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Started by Ferretty, January 02, 2015, 01:23:48 AM

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Ferretty

I am an introvert through and through and I was wondering something? Is it possible to be too introverted, as in unhealthily so. Let me give some examples.

In school if someone I don't know tries to talk to me, I just instantly dismiss them with something akin to,"f*** off." And don't even give them the chance to say anything, good or nice.

If it's a group project I without telling anyone while they are working start working on a project of my own and hope they notice and transition over to my project and let me handle anything that has a large impact on our grade.

The only class where I am halfway open and not just hermiting is my math class because I don't have a major problem with anyone in there the teacher is awesome and it's a class of a total of 13-14 people(woop woop double advanced math class). Oh and I have a total of 2 friends actually at my school...

SIDENOTE: the title... How could I it's WRONG its HORRIBLE, oh wait nvm I can add another o  ;)
A merry christmas to all


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Cindy

Hi Honey,

There are all sorts of reasons for this, sometimes it is called, social phobia. Many transgender suffer from it but is not uncommon among adolescents generally.

One of the issues BTW is for people who spend their time on social media, playing online games and meeting people through that, rather than learning how to relate to people face to face.

It can be overcome and it can take a bit of time.

One way may sound so silly but I will say it - it worked for me!

Try joining a club, a hobby that has nothing to do with online activity.

It can be anything. Making paper planes - sounds nuts, good fun. Acting? Painting? Art? Music groups?

The idea is to get out and slowly see other people - as people.

You will soon realise that most people are lonely as well, and want to meet you, so why not join them!

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Ferretty

Quote from: Cindy on January 02, 2015, 01:46:15 AM
Hi Honey,

There are all sorts of reasons for this, sometimes it is called, social phobia. Many transgender suffer from it but is not uncommon among adolescents generally.

One of the issues BTW is for people who spend their time on social media, playing online games and meeting people through that, rather than learning how to relate to people face to face.

It can be overcome and it can take a bit of time.

One way may sound so silly but I will say it - it worked for me!

Try joining a club, a hobby that has nothing to do with online activity.

It can be anything. Making paper planes - sounds nuts, good fun. Acting? Painting? Art? Music groups?

The idea is to get out and slowly see other people - as people.

You will soon realise that most people are lonely as well, and want to meet you, so why not join them!

I would try but it feels like the people I see are very alienating to me just by nature, my school is christian (I don't really have a problem with christianity it's just what some people staple onto it) so i doubt many people would know what transgender is, much less be accepting of it.

And then the clubs are so laid back and really don't do much and any clubs I would want to go to are very solitary.

However I will give it another go

Thanks for the help  :)

A merry christmas to all


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What's that? Oh but it's too early for christmas you say? BLASPHEMY
It's never too early.

~Skye
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Valerie Rose

Depending on availability in your region/area you could try joining a LGBT or trans support group...
I found that helped me a lot because I have something in common with members of those groups. The one I used to go to that will hopefully be starting up again used to meet once a month. During the first bit of each meeting we used to always each get a chance to speak or not about what has happened since last visit. This was a great chance to voice concern or talk transition or life. I also felt some kind of compulsion to make sure I was looking my best on those days lol. I was kinda insane about it, I would spend twice as much time getting ready to go to the meeting than on a regular day lol.
Some people have confused me for being introvert because I can be extremely shy. But once I feel comfortable I am a very chatty girl. So my point is, I hope you find something you are comfortable doing! I think being too introvert is not so healthy but being reserved and shy is perfectly acceptable.
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Ferretty

Quote from: Valerie Rose on January 02, 2015, 03:12:16 AM
Depending on availability in your region/area you could try joining a LGBT or trans support group...
I found that helped me a lot because I have something in common with members of those groups. The one I used to go to that will hopefully be starting up again used to meet once a month. During the first bit of each meeting we used to always each get a chance to speak or not about what has happened since last visit. This was a great chance to voice concern or talk transition or life. I also felt some kind of compulsion to make sure I was looking my best on those days lol. I was kinda insane about it, I would spend twice as much time getting ready to go to the meeting than on a regular day lol.
Some people have confused me for being introvert because I can be extremely shy. But once I feel comfortable I am a very chatty girl. So my point is, I hope you find something you are comfortable doing! I think being too introvert is not so healthy but being reserved and shy is perfectly acceptable.

I'll try something as close to that as soon as possible thanks  ;)
A merry christmas to all


...


What's that? Oh but it's too early for christmas you say? BLASPHEMY
It's never too early.

~Skye
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