms I had to go private.

Don't expect the NHS to be accommodating, they won't be unless you are lucky. I wish I hadn't, I wasted almost 2 years being strung along by them after all the NHS delays before getting out my money.

I want to go the NHS route because I simply don't have the money to go private, nor does my family apart from my uncle, but he isn't exactly LGBT friendly...

Then you will have to be prepared to do what they say if you want treatment.

I'm living in the UK, Nottingham ^^

I'm in Devon Just waiting for my first appointment at The Laurels in Exeter, which I've read good things about.  I'm a late one, 46 and nowhere near ready to go full time.  I'll see what happens at the GIC but if it comes down to going private what kind of cost do you think I would be looking at?