So i'm back after a little self journey, i've been working on myself image alot recently but things are very much a secret, i've got aroud to telling more and more people, one including my girlfriend the issue is though that i'm struggling to balance the two i fear that i will never be happy with myself and that will affect our relationship, but at the same time i don't want to lose her, she wont stay with me if i transition, i love her alot but i fear which i want to love more, myself or my girlfriend

Has anyone been in a similar situation any experiences or advice would be great

Tess,

This is a tough decision and only you can come to terms with what to do.

I understand your girlfriends apprehension but does she understand your needs?

Your needs and hers may not be compatible. If you are young, not married and no children then splitting up now would be easier than if you are married, two children and 10 years older. I went the suppression route only to pay for it later. Sooner or later you will need to address your needs.

 ( this may sound negative but it ends well lol )

I recently faced the decision of telling my fiance and when i finally convinced her that
this was not a joke she got very defensive and pretty much said that she could not
be with me if i transitioned, i had already made the decision to go ahead with mt transition
and she was not happy about this at all, but before i left i just asked her to do one thing
and that was before she made any final decision on our future to sit and think about it
and ask herself what it was that she loved most about me, was it my looks , my personality
so when i walked away that day she would not even look at me let alone say goodbye,
so i went home thinking well i guess it just was not meant to be, did not sleep well that night

I woke up next morning and as im eating breakfast the phone rings and its her, i was hesitant
to answer, i really wasn't in the mood to argue so early in the morning, well i answered and she
started asking me about the transition process and all and by time i hung up she had come
around and is now in full support of my decision if it is what will make me happy,
I just talked to her today and she is now looking forward to it and has actually said that she is
glad to see me so happy for the first time in a long time and she plans on sticking with me
through my transition and beyond

As i can't say what your outcome will turn out to be, i can say that things are not always what they seem at first
and only you can decide what is best for your situation, I wish you the very best and i hope all goes well for you