I met a guy on the summer of 2013 in a group meeting. He wasn't originally in our group but ge came over. For some reason, he started teasing ne about alcool and smiled to me the whole night trying to get me to drink, we talked a bit and then when I didn't come one time, he said to my brother I was really cool. I am not on HRT but my voice high and people perceive as femme/gay and I have a youngish face. He then told me while we were playing a game I had a really good personality. After we finished, he just kept talking to me about himself and asking questions amd he even told me of disease he had. Maybe he is lonely despite popular?

Anyways,  this year on a halloween night out I went with a group, I suddenly went alone for a drink abd kept waving at ny brother so ge could see where I was. From the corner of my eye, I saw someone smiling and coming closer. I hear an "hi" and turn around.  It was him. In front of me with an open smile. I paralyzed and didn't know what to say, just lightly smiled abd lifted my hand. He tried to give ne a handshake but instead we kept looking at each other for like 5 seconds, he then leaned in and asked in my ear how I was. Then in a FB convo I had courage to talk to him (finally!!) he asked if I gad got some girl and how my life was.

So..yeah I know it may be just friendship interest but could it ve something more?  Do you think he is open to being a friend to me if I talk to him? Thiianks

Ps: transition is going along I am gonna do iiiit

Sounds like he wants to be your friend. I guess if he wants more it will come out as you spend time together. SOmetimes friendly people are just that, friendly and they want to be friends. Other times friendly people want something else. Just keep that in mind and also understand that if you are presenting as male (despite a femme persona) if he sees you as male and is attracted to you then it's unlikely to be a straight relationship he's after. Just work on the friendship angle first.

He likes you a lot thats for sure.

Quote from: Ms Grace on December 25, 2014, 05:32:28 PM
Sounds like he wants to be your friend. I guess if he wants more it will come out as you spend time together. SOmetimes friendly people are just that, friendly and they want to be friends. Other times friendly people want something else. Just keep that in mind and also understand that if you are presenting as male (despite a femme persona) if he sees you as male and is attracted to you then it's unlikely to be a straight relationship he's after. Just work on the friendship angle first.

Thanks it causes me grief than I am still seen as male ugh ugh albeit a very effeminate one and it is so hard. To fit in, find love. It is very challenging.  I hope transition can actually make my life better.

Sadly, if you are still presenting as male (name, pronouns, clothing, presentation, etc) then he will still be seeing you as male. I was frequently regarded to be gay because I was more feminine in my behaviour 

Quote from: Ms Grace on December 25, 2014, 05:47:01 PM
Sadly, if you are still presenting as male (name, pronouns, clothing, presentation, etc) then he will still be seeing you as male. I was frequently regarded to be gay because I was more feminine in my behaviour 

It is not only behavior. It is voice, face (kindaish) and body cause I am tiny. I am definitely treated as if I am weaker and know no better. Not the same as being treated and seen as female but it surely comes with a badge of less privilege.

BTW....How do you talk to guys? I have no experience at all and know nothing about guy topics lol. He seems to like football.