Having read some of the latest posts, I thought I'd say something that may or may not be somewhat off-topic. I have a trans friend who I see fairly often. We attend meetings of an LGBT group in a town not too far from me, and it just so happens that I'm on her way, so it's easy for her to collect me on the way up and drop me off on the way back.
Now I think she's the type who's just naturally insecure, but I know that when we first started attending these meetings, she was terrified. Especially when, at the end of the meeting, we'd all head for the local pub. She was extremely uneasy being out in the open world like that, partly because she didn't have a lot of experience at it.
But I noted that she badly under-rated herself. She looked and carried herself much better than she thought she did. She's the type that if you study her closely, you might have some questions about her. But given that people don't study each other closely like that, she's really fine. And I was constantly telling her that, and I was having a hard time getting her to listen to me.
One thing I told her about was the night we were in the pub when she got up to go to the loo. On her way back, I glanced at her out of the corner of my eye, but paid no attention to her since I was talking to somebody at the time. I didn't even recognize her because I didn't give her any thought. I just noted "a woman" and went on with my conversation. And that's the way people often see us: a glance our way and they carry on with what they're doing without even thinking about it. I'm trans and she's a close friend, and yet I was exactly the same way. It wasn't until she actually sat down beside me that I realized, "Oh, right, that was [my friend]!"
And I was also telling her something else just recently: I've noticed how much more relaxed she is in public now. Whether consciously or sub-consciously, I think she's realized that she actually looks a lot better than she thinks she does, and so she's much more at ease.
All of this is to say that what you see in the mirror isn't necessarily what is to be seen. Perceptions are subjective, and you may not be seeing yourself objectively. You might actually look a lot different to others than you do to your own prejudiced eye. I say prejudiced because you are prejudiced: you know you're trans so you're inclined to see things that other people, who don't know you're trans, won't see because they're not looking for those things. So give yourself a break, don't be too critical.
What people see is "a package". They see you as a whole, not as a collection of details. This is one reason I tell my friend not to worry about one thing that she's particularly worried about--her voice. True, it is a bit low, but I'm convinced that that alone won't give her away. It's not nearly as bad as she thinks it is. People will take it as a low female voice--the reason being that, as "a package", she comes across as very female.
So, what you see in your mirror may well not be the real story. It's hard to be objective about others, but it's equally hard to be objective about ourselves. We will see what we're trying to see. You're not just a face. You're "vibes". And those vibes will go a long way towards determining what people see in your face. At least, I myself am convinced of this. Maybe others disagree.
