Quote from: LostInTime on October 15, 2007, 10:41:27 AM
nada. I try to look good when I go out. That in and of itself attracts attention. This weekend the mini and boots will too.
For me it's corset and
boobs. I am still flabbergasted at my hourglass figure in myu corset with my DDs and I always had "legs to die for." I was going to mention that the attention gets annoying at times but, then, I realize that I could dress down if I wanted to so I must love it!
I forgot to mention the meeting. It was my first time there, really nice group, mostly gay men, I did a "share" (talking about how we fight our addiction) and I was "on" last night. I used to do stand-up comedy when I was in early transition, I had a killer monologue just talking about my transition. (Too bad the monologue I had worked so hard to perfect no longer has any relevance.) Anyway, I got several laughs in my three minute ad-lib speech and I wasn't even trying to be funny. Afterwards, the secretary asked me if I would come back as a featured speaker. You have to be an AA to appreciate this as I barely have six months clean. This is quite an honor.
I am just starting to realize how my life has gotten so much better in the last six months, getting sober, achieving an outward appearance that I never dreamed I have. (SRS and BA combined with working out five-seven times a week, I even love the appearance of my vagina) Ok, enough narcissism....but really it's nice to be pleased with one's appearance instead of looking in the mirror and looking in the mirror and seeing an attractive woman. I used to always feel "less than" now I am starting to feel "more than" which is not good, I just have to work on letting go of focusing on self, which I think is hard for us as transitioning is all about changing the outward appearance and gettting the world to view us as female, which in this culture, means "pretty." To me it is anyway and I make no apologies for that especially being in a field (sales) in which appearance is very important.
Posted on: October 15, 2007, 11:37:31 AM
Quote from: LostInTime on October 15, 2007, 07:27:31 AM
No sympathy from me here as it's usually the really ugly women who give me the most grief.
I used to get a lot of grief earlier on when I was less "passable" but even then very attractive. And I get the same guff from women who are not outwardly attractive (To me calling a woman ugly is sexist and IMO everyone is beautiful, must be the Buddhist study) in my support groups where I am out as trans. In fact, my drug counselor at the program I am in pointed out the same thing. She said (and I always suspected this) that it really galls some women (especially addicts in early recovery) when they see a woman who was "born a man" who is way more attractive than they are. When I am down, I remind myself that that I am, without a doubt, far more attractive than most women my age. That is not egotistical or boastful as many women just let themselves go after 50. If I were 30 and looked like this but younger I might just a little better than average.
I had almost forgotten that my friend came up to me after a meeting in which I talked about my trans issues and said, "Wow, I can't believe it, you look better than I do" I thought well, 99% of the females on earth look better than you do!
Apparently, she still has a hard time accepting that I am trans, she was talking about how she could only think of another transwoman in the group as a man. Then later she asked me if I had periods! I said no remember I don't have a reproductive system? "Oh yeah," she says, "But are you sure you weren't a 'hermaphrodite?" LOL
