a simple problem with what i beleive to be a complicated solution...  im not sure if i should continue dating  because i kno im lying from the beginning of the relationship, or if i tell "so-and-so" beforehand... its curtains for whatever feelings that were ever present before. But i feel compelled to find companionship(more so than that of most friends). Im sortov wondering what to do, since grs is a while off, so im sotov stuck here.   im a pre-op m2f college student if it need matter....


                                                            ~RAVEN~

Quote from: ravenx on October 14, 2007, 08:02:02 PM
a simple problem with what i beleive to be a complicated solution...  im not sure if i should continue dating  because i kno im lying from the beginning of the relationship, or if i tell "so-and-so" beforehand... its curtains for whatever feelings that were ever present before. But i feel compelled to find companionship(more so than that of most friends). Im sortov wondering what to do, since grs is a while off, so im sotov stuck here.   im a pre-op m2f college student if it need matter....


                                                            ~RAVEN~

I vote for date. 

I would date. Actually, I did date. Not everyone has a problem with our condition. I've been in a long term relationship for almost 9 years now.

Karen Lyn

i'd date. and i don't think it's lying if you keep something back at the start of a relationship, even if its something big like being trans.  nobody expects to know everything about somebody after the first date, thats what makes dating fun .
just be careful who you date.

jenny
x x

I was lucky to find a GG girlfriend to just go out and do things with, so it's possible to have and make friends too.  If you do date, I would recommend not holding back telling them too long.  It's pretty tough being Pre-Op.  Know that all so well myself.

Take care

Beni

so i guess dating sounds like the plan( of course maybe after some much needed time to think to myself about it)...thanks for the opinions. very much appreciated!

                                                                ~RAVEN~

ur not lyin, ur a woman because that's who u are on the inside...

Entering every relationship thinking "could this be the one" is bringing in way more then the two bags the airlines allow.  Have fun, if it turns serious you need to open up about your issues, but no reason to spill all to someone you're casually dating.

Don't expect that your partner will automatically be ok with and come along for the ride, yes they should be interested in you as a person, but at the same time its your being either male (in this case) or female that is a major part of it too.  Is a girl who entered a relationship with someone she assumed was a male, ready to continue that same relationship with a female?  Probably not.  So expect that the relationship will more then likely end, but if you have a chance to be happy, even if just for a moment, by all means take it.