Usually, nothing works pretty good. There is no need for anyone here to understand why someone wants to live their lives the way they want to. There is no need for anyone here to explain themselves unless they want to. For those of you who can't get your mind around someone's life, I can't get my mind around how you can't get your mind around things.

If you want to know something, sometimes the best approach is to just watch. When I joined this site, I discovered a word I had never seen before: dysphoria. I read, and I put two and two together.  What I didn't do was confront someone and tell them I didn't understand their claims of dysphoria, just couldn't get my head around it, and since it wasn't familiar to me they had to explain it.

Basically, if you have questions, go ahead and ask them. But be polite about it.  Not having an understanding of something doesn't mean you're right, and you'll go ahead and prove it once it's explained to you. That is all.

Hugs, Devlyn