I had the same thing happen at my therapist Katie; she came out; looked at me, seemed a bit confused; then did a double take and recognized me lol.... It's fun fooling the therapist.

Good one Katie and Eva.

I remember my therapist's first glimpse in the waiting room of me as Suzi. Her eyes widened in surprised. "But I told you I was going full time," I reminded her. "People say all kinds of things," she answered. Really boosted my self image. Helped me realized how strong I was for actually going through with it.

Sitting in a general waiting room for multiple medical practitioners, I was the only one in the waiting room and some female practitioner scanned the room, saw me, and came to me and asked me if I was miss so and so for her appointment. I said: Nope!

Happened three times by now with different practitioners. I guess I don't pass as a male very well...

The best compliment was this one:

At one time I went to a different MD, who never saw me and only knew I was a female trans with a female name. When I met her, she thought I was female, and out of interest asked me about which FTM surgeries I wanted.    It was so weird... I told her I was MTF. 

She then told me: well, that's a big compliment then! Yeah, I guess so... 

A cis woman I had just me at a friends birthday party didn't realize I am trans when I outed myself to her. She said "I just thought you were a lesbian." I'm still kind of confused about exactly what that means....

Anyways, I responded with "Kinda a lesbian, but I like boys too."

Ah yes - I was also one time outing myself to a medical doctor (a voice doctor) because I was writing down that I take hormones and so she asked why and then I took a while to tell that I am transsexual. She then looked uncomfortably and finally came out with the question "in which direction?" - LOL - I was a bit flattered but also thought "do I look like a transguy??"

Quote from: anjaq on December 10, 2014, 04:14:47 AM
LOL - I was a bit flattered but also thought "do I look like a transguy??"

Well, that actually happened to me once, in my 1st year of HRT. Wearing leather jacket, jeans, sneakers, I overheard one woman say to her young child in a cute voice: Look, that is a girl who wants to be a boy.

Safe to say, I never wore that black leather jacket, jeans and sneakers ever again. In fact, I don't even own jeans anymore. I hate them with a passion.

Ah - I would probably not even mind if someone took me for a girl that "wants to be a boy". I dont wear jeans mostly because the usual sizes dont fit me and the XXXL ones seem to be more expensive. But usually it was part of my everyday attire. I do start to like skirts on few occasions now though. But it is a very rare exception yet

I started going to a new dentist about a year ago, and I had to fill out one of those forms where you list your medicines. So I listed estrogen and spiro in with everything else i'm taking.

Later on he was going over the chart with me sitting in the chair, and our conversation went something like this:

dentist: I see that you are taking estrogen?

Me: i'm transgender

dentist: (pauses...... look at me) female to male?

me: no, the other way

He has been very understanding about it ever since.

When other woman (complete strangers) start to talk to you? 

Seriously, when other woman are striking up conversations with you at the most random places. Would never happen as a guy. Period.

Quote from: Eva Marie on December 11, 2014, 10:04:16 AM
dentist: I see that you are taking estrogen?
Me: i'm transgender
dentist: (pauses...... look at me) female to male?
me: no, the other way

I wonder how one could think a transguy would take estrogen without being forced to do
It is interesting though - most people think that transgender would look like their birth assigned gender with maybe some little changes in attire and makeup or such - they seem to have no idea. That doc I went to - I mean I am not overly feminine but I do have some longer hair and have some other accessoires that a transguy probably would not really present - I dont get it...

Quote from: anjaq on December 12, 2014, 02:34:25 AM
I wonder how one could think a transguy would take estrogen without being forced to do
It is interesting though - most people think that transgender would look like their birth assigned gender with maybe some little changes in attire and makeup or such - they seem to have no idea. That doc I went to - I mean I am not overly feminine but I do have some longer hair and have some other accessoires that a transguy probably would not really present - I dont get it...

