Hi there people, I need some honest and serious medical opinions on transexuals.  I am a little concerned about a girl I met at the bar approx a week ago.  We hit it off rather well and went back to her place for more drinks and one thing led to another and we had intercourse.  However, things seemed a little different than what i am familiar with.  I 24 and i am a straight guy and have been with my fair share of women.  When describing the private area to a friend he said she just has an "outey" which i am not to familiar with.  After this week I have become more and more concerned mostly due to jokes i have endured through my buddies.  She constantly uses lube and always turns the lights off and lights candles at that special moment.  things seems to feel right, however i am quite aware technology has come a long way in this field.  can anyone give me signs to look for so i do not have to be that guy to ask a straight forward question and hurt her if i were to be wrong.  she claims to be a runway model for neiman marcus, has a great body.  she purchased her breats from her "sister" who happens to be a cosmetic surgen and who looks nothing like her- apparently they are step sisters from different fathers.  i have no problem with choices people make as to who or what they want to be or be with.  however, it is WRONG to fool someone into thinking there are with someone they are not.  any help will be much appreciated...

thanks agian in advance.

dude, this is kinda an offensive post... which is why you haven't received any responses.  You've slept with her more than once.  You're obviously attracted to her.  I don't see what the issue is.  She isn't "fooling" you.  She's a woman, trans or not.

I second that JT.

You have to know and realize that especially after a trans person has had surgery, they are all as much a female or male depending on which way you are going, as you feel what you are. If she is trans then so be it, She has the "parts" you are interested in and that should be all that matters. Obviously no one on the outside would ever know by your discription of her. That is not something I think you should ask her. If she is and wants you yo know then let her tell you. Know one knows my past since my surgery, and that is the way it will stay.

                                                    Marco

                     

What the hell are you concerned about?  The fact that you're an idiot?  I'd be pretty concerned about that myself, if I were you.

The fact of the matter is that you're more "concerned" about the opinions of your tasteless friends than you are for your feelings for this girl.  She very well could be a woman with a vaginal tweak.  She very well could be post-op trans.  Either way, she's a woman, and you need to bloody educate yourself not only on what it means to be attracted to someone, but what it means to think for yourself.

I mean, look at you.  It's pathetic.  You can't even just take someone for what they are, you have to "suspect" something and then come here seeking advice about something you're grossly uneducated about, hoping that we'll give you some answer that's going to enable you to...  I don't know, "get to the bottom of this"?  You already got to the bottom of it.  You're attracted to her, you had sex with her.  You like her, but honestly, you just sound like another selfish jerk who cares more about saving face with his homies than you do about actually having a meaningful relationship with a woman.

In closing, she's just a typical woman with fake tits, and you're just a typical man.

Get over yourself.

~ BB

wow, didnt really see all that coming.  and yes, she is more than beautiful woman, and yes i am sure of it now, she is a woman.  anyway, thanks for the feedback. 

Concerned,

As to finding out whether she is or not, you should just ask.

Then, I think that you should leave her immediately and find someone else.  Give her a chance to find genuine love with someone who cares about her for the right reasons.

Cindi

I'm inclined to give concerned a chance here, he is comming from an 'uneducated' perspective.

I think the key here is that even if she was born in a male body she is as much a woman as any womn, that she is not trying to be something she is not.

If she is not a trans-lady then concerned should be concerned about the fact that he is not getting her hot enough to self lubricate. I would suggest extending foreplay and communicating more in the sack

"lubes up"
Are you implying all you have is anal sex?

Eep!