I'm thinking it's pretty normal for the desire to have children to increase on Estrogen, mothering insticts and whatnot.  I personally haven't got any desire to spread my DNA or to carry a child, but right now I want nothing more than to adopt a special little one who needs a home and someone to love them unconditionally.  I find myself browsing the government adoption website here and just crying.  I honestly have no idea what my chances are being trans and especially being single, but it's given me a real purpose and something to work towards getting my life into gear.  For the first time in so long, I'm truly happy and have hope and can see a future for myself and I have so much love to give and just want to share it with someone.  I think I would be heartbroken if I didn't get the chance to adopt, but I'd like to think that I could accept it and move on.  Anyways, I'm not sure if I had a question at the beginning of this but I'm just crying again.  It's nice for them not to be tears of depression and hopelessness for once.  I just can't believe where I am right now.  So emotional

I'm trying to rid myself of the worry that I'm better off not adopting because that kids gonna grow up being made fun of or being embarrassed to be seen with me.

Danielle-

Kids just want parents that will care for them and will create a safe place for them to bloom - it doesn't matter who you are; as long as you are there for them - that's what matters the most to them.

When I was at the pride event in West Hollywood this year I stopped and chatted with a person that was running a booth for an agency that helps LGBT people adopt - it was of interest to me since I have adopted children that are off at college now - so there are agencies out there that will work with us. I apologize that I do not remember their name. A google search might find them or another agency that does the same thing.

~Eva

Quote from: Danielle Emmalee on December 11, 2014, 11:47:55 PM
I'm trying to rid myself of the worry that I'm better off not adopting because that kids gonna grow up being made fun of or being embarrassed to be seen with me.

If you raise children right, they'll love you no matter what, all it takes is a little love.

I haven't got any children myself, but I would really love to have kids of my own, but somehow I think I'll end up looking into adoption, like you.

I went to a TG group at Nerang Queensland once and there was this transgender lady who had bought her two kids aged about 10 or 11. This translady in my oppinion did not pass. Because I was curious I asked about the childrens perspective on how they felt about their transmother and the two girls said that they love their new mother no matter what and don't care what the other children at their school thought. The conversation was longer than that but it was really warming to the heart. I also was insecure about how my potentual children might respond to me being TG.  Even if your future children are teased because their mother is a little different the bond between you and them can surpass everything that the public can throw at you.

Quote from: Danielle Emmalee on December 11, 2014, 11:47:55 PM
I'm trying to rid myself of the worry that I'm better off not adopting because that kids gonna grow up being made fun of or being embarrassed to be seen with me.

I transitioned as a teacher in the school my daughter attends. It was highly public and everyone knew about it.

No one, no one at all, give my daughter a hard time about it.

So embarrassment and harassment are not inevitable.

Thank you for the reassurances

Your welcome n I like your profile picture, very festive.

Quote from: Danielle Emmalee on December 11, 2014, 11:47:55 PM
I'm trying to rid myself of the worry that I'm better off not adopting because that kids gonna grow up being made fun of or being embarrassed to be seen with me.

I'm sure you will be fine Danielle! There are actually adoption agencies that work within the lgbtq community.

I also want to adopt, so have looked into it and even have it all roughly planned out. Personally, I plan to adopt once my I finish my 2nd puberty and I have finished transitioning physically, something that I feel like in my case is 4-6 years from now. I love children and can't wait to finally be a mother, just want to be prepared financially, mentally and physically. I wish you luck, maybe you can be the gal to start the "I transitioned and adopted kids" thread

Yay, I would love that.