I think what he was seeing overrode his thought processes and he blurted out what he was thinking before he could correct himself. Having boobs probably helped with that. I took it as a sign that I was on the right track

Although I find the point of this thread kinda questionable and braggy.. I kinda am in the mood for it so here's mine... I've been going on chat roulette specifically to test my pass ability and literally every guy has said something very positive about my appearance and no one knew I was trans... I told one guy and he didn't believe me at first... Not trying to brag I'm just really happy.. Especially cause now I know when a guy looks at me in public it might not mean he's clocking me, maybe he's just checking me out? So happy about this^^

I have found myself at the impass last night.  Took my three girls to a hockey game as my middle daughter plays little pens hockey in my area.  Only one parent knows about me being in mid transition so I had to go in a half way male looking mode.  I used the restroom and on my way out this big guy was walking in and literally stopped where I couldn't get out and was giving me strange up and down looks.  When he started questioning I acted with the irritated "I get that all the time" he stated his apologies.  He then said "I was looking for a chest (they were half hidden under a pens jersey and a zip hoodie)....damn life must be difficult for you looking like that"

I had a hard time not smiling from ear to ear and thanking him. 

Quote from: Annabolton on December 20, 2014, 01:50:32 AM
Although I find the point of this thread kinda questionable and braggy..

I don't think it's braggy.  We're celebrating our achievements and encouraging others as they get to the point of passing.

Besides Anna, not all of us are as beautiful as you are so early in transition. 

Quote from: Annabolton on December 20, 2014, 01:50:32 AM
Although I find the point of this thread kinda questionable and braggy.. I kinda am in the mood for it so here's mine... I've been going on chat roulette specifically to test my pass ability and literally every guy has said something very positive about my appearance and no one knew I was trans... I told one guy and he didn't believe me at first... Not trying to brag I'm just really happy.. Especially cause now I know when a guy looks at me in public it might not mean he's clocking me, maybe he's just checking me out? So happy about this^^

I used to do that to in my early days when I had just started hrt and even before. It helped me build a bit of confidence. Its so reaffirming to experience being gendered correctly even if its online.

Hmm I'd have to say one of my most recent experiences was walking into victoria secret with my gf and the women working there would walk by and ask us, "do you ladies need any help" and when we went up to the register, "how are you ladies doing today". It was quite nice, I was squealing with joy on the inside.

Its hard for me to grasp that I've come so far and to be at this point in my life right now just feels so good. I still have a bunch of life problems to deal with and other things to do in my transition but right now this is the happiest I've been.

I wouldn't call it braggy. I think it feels so surprising and jubilant when you first get those passing moments. It lets you know that you really can do this even though so much negative is thrown at you. It is a good thing to share what brings you happiness as well as what brings you discord.


Sadness shared is halved, happiness shared doubled. We could all use a bit of happiness shared.

Quote from: LordKAT on December 21, 2014, 05:02:34 AM
Sadness shared is halved, happiness shared doubled. We could all use a bit of happiness shared.

Kat, that is soooo good!   

Last night my wife and I went out to see Brian Setzer.   I wasn't the only transwoman in the backstage bar area.  When she passed me by, she complimented me on my purse.  I thanked her and smiled, then she went on with her evening.   It became evident that she had no freaking clue that I'm trans as well. 

I think that might be the gold standard of passing.

I also had a house holiday party on Saturday night and met a few people for the first time, and a few that I hadn't seen in several years.  Some really great things happened.

"Hi, I'm Gail."
"Umm, I'm Jill!"
"Holy sh*t!"

A woman I'd never met before told me that she'd never had known that I was trans if someone hadn't already outed me.

A friend of mine from college that I hadn't seen in many years came and announced that she was getting a divorce from another friend of mine and I suddenly became her new girlfriend with a shoulder to cry on.  We are reconnecting with a very different dynamic.

LOL... I had just gotten out of the shower and wrapped my hair up in a towel yesterday when there was a knock at the door... Thinking a friend I was expecting had shown up early I grabbed another towel to wrap myself and answered the door... To my surprise it was a delivery guy with a package for me 

He gave me a big smile and said "Well hi there I have a package for male name" So I asked him if he needed a signature

He said no and tried to hand me the package, realizing I couldn't really handle the package right then he looked a bit confused as to what to do 

Not thinking I told him he could just kinda slide it in    He gave me a rather obvious bad boy smile then politely pushed the package through the doorway

I thanked him for the package and he smiled and said "Happy holidays Ma'am" and walked away

My friend showed up about 10 min.s later