I can't get that thought out of my head.......
I feel like I deserve to be called she.....
has or does anyone else feel this way?
How do you get yourself to feel like the right name and pronouns is what you deserve?

Just because you weren't lucky enough to be assigned male at birth doesn't mean you don't have a right to male pronouns!!
Of course you do!!
And of course you deserve your name!!


Look around you to all the wonderful trans* people on this site aren't we worthy of our names and identities? Of course we are!!! It's not all about you, you know ^_^

Just joking of course (about that last bit)
I completely understand how you feel, I hope it gets better soon
>--(^_^)--<

*edit* - sorry kitty lover I didn't mean to offend you, I hope that's better :p

it's the other way around....sorry if that wasn't clear. I meant that I feel like I deserve when people call me she even though it's wrong.

Sorry XD
Well replace "female pronouns" with male pronouns ( or whatever you prefer) and my post still stands :p
Sorry

I meant no offence and am only trying to help. Please forgive me.
Of course you deserve male pronouns

I don't know about other people, but I'll let the pronouns come when they want to. I won't push it until it feels good. When people ask me about my preferred pronouns now, I just tell them that anything goes and they can use whichever pronouns they'd like. For me so far, it's not that I feel like I don't deserve to be called a "he," it's just that I'm not sure I feel male enough to be referred to as a man. So maybe this is what you mean? Today my friend used "they" while referring to me in third person (I was there), later she told be that she used they because she doesn't feel comfortable referring to me using female pronouns. That made me happy for some reason.

I've always said that I'm definitely not gender neutral and so "they" wasn't really a pronoun I thought much about, but after having that conversation with my friend, I think that for the time being at least, they is a good compromise between what I want to be but am not quite sure I am, and what I am biologically but don't identify with.

Quote from: kittylover on November 26, 2014, 09:32:58 PM
I can't get that thought out of my head.......
I feel like I deserve to be called she.....
has or does anyone else feel this way?
How do you get yourself to feel like the right name and pronouns is what you deserve?

It was hard. I still don't think I deserve it. Doesn't matter as much, because I love living as a woman, and that's enough for me.

I freakin' well deserve it. No ifs, no buts.

I totally feel you, and I often have this same battle, too! Sometimes I feel like a fraud. It's good to know that I'm not the only one, and maybe that will help you, too. A lot of successful artists, entertainers, and athletes have this hang-up, too. Maybe try telling yourself that you're good and wonderful, and you deserve the identity that is rightfully yours. You are female, and you should be addressed as such.

It isn't the military where you have to prove you are worthy for a titel. It is fine to have a preference for a name/pronouns. Aside of gender dysphoria, people should respect that and only the better when they do.

You even have people who simply don't like their name and go by another name, or nickname. They do not have to proof themselves first, they can simply request it from the people around them. Respectful people will call you by what makes you feel comfortable. The ones who don't, either have to get used to it or are asses who won't treat you with respect anyway. You are better than such people.

What does "deserve" mean? How does one deserve things? How does deserving anything affect reality?
For me, whether I deserve to be called "he" or not doesn't come into play. Partially because I have no idea how it would and partially because I'm a he regardless.

You are what you are, no one but you can tell what that is.

Quote from: Edge on November 27, 2014, 03:52:56 PM
What does "deserve" mean? How does one deserve things? How does deserving anything affect reality?
For me, whether I deserve to be called "he" or not doesn't come into play. Partially because I have no idea how it would and partially because I'm a he regardless.

This.

You are NOT a fraud, you are just working for what you want. Saying you deserve to be called something you feel you aren't is ridiculous.

QuoteI don't know about other people, but I'll let the pronouns come when they want to. I won't push it until it feels good. When people ask me about my preferred pronouns now, I just tell them that anything goes and they can use whichever pronouns they'd like. For me so far, it's not that I feel like I don't deserve to be called a "he," it's just that I'm not sure I feel male enough to be referred to as a man. So maybe this is what you mean? Today my friend used "they" while referring to me in third person (I was there), later she told be that she used they because she doesn't feel comfortable referring to me using female pronouns. That made me happy for some reason.

I've always said that I'm definitely not gender neutral and so "they" wasn't really a pronoun I thought much about, but after having that conversation with my friend, I think that for the time being at least, they is a good compromise between what I want to be but am not quite sure I am, and what I am biologically but don't identify with.

Thank you so much Darkblade. I was struggling with this for a while. Everyone seemed upset when someone would use the wrong pronoun and I just felt like pronouns never bothered me except "they". I am glad to see your post. It has helped me overcome this myself.

Isn't life crazy, I'm the one who slips on pronouns now,about me!

I think it is called acceptance. I can, finally accept him.

But try explaining that to a non-TG person.