i am going to the monthly meeting of the local transgender group tomorrow evening.  Have talked to the foreman on the phone twice,
she is a very nice lady.  It´s probable that by just showing up there i will have outed myself.  i won´t go there dressed up, but am
trying to find something nice to wear for it.  Very nervous of course and excited, but trying to keep my expectations down.
i have this irrational fear that i am going to be shunned, but i have made up my mind, i am going, can´t bear being in limbo anymore.
Am just going to sit and observe and speak when spoken to, be enthusiastic but reserved as i can be too talkative when nervous.
Wish me luck please, i am going to need it.

good luck

you have to start somewhere. Going there isn't going to out yourself. Realistically you will out yourself to a group of transgender people. They have probably been where you are and will understand what you're going through. I didn't go dressed up the first time I went either. I went to PFLAG which is less of a direct LGBT support group and more of a support group for people who support LGBT. However over half the people there that day were either Gay or Lesbian. They had no trouble accepting me.

Wish you the best.

Its a hard issue we have to deal with. The unknown.

Just be honest with yourself. Head held high.

Hugs

Good luck!!

Everyone knows someone who knows you in this place, there are so few of us and people like to talk,
but it´s okay, i am as prepared for it as i can be.  If i am not out after this, fine, if i am, also fine.
Like you say Awilliams, i have to start somewhere and this is the best start i can think of.
Thank you sisters and thank you mrs izzy i will keep those words in mind

I came out to my TG freind last Monday, planning to others (build support group) over next few weeks. It was a massive weight of my mind... Hardest still to come though... 

Good luck 

L Katy

Lindagrl, that's an awesome step to be taking.  Enjoy the experience - there's nothing to be nervous about.  Everyone in that room will have been (or will be) in exactly the same situation you're in.  They'll understand, they'll know how you feel (nervous!), and they'll know how to make you comfortable.

I'm not a huge group fan - tried it a few times, maybe it was a strange cliquey group or something, who knows.  But for those first few times I went out and dealt with how I felt, it was extremely empowering and reassuring to be in a group setting where there were girls in all stages of their transitions.  It gave me the confidence I needed to push forward - it affirmed how I felt, and I left feeling on top of the world.

Nobody will shun you.  If anything, you'll be inundated with girls who want to help.

Quote from: katrinaw on December 02, 2014, 05:08:45 PM
I came out to my TG freind last Monday, planning to others (build support group) over next few weeks. It was a massive weight of my mind... Hardest still to come though...

Good luck 

L Katy

That´s fabulous Katy, holding your hand, we are going to be fine, one step at a time

Quote from: Brenda E on December 02, 2014, 05:16:16 PM
Lindagrl, that's an awesome step to be taking.  Enjoy the experience - there's nothing to be nervous about.  Everyone in that room will have been (or will be) in exactly the same situation you're in.  They'll understand, they'll know how you feel (nervous!), and they'll know how to make you comfortable.

I'm not a huge group fan - tried it a few times, maybe it was a strange cliquey group or something, who knows.  But for those first few times I went out and dealt with how I felt, it was extremely empowering and reassuring to be in a group setting where there were girls in all stages of their transitions.  It gave me the confidence I needed to push forward - it affirmed how I felt, and I left feeling on top of the world.

Nobody will shun you.  If anything, you'll be inundated with girls who want to help.

Oh Brenda, i pray it will be like that.  Thank you so very much, needed that
hugs
linda

I am so excited for you! Every step is a step toward self-realization and happiness! Peace.

Quote from: Cee Myk on December 02, 2014, 05:38:03 PM
I am so excited for you! Every step is a step toward self-realization and happiness! Peace.

Did not sleep much, so nervous.
This is exactly what i needed to read this morning 
Thank you kindly sister

Quote from: lindagrl on December 02, 2014, 04:43:55 PM
i am going to the monthly meeting of the local transgender group tomorrow evening.  Have talked to the foreman on the phone twice,
she is a very nice lady.  It´s probable that by just showing up there i will have outed myself.  i won´t go there dressed up, but am
trying to find something nice to wear for it.  Very nervous of course and excited, but trying to keep my expectations down.
i have this irrational fear that i am going to be shunned, but i have made up my mind, i am going, can´t bear being in limbo anymore.
Am just going to sit and observe and speak when spoken to, be enthusiastic but reserved as i can be too talkative when nervous.
Wish me luck please, i am going to need it.

Linda,

Good luck tomorrow. And good on you for being so brave as to take this first step. Don't worry about outing yourself, since- as has been pointed out already- you'll only be doing so to a group of folks in situations similar to your own.

I still haven't been able to make myself attend an in-person support group. I keep telling myself next week.  :-(

I hope your group provides you the comfort and clarity you seek.

-Teg

Good luck! The first steps are the hardest. I'm finding each one next to be easier as I go. :-)

Hugs Linda,

You brought thoughts back from my first time out. I was met by the head of the local transgender group in a safe pub. She had to hold my hand I was trembling so much!

I was terrified!

Goddess it seems so funny now.

I met her again recently when I was giving a public lecture, she came up to me after and said she was amazed, she never thought the frightened little closeted girl could cope, and there I was in front of an audience bantering away. Confident, happy out and proud.

You will be there as well one day - the first step is a doozy.

Taking it is tthe key to happiness.

Hugs Girl.

Oh, i am smiling from ear to ear now.
Bless you girls, thank you for your input each and every one,
feel privileged to be here among my peers.
It´s still 11 hours 44 minutes and 16 seconds away though 

Only 10 hours and some now

Good luck!

Thanks for the reminder Adrian 
Am busy shaving now, will probably do it a couple of more times today
and what to wear, i have no decent shoes.  These are just fun problems.
Have a pair of pants that could pass for slacks, V neck half sweater maybe,
no too much, tone it down. Voice training videos to brush up on my speaking.
arrgh only ten hours to prepare 

Quote from: lindagrl on December 02, 2014, 05:20:00 PM
That´s fabulous Katy, holding your hand, we are going to be fine, one step at a time

Good luck for 10 hours time and enjoy the moment

L Katy

Quote from: katrinaw on December 03, 2014, 04:34:24 AM


Good luck for 10 hours time and enjoy the moment

L Katy

i intend to 
With so many girls rooting for me, i feel so much more confident already