I was all but 5 years of age when I first discovered my feminine feelings. I was shopping with Mommy and asked her to buy me 2 sets of earrings. She said no cause boys didn't do that. Then at the age of 9 or 10 praying to my Wonder Woman doll to change me completely into a girl and to take me to paradise Island where all the other girls were. Of course I did my best to deny it over the years but THAT never worked. Now I FULLY accept it.

Quote from: peky on November 27, 2014, 04:26:01 AM
Are your parents very conservative? homophobic? very religious? are they emotional stable? like really happy and good people? then I would suggest you tell them

an alternative is that you tell your pediatrician and request his/her help...

ask yourself the following question? If there was a magic pill to change your body, would you take it?
if the answer is yes, then you my dear friend are a person who has a gender identity dysphoria (AKA transgender)

They're all three. They both believe homosexuality is a sin and that they should be executed. My dad especially blamed me for not doing anything for a while and that makes me abnormal and sick as well and if I chose to live that way I'd deserve the same fate. But he was right the only reason I do have sex with guys is because I hate myself really and that I'm broken. But mainly I don't really want to add to that by telling them I feel like I might be transgender. I would take a chance and talk to my dr. As long as they don't let my mon or dad in on this.


Definitely I don't really want to mature into a man. Not the road I really want to continue on. I'd feel better as a girl. I'd feel better about that then the way I'm perceived currently.

Quote from: suzifrommd on November 27, 2014, 08:42:39 AM
I need to strongly, strongly, strongly, strongly disagree with this. I know you were trying to help, Jasmine, but this is only one of many ways that people experience being transgender.

For example, I've just always wished I could be female. A friend of mind, never "felt" like she was a female. She just felt like being a male wasn't right for her.

My suggestion to Blondie would be to try to find a therapist who deals with trans people - someone who can help unravel what is going wrong with you.

Yeah That's how I feel. Like I feel like I could never be a real guy. I've never really felt like a female in the sense I don't really know what it feels like idk how female really feels.

Quote from: TSJasmine on November 27, 2014, 01:40:06 AM
Transgender is when someone feels like they are the opposite sex assigned at birth.

When did I know I was transgender? From birth til I was 12 I lived as a boy. When I hit puberty I immediately knew I didn't like girls so I threw that out the window & identified as a gay male. Although from the point I knew I liked boys, I considered myself a girl. This was because I wasn't into gay males & I knew I didn't act like a typical boy or fit in with typical boys so I just considered myself a girl & when people would ask me if I was gay I would just respond, "I'm a girl but in a boys body". Remember, this is when I was 12! I had no clue someone could even become a girl. It's just what I saw myself as. Then when I got to about 13 I learned about other kids who felt like girls & their families accepted them & they were living as the girl they felt they were. So at that point, I was already dressing girly, painting my nails, wearing purses, etc. & just told myself I'd begin living as a girl & searching for hormones. I would say I officially began transitioning in public when I was 14 but knew I was trans when I was 13.

Quote from: suzifrommd on November 27, 2014, 08:42:39 AM
I need to strongly, strongly, strongly, strongly disagree with this. I know you were trying to help, Jasmine, but this is only one of many ways that people experience being transgender.

For example, I've just always wished I could be female. A friend of mind, never "felt" like she was a female. She just felt like being a male wasn't right for her.

My suggestion to Blondie would be to try to find a therapist who deals with trans people - someone who can help unravel what is going wrong with you.

Thank you Suzi. Blondie, this is the terminology we use here on the site: Transgender: an inclusive umbrella term which covers anyone who transcends their birth gender for any reason. This includes but is not limited to Androgynes, Crossdressers, Drag kings, Drag queens, Intersexuals, Transsexuals, and ->-bleeped-<-s.

Jasmine is describing a transsexual:

Transsexual: a person who is mentally one gender, but has the body of the other. They desire to live and be accepted as a member of the mental gender, this is generally accompanied by the strong desire to make their body as congruent as possible with the preferred sex through surgery and hormone treatments. 

Quote from: Laurette Mohr on November 27, 2014, 08:53:42 AM
I was all but 5 years of age when I first discovered my feminine feelings. I was shopping with Mommy and asked her to buy me 2 sets of earrings. She said no cause boys didn't do that. Then at the age of 9 or 10 praying to my Wonder Woman doll to change me completely into a girl and to take me to paradise Island where all the other girls were. Of course I did my best to deny it over the years but THAT never worked. Now I FULLY accept it.

