I'm in my 2nd month from brassard and now only dilate 3x a day. I know you need to wait at least 2 hours between but what's the max you can go? Sometimes I go 12-14 hours between dilations....when do you start loosing depth?

I am a Brassard grad.  I would urge that you try not to test the time limit, but of course we have lives and sometimes it's difficult to get the midday dilation  in.  Two months is still very early. I would not go much beyond 8 hours, and even then add some time (you'll notice the difference).  Don't cut corners on dilation if you can help it -- you can't get depth back.  I can't tell you what is safe as it varies person to person.  If you miss a dilation, the next is more uncomfortable. You can recover from that, but if you start to lose the habit you'll either prolong the need for frequent dilation or start to lose depth. It does get a bit easier once you are down to two a day, and then one etc. Three is really annoying, but you signed up for it!

Dilations 2hr minimum and 12 hrs max

I don't know if it's just me but I have been having anal sex for years and really good at relaxing my anal muscles. I feel that this benefits my dilation because I hardly feel pain even witht he biggest one. Does anyone who has had frequent anal sex feel this way?