I'm not sure if I'm looking for advice or I just want to rant a bit, either way I'm going to ramble a bit.

Lately I've been wanting to come out as neutrois in real life and I figure it would be best to tell my mother first, seeing as she's one of the only people I consistently spend time with. The thing is that I've already mentioned that I may be non-binary, she knows I wear a binder, and we've openly discussed my desire for chest reconstruction. I've pretty much done everything but flat out say that I'm neutrois.

Schrodinger's Closet.

I'm the kind of person who could wear a t-shirt proclaiming my queerness, but a personal discussion about it? Dear God, no. I thought it would be easier to come out back when I was still questioning. Like when I came out as gay back when I was younger. But this is way different. The thought of asking others to use a different name and pronouns that what they thought is intimidating. I despise asking people to things so personal.
So now I'm panicking over coming out to someone who I know probably will have an okay reaction.

You will be surprised with the amount of goodness that exists out there.

A quick share, I just started working for my part time job last November and for some reason outted myself to this girl that I barely now but for some reason got drawn to her charm and just the plain goodness of her heart.

Next thing I know, she went ahead and asked me if I wanted management to know about my feminine name and for them to use the correct pronouns. Next thing I know, management informed everyone about it and now everyone genders me correctly. Best feeling ever

I say just do it. To those who matter dont mind, and those who mind dont matter xo.

Quote from: Princen Nix on December 30, 2014, 10:28:11 PM
I'm not sure if I'm looking for advice or I just want to rant a bit, either way I'm going to ramble a bit.

Lately I've been wanting to come out as neutrois in real life and I figure it would be best to tell my mother first, seeing as she's one of the only people I consistently spend time with. The thing is that I've already mentioned that I may be non-binary, she knows I wear a binder, and we've openly discussed my desire for chest reconstruction. I've pretty much done everything but flat out say that I'm neutrois.

Schrodinger's Closet.

I'm the kind of person who could wear a t-shirt proclaiming my queerness, but a personal discussion about it? Dear God, no. I thought it would be easier to come out back when I was still questioning. Like when I came out as gay back when I was younger. But this is way different. The thought of asking others to use a different name and pronouns that what they thought is intimidating. I despise asking people to things so personal.
So now I'm panicking over coming out to someone who I know probably will have an okay reaction.

Coming out can always be risky, some people can't or won't "get it" but you'd be surprised how many will get you and respect you. All you need to do is speak your truth. Doing that is really scary which no doubt accounts for you being nervous. Yeah it's a drag having to talk about something so personal, it's yet one more of those hoops trans people seem to have to jump through just for some kind of basic acceptance. Besides if you don't tell them the name and pronouns you want to use how can they ever know?

Yeah, I think my biggest issue is my tendency to word things too casually. To the point of making what I'm trying to get out seem very unimportant and easily forgotten. I'm probably just going to write a letter.