I was too stupid when I let my family know what my employment is based at....  and Im far away... so I look more feminine because of freedom. I dont look like Im trans but I look more "stylish".

And I realize my boss took a pic of us and at social events... and I just realize they put this on facebook. I realize this when some guy said "no i dont want my pic taken then its going on facebook"


Soooo..... my fears are like 5x increase and I enjoyed my freedoms while I had it.  If my family ask if Im gay... its like a no brainer at this point.  I am literally terrified though.  But I cant stop this and look like masculine crap though.

My family might not search it up.... i pray to god... but if its not now then it will be a month or 6 months from now. But i need to freaken live my life... even if its just a little....  i hate that ny family wants to know my every moment. They are like hawks when i just want complete privacy.

I hope you can sort things out with your family. This is the problem with secrets, we live in fear of them coming out and things keep happening like you just described to make it even more likely tat they will come out anyway.

Quote from: Ms Grace on November 22, 2014, 03:47:49 PM
I hope you can sort things out with your family. This is the problem with secrets, we live in fear of them coming out and things keep happening like you just described to make it even more likely tat they will come out anyway.

I guess thats the truth. You either live the whole secret or dont. My job accepts me as I am (i dont shove it down or flame out) but im what i am... more fem than masc. I look metrosexual at the moment.

If they find out the pics WHICH they will in time. Ill just say... im not gay but bisexual or something in those lines.  Im forever going to live a million miles from them at all times for the rest if my life... only way i can cope with them. They judge way too much.

Theres too much at risk to look like my normal self. It actually helps my career lol. And people think im good looking... which is not true since im average but i do what i do to create a look all of its own. My boss choose me to take pics all the time... yeah it helps my status.


They may just say i look good. When im with them i literally put no effort into my look to keep myself masculine.

Good luck. I hate secrets that's why I am coming fully out at work very soon. People are noticing anyway as I am making more changes and even going to work dressed but partially covered. So I got some 'splainin to do but HR assured me they have my 6.