When I was a kid, I was said to be well behaved quiet and shy different from my brothers.  I never had dolls or went shopping though. Didn't really desired to either.

About age five when I started having classmates. I had zero in common with the girls. When I heard the term gay for the first time, then had it explained, albeit poorly, I was about 14. I knew that wasn't me, either. I rather envy the folks under thirty these days, all this information, it's amazing.

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Quote from: Devlyn Marie on November 27, 2014, 01:10:59 PM
Thank you Suzi. Blondie, this is the terminology we use here on the site: Transgender: an inclusive umbrella term which covers anyone who transcends their birth gender for any reason. This includes but is not limited to Androgynes, Crossdressers, Drag kings, Drag queens, Intersexuals, Transsexuals, and ->-bleeped-<-s.

Jasmine is describing a transsexual:

Transsexual: a person who is mentally one gender, but has the body of the other. They desire to live and be accepted as a member of the mental gender, this is generally accompanied by the strong desire to make their body as congruent as possible with the preferred sex through surgery and hormone treatments.

Oh ok what do you mean mentally one gender? Like acts like a girl?


I think I might be an intersexual I was looking up what being intersex means.

And I Have some of the physical characteristics but just more subtle. Which is why I was assigned male without question.

I just need to see a dr.

It says "mentally one gender, but has the body of the other" because it applies to female to male transsexuals as well as male to female transsexuals. The wording doesn't default to girls.

It's not about acting like anything, it's about knowing who you are inside. That's why a therapist is recommended so often here, they can help you understand yourself.

Hugs, Devlyn

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Quote from: Devlyn Marie on November 27, 2014, 01:55:05 PM
It says "mentally one gender, but has the body of the other" because it applies to female to male transsexuals as well as male to female transsexuals. The wording doesn't default to girls.

It's not about acting like anything, it's about knowing who you are inside. That's why a therapist is recommended so often here, they can help you understand yourself.

Hugs, Devlyn

Yeah I don't feel like anything. And I agree I need professional help to figure this out thanks for all your advice.

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on November 27, 2014, 02:01:46 PM
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Thanks

I'm sorry if I was inappropriate or said something wrong.

I knew I identified with females and not with the males at a young age. I never had felt right with the gender that was assigned at birth. As far as putting the term transgender on it I hadn't done that tell this year, bit it fit like a glove once it was done.
Mariah

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on November 27, 2014, 01:10:59 PM
Jasmine is describing a transsexual:

Transsexual: a person who is mentally one gender, but has the body of the other. They desire to live and be accepted as a member of the mental gender, this is generally accompanied by the strong desire to make their body as congruent as possible with the preferred sex through surgery and hormone treatments.

Huh. I always thought a transexual is someone who's had sex reassignment. The more you know lol I personally feel like being transexual is the easiest to identify in terms of being transgender which is probably how I knew so early on.

That would be a tough deal for a transsexual with hemophilia, though, wouldn't it? I'm glad the information helped.

Quote from: Blondie14 on November 27, 2014, 02:47:07 PM
I'm sorry if I was inappropriate or said something wrong.

Not at all, we just give out the rules so everyone has the information available.

Hi Blondie,

Since you are 14 you might have to enlist the help of resources from your school. Is that possible? Guidance counselor?

Also understand that transitioning as a teen is better overall but if your parents resist you may have to wait until you graduate and are on your own. It sucks but this way you have more control of the process.

Quote from: ImagineKate on November 27, 2014, 04:26:22 PM
Hi Blondie,

Since you are 14 you might have to enlist the help of resources from your school. Is that possible? Guidance counselor?

Also understand that transitioning as a teen is better overall but if your parents resist you may have to wait until you graduate and are on your own. It sucks but this way you have more control of the process.

They're mainly just like my parents. I go to a private school so yeah I don't trust it.

I knew my physical body was not who I was from a very young, certainly by ~6.... did I know it was transgender then? No... and If I had asked about my feelings I would have been locked up and fed with insanity drugs!

Very different today, especially for young people.

L Katy

Which is why when they offered to send me to therapy when I was kid that I did everything I could to avoid. I knew their terms wouldn't lead anywhere good.
Mariah

Quote from: katrinaw on November 28, 2014, 01:00:22 AM
I knew my physical body was not who I was from a very young, certainly by ~6.... did I know it was transgender then? No... and If I had asked about my feelings I would have been locked up and fed with insanity drugs!

Very different today, especially for young people.

L Katy

True

So here we are...

Know what I have to  do... But so scared

L Katy