I know I've already posted this in the signifigant others forum, but I was recommended to put it here too in case anyone here had advice. I'm just gonna copy paste my post from there.

I'm a transguy and I've recently entered a relationship with a transgirl. We've both been on hrt for about the same amount of time, but she tells me a lot how jealous she is of how well my physical appearance has changed on testosterone, whereas she is afraid of never passing (as a trans person myself I feel like I can share the sentiment).
She wants me to help her out with things like makeup and helping her overall appearance more feminine, which I'm happy to do, as even though I'm a transguy I'm still like quite a few feminine things and know a thing or two about makeup. I figured I needed to learn a bit more about facial feminization techniques with makeup and such however, and there I ran into a problem.

It seems like almost all the support for transwomen out there is only for skinny girls, with typically oval or heart shaped faces that are easy to contour, while there's nearly no support for more heavyset androgynous girls like my girlfriend.  I know she's really concerned that her weight will have negative impacts on her ability to pass.

Aren't there any online places with support for androgynous or heavy transgirls? There's support for overweight transguys everywhere, it isn't fair that by transitioning transgirls should become inclined to the strict societal standards of women while transguys are allowed to slack off on personal hygiene and be praised for it.

I guess in the end I'm asking, does anyone know if there's anywhere with support for helping either androgynous or heavy transgirls pass, or individual people who fit those categories that have advice?

(sorry if this is a bit messy and incoherent)

I'm sure she's nervous about the weight but if you look around at the various threads with weight and before and after, you'll see that we come in all shapes and sizes. I am 5'6", 170lbs which is not skinny at all. How long has she been on HRT anyway? In time it can do wonders. 

She's been on hormones for around 6 months, she's around the 250-ish pound range.

I was actually around 260 lbs at 5'8" last spring due to medication. I have very fair skin being of Irish decent, my make routine was to use the lightest concealer I could find on my beard area, then powder foundation, followed by bb cream, after I would use some blush and tinted lip balm and stop there, after I was done it didn't even really look like I was wearing make up which is the effect I was going for most days. I'm not sure how to best help your girlfriend lose weight a lot of mine was from medical reasons, but I have also cut down in portions and drink soda a lot more rarely now, I was 218 this morning.

A surprising amount of passing is posing and how you act and the sort of feeling you tend to emanate.

And if you need a diet to go try mine... But don't actually... 90-100sh (at most) pounds prob not healthy even for an almost 14 year old

What was your diet out of curiosity?

Quote from: KittyKat on January 06, 2015, 02:42:03 AM
What was your diet out of curiosity?

I sort of meant that much as a joke, I don't strictly have a diet, it's more so I get so wrapped up in things that I forget to eat. And when I do eat, I have small meals cus I usually don't feel like eating much. Also I probably live off milk. Like 6 glasses a day. It's madness.

^ ditto this
When I'm particularly stressed dysphoric I need to surround myself with delicious food else I just don't eat, I don't mean to i just don't