I love the support everyone gets here at Susan's but I was wondering for how many people this is the only support they have, how many are going it alone IRL.
I see a lot of posts where people have the support of families, friends, therapists, support groups etc but I for one don't have any of that and I guess there must be others like me. This isn't a woe is me post btw, lol, I'm fine with going it alone (just makes me grit my teeth and get more determined ) but it might be nice to see that others have managed it alone too

You are not alone!  Just smile and the world smiles with you;)

It can be done alone but it is easier when you have a mentor or support network that is there when you need that little extra.

Here at Susan's there is always someone around so your never really alone if you stay active in the community.

A therapist is one of them things that is needed in helping plan your path.

It truly is not easy.

Hugs

I hate to sound preachy but.... Twice in my early twenties I tried "Going it alone". I was totally floored some 30 years later when I went to my first ever TG support group meeting. It changed my life for the better. When I finally got to move back to "trans central", as my wife calls the NYC metro area, I got access to a for real gender therapist. What a difference that makes too.

YMMV

I've pretty much been going it alone. Yes I have an adopted family but those of them who are left don't support me at all. I have a lot of friends I've made over the last 6 years I've been full time, but most of them just see me as just one of the girls as they don't know my history, and it seems those that do have forgotten that I used to pretend to be a guy. In addition, I live in a rural area of NorthWest Central Florida and do not have any therapists that will treat me being an IS/Transwoman, so outside of my Endo and my Kid sister who lives with me now I have no support with the exception of this wonderful online community and the very supportive people here. This site has saved my life and preserved my sanity. There is none better. So in essence, your not alone as Mrs Izzy points out as long as your an active member here.

Best Wishes!

Happy Holidays!

Ally

I am going it alone in the sense that I haven't told anyone that is in my life right now.  In all honesty, sometimes I wish I didn't have any friends or family around. It would make transitioning a lot easier.  There would be no one to hurt, embarrass or disappoint. My family and friends are like Sylvia Plath's tulips, eating my oxygen, lead sinkers around my neck when it comes to transitioning. I've been thinking that I really need to get to a support meeting soon, hiding something this big is exhausting.  I can't imagine being around people who know who I really am and accept me that way.

all I have is my therapist and Susan's which is fine. I don't know can you count God too

Done it all alone. When you are determined, you can do anything.

I suspect I'll be going it alone, as per others with the help and support of these forums and the friends here... I also have a close transgender friend who will be my support lifeline locally... will be testing some close friends early in new year, maybe it will all work out, maybe not... as much as I want a social life, my expectations are varied ATM..

Already found a good Dr, many years ago... been great support thus far... now finding other resources to enable me to fully transition... of which forum and my friend has helped me with... Gender Centre here is next step for a good counsellor 

L Katy

Thanks for all the replies   I'm sooo glad I didn't get any saying 'OMG! are you mad?' lol.  So it'll just be me, Susan's and an unending supply of hot chocolate and tissues  
And yep, I'll be staying around on Susan's, I'm not easy to get rid of

Hugs

I am pretty much alone in becoming my true-self. I have a therapist I see on a rather regular schedule, which is great for support and getting through the hurdles we need to jump through. I have my parents who are also supportive, but they don't know to the full extent I intend to transition and nor do they understand the full extent of what it means to be transgender, but they say they love me no matter what and they just want me to be happy - plus they said they'll always be there to talk too or a shoulder to cry on if needed ..... only issue is they live quite a distance away. As far as immediate family, my wife and tween-age daughters are completely against and very unsupportive, to the point of transphobic. The few friends I've come out to have been mixed, with some not even talking to me anymore and others are okay, but the friendship has faded to distant at best. Many other friends I am assuming will be much the same as none were ever super close friends to begin with. My extended family (brothers/sisters) I think will be fine, but they all have their separate lives now and live several hours away from where I am at.

I am looking at getting involved in some of the local support groups and making friends through them. I have also recently taken a job as my true-self and look to make some friends that way as well.

I do have the support of half of my immediate family, but no one lives anywhere near me. The people that live around me seem to be accepting of me, but in the end I'm an introvert and don't have a lot of friends. In some ways I'm going alone.

Well I'll be moving to a new town after xmas as my wife and I are separating, so it'll just be little old me then. Well, me and my two best friends, Mace and Tazer, hehe:D